What Do I do?

[reeshy]

I have been divorced from my wife for 7 weeks now and seperated for 2 years. In all that time, we have communicated through the lawyers about this and that.

I have recently retired from my job and today was my birthday. My kids were supposed to take me out for the day and my ex-wife came along for the ride. To make a long story short, we talked and she said that the main reasion that we parted was my job. She said that I was married to my job more than her and she couldn't take it any longer-hence, divorce.

Now she tells me that she still loves and wants to work things out since I no longer do what I did for a living. I still have strong feelings for her but I am cxonfused as hell! What the hell do I do now?

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[Poison Ivy]

Just take things slow....talk to your lawyer and see if you can put the divorce proceedings on hold for now and see what happens. Your lawyer should be able to tell you what your options are legally. As for working it out don't expect too much or rush into anything.....and good luck!

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[Zipgun]

First of all, happy birthday.

Secondly...If it was your job that was the problem in your relationship, and that's out of the picture now, I say you give it another chance.

You love her, she loves you. And the complication previously is no longer there. I'm not saying it'll be easy by any means, but I'd say it's worth the try. Sure, it's good for the kids, but keep in mind, it's probably good for you and her as well.

Just take it slow.

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This message was edited by skidmark on 1-7-02 @ 12:25 AM

[Fat Guy]

I don't think you should be seeking advice from a board who's members are so young. IMO

Me no like AL.
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[reeshy]

Love you Fat Guy

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[CruelCircus]

Well, I'm gonna open by saying that Reeshy, you're a great guy and you should be happy no matter what the outcome is.
I just wonder, why ove rthose 2 years she didn't ever express the job thing to you. It's not an outrageous reason to have problems. Why reveal it only now?
On the other hand, it could be a great opportunity and I'm just Mr. Pessimism Guy.
Good luck to you!


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[reeshy]

CC,
Because I had accepted the outcome of the courts and nnow she springs this on me today-I'm Soooooo confused!!

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[CruelCircus]

No, I agree.
You have every right to be confused. The timing is peculiar, didn't she know you were going to retire at some point?
I wasn't saying you shouldn't be confused. But it very well could be a great opportunity- I don't want to rain on that possibility, either.


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