just sperated...

[ecobag2]

just seperated from my wife... this is the worst experience of my life... trying to see the bright side. In NB, New Jersey for four days... then. ?? Hopefully all works out.:wallbash:

[drusilla]

hopefully you're doing what you feel is best for you.

any kids?

[TooLowBrow]

sorry

[west milly Tom]

Bummer budday, was there infidelity at play?

[WampusCrandle]

im sorry to hear that ... i hope it goes as smoothly as possible. and if you have kids, i hope they get through it one piece.

[drjoek]

Real sorry to hear that :glurps:

[earthbrown]

There is always a bright side. dont fight it, if she feels this way, you cant change it, don't dwell on it.

the stupid words of Brother Wease, "If you get the boot, substitute. If you lose your lover, find another."


K

[Dude!]

here is what i say
when i need to be cheered up:

Please help me have a more positive outlook for the future
so that I may see a more positive reality with my own eyes.
May I use this outlook to do a few more things
that will see us to a better tomorrow.

[dino_electropolis]

Hey, 4 days in New Brunswick, NJ.....shit, Thursday nite is ripe with drunk and loose Rutgers girls. I know, i spent 5 years there.


This may be the first day of the rest of your life.

[Dougie Brootal]

sucks dude. sorry to hear. just know you got your buddays to lean on.

[Friday]

i am sending positive thoughts your way.... hope this is not too painful for too long.
i can't imagine how you must be feeling right now.
:down:

[Gvac]

I'm wishing nothing but the best for you, brother. Hang tough.

[KC2OSO]

I hope things work out for you...if that's what you want...
If it's any consolation, I was separated from my wife for three years. Yep three. We got back together though. Things can be worked out.
NB is my area if you wanna grab a cuppa Joe someplace. Hang in man.

[Caseyelan]

Good luck buddy. I can't imagine. :(

[~Katja~]

Sorry Bill, I do hope it works out for you guys and the baby roo!
Whatever the reason for the separation is; I got a sense that you guys have a seemingly open marriage that gave both of you freedoms to be who you are... so I hope things can be talked about and you get back on track. If not then I wish you guys best of luck and I hope you can stay as civil as possible for your son's sake. It's not always easy, but kids can be happy even when their parents are separated.

[cougarjake13]

sorry to hear budday

[ecobag2]

Thanks for the support all. It's tough but hopefully reason and sanity will prevail in the end.

[Crispy123]

Hey budday, I went through this last year. The first 6 months were hell. All the advice I got and the truth is that the only thing you can do is work on yourself. Try to improve anything you can about you. You cant control your wife, the "limbo" of seperation sucks ass but if you work on you maybe your chick will notice and if not youre a better person and someone else will notice.

Keep strong, things will get better. I recommend talking to a councelor and read the book Divorce Busting by Michelle Weiner-Davis. It has excellent insight into situations leading up to seperation and the mindset of the people involved. She also has a website with a forum. (http://www.divorcebusting.com/)

[CYYYFYYY]

Sorry to hear. Good Luck.

[jessicaduh]

so sorry, eco. best wishes on getting through this.

[Death Metal Moe]

Very sorry Ecobag3. Only thing I would say is if one or both of you felt it was over, it's best not to stay in that relationship and fake it. When it hurts less in a little while you will probably look back and see the clean break as a good thing.

Good luck.

[Death Metal Moe]

Did she post here? We can start a flame war if that will make you feel better! :furious:

Just joking.

[FatassTitePants]

I definately agree with working on yourself for a while. I think people who jump from relationship to relationship are seeking acceptence from outside than from within. Pick one or two things you want to improve, set goals, and go get them. Dealing with thoughts of lonliness, uncertainty, rejection, and jealosy are hard but I think necessary if you want to get beyond them and find happiness again...And you will. In the end, you will be a more complete and happy person and you'll find someone to share it with.
Good luck buddy!

[ecobag2]

I definately agree with working on yourself for a while. I think people who jump from relationship to relationship are seeking acceptence from outside than from within. Pick one or two things you want to improve, set goals, and go get them. Dealing with thoughts of lonliness, uncertainty, rejection, and jealosy are hard but I think necessary if you want to get beyond them and find happiness again...And you will. In the end, you will be a more complete and happy person and you'll find someone to share it with.
Good luck buddy!

first off fatass... it's budday.

second... thanks. Good advice.

Third... when Mighty Horse Rocks - he rocks a fat ass.

[Sheila]

can't beat the advice of Fatass and Crispy123.. (that sounds awful out of context)
Hang in there!