On Being A Socialite

[Scanty]

I've been meaning to call in and ask Ronnie B.

What do you think has more of an impact on helping you become the best socialite you can be? By socialite I mean; that you are the person with the quick wit to spare. That at parties people say this about you, "This party would be so much better if [insert your name] was here". That when you speak, people tend to gather around you, with an interested look in their eyes. That the sight of you, or the mention of your name, gives those who know you a sense of delight.

I mean socialite in the sense that you make the big bucks, you have a very hot significant other, your popularity just keeps steadily skyrocketing, and all of this is not because of how much schooling you've had and the importance that's given you, or of how incredibly drop dead gorgeous people perceive you to be, it's all because of YOUR personality. Personality, the one thing we all have (whether you like to admit it or not,) and get a good shot at molding, each and every single day, into our very own version of a so called "masterpiece".

I made a poll.

[Farmer Dave]

Sorry, I tried to read the whole thing twice and got bored. Whats the question?

[Scanty]

Sorry, I tried to read the whole thing twice and got bored. Whats the question?

It's so short. It's two paragraphs. I know what choice is not yours.

[WampusCrandle]

i already made a post, but you deleted it for some reason - but i'll make this one short.

to be a socialite, it takes years.

well, i think you are merging multiple terms together. those that are associated with the high society/ high culture would be socialites; they have gala events at the MET, where they drop 5000 for a small dinner to support finding a disease for blood abnormalities in female pandas without thinking twice; can merge into discussions of art, cuisine, travel, lectures, regatta and polo players with a nonchalant attitude, as if almost boring. They have a good education, but may not be able to apply it to terms in current culture (such as talking of art of Salvador Dali and being unable to talk of graffiti art in the same terms). socialites have knowledge of their metropolitan surroundings, if it affects them in some way.

socialites don't really make money, their money makes money. socialites are old money that can't stop making money. most socialites don't work a day in their life, and their education is a safety if there money is gone.

socialites don't have deep conversations in pubilc - it is not prudent. they have short discussions in which no feathers could possibly be ruffled. you speak of other socialite events/ parties that you have been too (recent polo match, new artist being introduced at MOMA, charity work - aka money given to the poor, trip to their friends Bahamas home for relaxation). They all know each other.

if you meet a socialite at an event, they will act polite, smile, and treat you with respect. Once you are gone, and the night is over, they probably wont do it again, and you probably wonder why you aren't getting back into those events and spheres of culture

the socialites of yesteryear are still around, but are disappearing. the socialites of today are the nouveau riche with out style, grace, or ability to hold their tongue - they say anything to be shocking, individualistic, and well known to others.

[Scanty]

... are you specifically talking about personality alone that would make you a good socialite?

Personality only. I shinned a spotlight on Ron for a reason, as an example. I meant a likeable socialite, a mover and a shaker. I don't mean that you are hoiti toiti born into entitlement, or that you are an annoying irrelevant celebrity. I'm talking about something that anyone can build from the ground up.

You have a perfect definition there, but let me separate the word then, social elite.
With what other word(s) would you describe a person such as Ron?

[WampusCrandle]

Personality only. I shinned a spotlight on Ron for a reason. I meant a likeable socialite, a mover and a shaker.
I don't mean that you are hoiti toiti born into entitlement, or that you are an annoying irrelevant celebrity. I'm talking about something that anyone can build from the ground up.

You have a perfect definition there, but let me separate the word then, social elite.
With what other word(s) would you describe a person such as Ron?

a socialite, mover, and shaker don't mix well together - and sorry to say, but Ron is not a socialite. socialites are the hoiti toiti.

if anything, Ron is part of the omnivore culture that is growing in America. he takes from bits and pieces of a widespread range of different cultures and turns it into his own.

socialites aren't built from the ground up.

social elite, it's almost the same thing, but a bit more broad. to be the social elite has more to do with other spectrums of a person that their personality and character (money -wealth and income, education, lineage, heritage, manners).

personality, yeah, ron has a great, interesting personality, and it shows if you ever meet him in person. would he qualify as the social elite, socialite to ham and eggers - yes. to those that are in high society, he is not even a blip on the radar.

[Scanty]

social elite, it's almost the same thing, but a bit more broad. to be the social elite has more to do with other spectrums of a person that their personality and character (money -wealth and income, education, lineage, heritage, manners).

personality, yeah, ron has a great, interesting personality, and it shows if you ever meet him in person. would he qualify as the social elite, socialite to ham and eggers - yes. to those that are in high society, he is not even a blip on the radar.

It might be wrong in your eyes, but to me socialite, or social elite, also means being exceptional in social situations, for real, not pretend. A great personality is all you need to do that. I described my definition above in detail.

[JohnGacysCrawlSpace]

Whats the question?

Nature vs. Nurture. Who you got?

[WampusCrandle]

It might be wrong in your eyes, but to me socialite, or social elite, also means being exceptional in social situations, for real, not pretend. A great personality is all you need to do that. I described my definition above in detail.

well, what you described has nothing to do with being a socialite or being socially elite. what you did was take a word and gave it a different definition. being in a social situation has nothing to do with your ranking in the economic ladder in America. everyone is in a social situation everyday. a great personality is a part of it, but not the entire thing. more is needed. if the social elite based everything on personality, then people like the kennedys would not be considered the social elite.

[cougarjake13]

for me its a combo of watching tv movies listening to radio reading books and newspapers and observing everyday life and the people in it

[WampusCrandle]

for me its a combo of watching tv movies listening to radio reading books and newspapers and observing everyday life and the people in it

i would consider that being more up on popular/ current culture and not being part of the social elite.

[Tall_James]

What makes a good socialite?

Not wearing panties at their debutante ball.

[Drunky McBetidont]

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[Scanty]

well, what you described has nothing to do with being a socialite or being socially elite. what you did was take a word and gave it a different definition. being in a social situation has nothing to do with your ranking in the economic ladder in America. everyone is in a social situation everyday. a great personality is a part of it, but not the entire thing. more is needed. if the social elite based everything on personality, then people like the kennedys would not be considered the social elite.

Forget about my definition, and the word socialite then. What has affected the growth of your personality more strongly? Physical looks aside (I can see that you're cute.)
Or, what is your preferred way to affect it's growth?

[DolaMight]

Which is a more effective approach to shaping who you are?

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[DolaMight]

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Under National Geographic law this doesn't classify as NSFW and I think she's pretty hot for a native, no droopage. You can use it as your desktop wallpaper at work.
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[Scanty]

this has nothing to do with said topic but I came across it when googling african neck rings. Under National Geographic law this doesn't classify as NSFW and I think she's pretty hot for a native, no droopage. You can use it as your desktop wallpaper at work.


I like to use pictures of women nursing their babies instead.

[Farmer Dave]

this has nothing to do with said topic but I came across it when googling african neck rings

Under National Geographic law this doesn't classify as NSFW and I think she's pretty hot for a native, no droopage. You can use it as your desktop wallpaper at work.
http://www.african-tribes.org/african-neck-stretching.jpg

Why doesn't she have eye brows?

[britneypablo]

<font color="deeppink"> Nipples :)

[Drunky McBetidont]

this has nothing to do with said topic but I came across it when googling african neck rings

Under National Geographic law this doesn't classify as NSFW and I think she's pretty hot for a native, no droopage. You can use it as your desktop wallpaper at work.
http://www.african-tribes.org/african-neck-stretching.jpg

man boobs :wink:

[Ritalin]

Well, right off the bat, you're gonna have to move off of Staten Island.

I'm not kidding.

[epo]

i would consider that being more up on popular/ current culture and not being part of the social elite.

A commoner such as yourself would understand nothing of the social elite.

[weekapaugjz]

if your name isn't already in this, good luck.

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[Recyclerz]

...With what other word(s) would you describe a person such as Ron?

Raconteur; voluptuary; rationalist; mensch.

Oh yeah, and one funny motherfucker.

[Drunky McBetidont]

if your name isn't already in this, good luck.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/46/155660630_5439060c9f.jpg?v=0

i am also indexed to the max. i rock the d sippers

[WampusCrandle]

Forget about my definition, and the word socialite then. What has affected the growth of your personality more strongly? Physical looks aside (I can see that you're cute.)
Or, what is your preferred way to affect it's growth?

through manners, discipline, and the observance of dominant/ subserviant relationship. i feel it sets up a base for which to build off from.

[TooLowBrow]

wanna be a socialite?



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[Scanty]

Well, right off the bat, you're gonna have to move off of Staten Island.

I'm not kidding.

That's the third whack that I've taken because of living in Staten Island. I could probably drive to where most of you are living within a matter of twenty to thirty minutes. We live in the suburbs. If you were living it up big in Manhattan then you'd have a point.

[Ritalin]

That's the third whack that I've taken because of living in Staten Island. I could probably drive to where most of you are living within a matter of twenty to thirty minutes. We live in the suburbs. If you were living it up big in Manhattan then you'd have a point.

Right, I'm living in Queens and I'm still saying move.

[boosterp]

Socialite will also vary on geography. What may be the "thing" around your neck of the woods would not be the "thing" in mine. And So. Cal. may have an entirely different "thing."

Kept it simple, this topic was hurting my brain from a sociological standpoint.

[WampusCrandle]

A commoner such as yourself would understand nothing of the social elite.

you're less than me, in every sense of it. you pauper - you disgust me.

That's the third whack that I've taken because of living in Staten Island. I could probably drive to where most of you are living within a matter of twenty to thirty minutes. We live in the suburbs. If you were living it up big in Manhattan then you'd have a point.

Socialite will also vary on geography. What may be the "thing" around your neck of the woods would not be the "thing" in mine. And So. Cal. may have an entirely different "thing."

Kept it simple, this topic was hurting my brain from a sociological standpoint.

yeah, he merged two ideas, but want people to stick to how a personality/ character of a person grows. i obviously got confused myself.

geography is a major socialite piece of the puzzle. boy, you know your sociology boosterp.

[epo]

you're less than me, in every sense of it. you pauper - you disgust me.

I like your attitude kid, although its obviously misdirected.

[Scanty]

Right, I'm living in Queens and I'm still saying move.

Our houses are bigger than yours. We have more room to build. We have backyards. Meanwhile, you are over there living shoulder to shoulder, and on top of each other, like animals.

[Ritalin]

Our houses are bigger than yours. We have more room to build. We have backyards. Meanwhile, you are over there living shoulder to shoulder, and on top of each other, like animals.

A true socialite doesn't mind brushing shoulders with interesting people; he finds it stimulating and uses his experiences for entertaining cocktail conversation. He certainly wouldn't call other people animals. In fact, I would go so far to say that a true urbanite would find a pattern of speech that didn't so closely resemble a radio show host's.

Being a sought after socialite means being interesting, not having a backyard.

So why don't you float back to Staten Island and get your shine box.

[Scanty]

A true socialite doesn't mind brushing shoulders with interesting people; he finds it stimulating and uses his experiences for entertaining cocktail conversation. He certainly wouldn't call other people animals. In fact, I would go so far to say that a true urbanite would find a pattern of speech that didn't so closely resemble a radio show host's.

Being a sought after socialite means being interesting, not having a backyard.

So why don't you float back to Staten Island and get your shine box.

Let me rephrase that, for humor's sake, and for the sake of plagiarism everywhere.

Here we are enjoying ourselves inside larger houses, building wooden decks and deep swimming pools on our gardened backyards, waiting for summer's BBQ parties. In the mean time--there's you living life arm in arm, belly to belly, and ass to ass, on one another, alike very dirty dirty animals.

[Ritalin]

Let me rephrase that, for humor's sake, and for the sake of plagiarism everywhere.

Here we are enjoying ourselves inside larger houses, building wooden decks and deep swimming pools on our gardened backyards, waiting for summer's BBQ parties. In the mean time--there's you living life arm in arm, belly to belly, and ass to ass, on one another, alike very dirty dirty animals.

Ass to ass?

I wish!

[WampusCrandle]

Scanty, i think you may like this thread. (http://ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=79267)

[boosterp]

Let me rephrase that, for humor's sake, and for the sake of plagiarism everywhere.

Here we are enjoying ourselves inside larger houses, building wooden decks and deep swimming pools on our gardened backyards, waiting for summer's BBQ parties. In the mean time--there's you living life arm in arm, belly to belly, and ass to ass, on one another, alike very dirty dirty animals.

:lol:

The voice in my head read this like a slow reading from Ricardo Montobon.

[Scanty]

Scanty, i think you may like this thread. (http://ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=79267)

I'll read it, but my thread should have nothing to do with money. According to what I'm saying, if any sort of good fortune should happen to come your way, then it is all because of being such a likable person.

Socialite will also vary on geography. What may be the "thing" around your neck of the woods would not be the "thing" in mine. And So. Cal. may have an entirely different "thing."

Kept it simple, this topic was hurting my brain from a sociological standpoint.

From the stand point of a regular individual's social life it might be your thing. I have been saying that there are things that people do in their personal time which later help their personalities shine. Kind of like exercising, but for the mind, or the overall being. Some are more successful than others, and I wanted to find out what each of you believed to be the most helpful way to grow personally. Sometimes, I have trouble getting straight to the point.

Of these, I believe one of the easiest, and best ways, is to read. People who read a lot seem to have some of the best imaginations. The other day when discussing Fez's hatred for reading, Ron said something like; I love to read. I couldn't imagine my life without books. Nothing to me seems to be more downloaded into your brain than reading a book.

I think that reading out loud to yourself helps you to retain more of the content of what is in these books, as silly as that is. You get to see the words, you get to hear the words, and you get to express the words. It's a trifecta, that helps to embed all that information in your head even better.

[WampusCrandle]

I'll read it, but my thread should have nothing to do with money. According to what I'm saying, if any sort of good fortune should happen to come your way, then it is all because of being such a likable person.

well, that rarely ever happens.

[Recyclerz]

I'll read it, but my thread should have nothing to do with money. According to what I'm saying, if any sort of good fortune should happen to come your way, then it is all because of being such a likable person.



well, that rarely ever happens.

Waddaya talking about Wampus? I knew this guy, Willy Loman, and he was well liked and everything turned out great for him!








Wait, ...what?

[Scanty]

well, that rarely ever happens.

Anthony Cummia.
Adam Carolla.

Besides that, I've met people in my personal life that are so likable, that others will have no problem going out of their way to do favors for them. Everyone wants them on their friends list. Everyone wants to invite them everywhere.

[WampusCrandle]

Anthony Cummia.
Adam Carolla.

Besides that, I've met people in my personal life that are so likable, that others will have no problem going out of their way to do favors for them. Everyone wants them on their friends list. Everyone wants to invite them everywhere.

well, out of the millions, you found anthony and adam carolla.

i think i'm still a bit stuck on you putting in the term socialite, even though you say it has nothing to do with what you are talking about. :happy: