Thank You notes

[MacVittie]

A close friend of mine and his chick let me stay at there place for a couple of days while I was on spring break and looking at grad school. They picked up the tab when we went out to dinner, paid for drinks, the whole things. Fantastic hosts. I was going to write them a thank-you note, but then realized, it would be much easier and much free-er to send a text, IM, facebook message, etc. That's the way most people our age communicate, and a thank you note seems like something you only send to your grandma and your aunt rita. Does it mean just as much to express gratitude electronically or is a hand written letter really convey more thought and sentiment? Is a thanks necessary at all, or is it just understood since we've been close friends since middle school?

[mikeyboy]

I wish Melly still posted here. She would know.

[cougarjake13]

i would say a well written thank you email is just fine

[KatPw]

I'm sure in this day and age an e-mail thanking them would be acceptable. But a handwritten note shows class. If you take the time to write a handwritten note to someone it shows that person that their kind gesture really meant something to you.

[SatCam]

I would say mail it. It's nice to get mail that's not a bill once and a while

[Dude!]

there was already a thread about this
not too long ago

the well-mannered people said write a handwritten letter/note
the trailer trash said send an email

take your pick

[WhistlePig]

I'd send them a small gift, like a bouquet or a box of chocolates or whatever. I always do this when someone has been a great host, and the thank you note is included on a card with the gift if you order something online and have it mailed directly to them.

[disneyspy]

I wish Melly still posted here. She would know.

yes! i knew if i stuck around long enuf i'd get one of these kinda posts,she was nice to me

[MacVittie]

I'd send them a small gift, like a bouquet or a box of chocolates or whatever. I always do this when someone has been a great host, and the thank you note is included on a card with the gift if you order something online and have it mailed directly to them.

I thought about doing that, but I figure I payed it forward by showing up with a case of beer. I still feel like they went above and beyond to accommodate, not letting me pay for anything and cooking for me, so I wanted a little extra. I kinda don't want to go into overkill with gifts and cards and whatnot.

[epo]

Always show class and hand write them a thank you note.

And yes, there is a thread about this already.

[Ritalin]

Always a handwritten note.

[topless_mike]

the hand written thank you would really kick ass... be sure to include a picture of you with a pair of his chick's panties on your head.

[Don Stugots]

the hand written thank you would really kick ass... be sure to include a picture of you with a pair of his chick's panties on your head.

thank you, that will be happening next week.

[Jujubees2]

We have our kids write thank you notes for all Christmas and birthday presents.

[drjoek]

We have our kids write thank you notes for all Christmas and birthday presents.

Same here, it teaches kids about being appreciative of things they get and not to assume they're entitled. Recipients of notes are always pleased from the feedback we get.

[Misteriosa]

ALWAYS send a hand written note.

how is this even a question? :huh:

[Thebazile78]

Same here, it teaches kids about being appreciative of things they get and not to assume they're entitled. Recipients of notes are always pleased from the feedback we get.

It just plain feels good to get a handwritten "thank you" note.

Younger folks just don't expect them, so it's a nice gesture. Plus, it really doesn't cost you all that much ... you can get a pack of 10 blank notecards at Target or the grocery store for about $1 and a stamp is $0.47 (or whatever) ... so, if you go this route, you're spending maybe around $0.50 and 5 minutes of your time? Totally worth it, plus it looks like you made a bigger effort than you actually did. The only drawback is you'll probably want a glue-stick to seal the envelopes because often they leave out the glue. (But, seriously, a glue-stick is inexpensive, too. Sum total expenditure for notes & glue should be around $2.50.)

Also, I have a general rule ... if someone takes the time to send me a physical gift or host me in their home, I like to follow up with a hand-written (mailed) thank you note. This is kind of residual from being proclaimed a clod by my dad's ex-gf after my wedding when I was waiting on Matty to decide what he wanted to do about 'thank you' notes (he had a grand plan that would've cost us a bunch of money, while I was getting rather strong hints from various relations that they hadn't received 'thank you' notes; rather than fight about it, we went to Target for the cheapie notes and nobody knew the difference.)

[Caseyelan]

Just wanted to put my 2 cents in here.


WRITE THE NOTE.... AND THEN FOLLOW UP TO MAKE SURE THEY GOT THE NOTE. THEN GO TO A RADIO SHOW AND SAY THANKS ON AIR. THEN THANK THEM ON A HUGE POST ON EVERY MESSAGEBOARD THEY WOULD EVER GO TO. THEN THANK THEM VIA EMAIL, THEN PHONE.




It's only fair.



Oh, by the way.... when people send me a thank you note. I feel bad they wasted a stamp.

[nate1000]

Just wanted to put my 2 cents in here.


WRITE THE NOTE.... AND THEN FOLLOW UP TO MAKE SURE THEY GOT THE NOTE. THEN GO TO A RADIO SHOW AND SAY THANKS ON AIR. THEN THANK THEM ON A HUGE POST ON EVERY MESSAGEBOARD THEY WOULD EVER GO TO. THEN THANK THEM VIA EMAIL, THEN PHONE.




It's only fair.



Oh, by the way.... when people send me a thank you note. I feel bad they wasted a stamp.


you should prolly fire one off from Stanley, since he'll be using it soon. Head it off at the pass.

[topless_mike]

i grew up having to write these stupid fucking notes.
some of my family would even send "your welcome" notes.
:wallbash:

now that i have kid(s), im going to leave it up to them. they can either show their apprectiation by a big thank you in person, or they can choose to write a ty note. it will be up to them.

her family doesnt do cards, let alone thank yous. the whole concept was new to my wife, and im glad she thinks is crazy as well.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

Always a handwritten note.


theres your answer , next subject

[Thebazile78]

i grew up having to write these stupid fucking notes.
some of my family would even send "your welcome" notes.
:wallbash:

now that i have kid(s), im going to leave it up to them. they can either show their apprectiation by a big thank you in person, or they can choose to write a ty note. it will be up to them.

her family doesnt do cards, let alone thank yous. the whole concept was new to my wife, and im glad she thinks is crazy as well.

The "You're Welcome" note is overkill and definitely dopey. I think your family tried too hard with those.

Kids ought to learn that expressing thanks, even when they didn't get exactly what they wanted, is a genteel skill that everyone should have. Having received "thank you" notes from my younger cousins (the eldest is 16 years younger than me) knowing that they were probably told to send them didn't take away from my delight in reading the carefully printed (or proudly "written-in-script") notes they sent to me thanking me for random boxes of gifts I'd sent or a visit I'd made.

Because of all the "thank you" notes I had to write as a kid, writing the "thank you" notes for my bridal shower gifts was a breeze ... and many of my mother-in-law's friends commented at how lovely and personal each of their notes was, even though I said (and meant) "thank you" at the shower in-person. I'd registered for a lot of high-end, high-quality items and wanted the givers to know how grateful I was for the gift and their presence at the shower. (Even in the business world, a follow-up "thank you" note can be the last selling point an interviewee might have to get the job because so few people send them!)

As for Lavi's family, well, Europeans are different. They don't tend to do a lot of things that we do here (i.e. - Christmas & birthday cards) but they have different traditions. Also, I've been told by European friends that a lot of Europe sees cards and things like that as wasteful. (And, yeah, it pretty much is, but a lot of people get pissed off if you don't send out that freaking note. I still have writers' cramp from my wedding, yet my cousin and his wife haven't sent t.y. notes to ANYONE for either the shower or wedding gifts, so a lot of family members are miffed about that.)

[Ritalin]

Always a handwritten note.

theres your answer , next subject

Nice to see KHB and I agree.

People who don't send thank you notes are animals and really fucking lazy. At least an email or text recognizes that someone did something nice for you and expresses appreciation, but even that comes off really half assed.

Why is it such a big deal to sit down and write a nice thank you and send it off?

Here's what I do - consider it a helpful hint from Ritalin: I go to the museum and get a box of cards with an artist I like. Right now I've got some great Rothko cards from MOMA. Then I have the cards around and when I need to I take a couple of minutes, say thanks and drop it in the mail.

How hard can that be? I just think that's the way people should act towards each other.

[topless_mike]

consider it a helpful hint from Ritalin

Snoogans already has that market cornered.

[topless_mike]

The "You're Welcome" note is overkill and definitely dopey. I think your family tried too hard with those.

Kids ought to learn that expressing thanks, even when they didn't get exactly what they wanted, is a genteel skill that everyone should have. Having received "thank you" notes from my younger cousins (the eldest is 16 years younger than me) knowing that they were probably told to send them didn't take away from my delight in reading the carefully printed (or proudly "written-in-script") notes they sent to me thanking me for random boxes of gifts I'd sent or a visit I'd made.

Because of all the "thank you" notes I had to write as a kid, writing the "thank you" notes for my bridal shower gifts was a breeze ... and many of my mother-in-law's friends commented at how lovely and personal each of their notes was, even though I said (and meant) "thank you" at the shower in-person. I'd registered for a lot of high-end, high-quality items and wanted the givers to know how grateful I was for the gift and their presence at the shower. (Even in the business world, a follow-up "thank you" note can be the last selling point an interviewee might have to get the job because so few people send them!)

As for Lavi's family, well, Europeans are different. They don't tend to do a lot of things that we do here (i.e. - Christmas & birthday cards) but they have different traditions. Also, I've been told by European friends that a lot of Europe sees cards and things like that as wasteful. (And, yeah, it pretty much is, but a lot of people get pissed off if you don't send out that freaking note. I still have writers' cramp from my wedding, yet my cousin and his wife haven't sent t.y. notes to ANYONE for either the shower or wedding gifts, so a lot of family members are miffed about that.)

It definately is different. Although she's been here since she was 9, there are concepts that are still new to her, some of which she doesnt quite understand.

Dont get me wrong. I can still sit down and write a good thank you note, but I prefer to show my appreciation in person.

[sr71blackbird]

I have a fear that someday it will become a practice to send a Your Welcome card, and then someone will invent a Don't Mention It card.

[Thebazile78]

It definately is different. Although she's been here since she was 9, there are concepts that are still new to her, some of which she doesnt quite understand.

Dont get me wrong. I can still sit down and write a good thank you note, but I prefer to show my appreciation in person.

I do, too, but sometimes that little bit extra makes someone's day.