Punching walls

[Charlie_Don't_Surf]

Today, my mother & I got into a bit of an argumeny because I punched a door and cracked it. I am trying to explain to her that it has nothing to do with her but I think it is impossible for a woman to accept that a man can have a reaction that has nothing to do with them. So I ask how many of you hit stuff when you have a quick flash of anger?

Also, if you are female or male and the reactions of those around you would interest me, because I don't think what I do every now and then is abnormal.

I would also appreciate if one of the higher ups could throw in a yes/no poll to the question "Do you hit things or experience bursts of anger?"

Thanks.

[ToiletCrusher]

I shot a man in Reno.

[STC-Dub]

I have not hit anything in anger for years.

[red_red_red]

why would your mom know about this? you told her or you did this in her house?

[Charlie_Don't_Surf]

why would your mom know about this? you told her or you did this in her house?

Her house.

[Kris10]

I don't punch walls, I punch people.

[red_red_red]

Her house.
pay for a new door, apologize, and next time you feel the need to break something, break what you own, and keep it private, no one needs to know about your rage. i'm guessing you are young...

[keithy_19]

Charlie don't surf was my first mod quote. I just thought I'd bring that to the discussion.

[FezsAssistant]

FU, Kevin Brown.

[MC Pee Pants]

I shot a man in Reno.

I thought that was just to watch him die, not a fit of rage. I've punched a number of doors and walls but for god reason. It was either that or her face.

[Charlie_Don't_Surf]

pay for a new door, apologize, and next time you feel the need to break something, break what you own, and keep it private, no one needs to know about your rage. i'm guessing you are young...

Yea I guess you're right I'll probably just pay for it. I didn't do it in front of her though, in fact she wasn't even at home.(thought I would throw that out there) And yeah I'm 19.

[Friday]

no punching walls.
it's a fairly frightening sign of anger issues ... in my opinion.
and i have had a wall punched out right next to me... so maybe i am biased.

but yeah... pay up. and buy a heavy bag. they are a good investment.

[brettmojo]

I punched a hole clean through my bathroom wall after I got home from having all four of my wisdom teeth removed. At least that's what I was told by my fiance the next day because I don't remember doing it.

[Brad_Rush]

During college I talked my roommate into hitting a door while we were drunk. He had to wear a wrist cast for a month. Needless to say that led to many masterbation jokes at his expense.

[razorboy]

I won't say I never did it when I was a young'un, but the machismo tends to cool down when you hit a stud and find your hand shattered to shit. Grow up and find a healthier outlet for your aggression.

[WampusCrandle]

I have experienced bits of anger, but i never take it to a physical level. I take a walk, normally. I won't let myself get to the point of physically getting out of control, like punching walls or pillows or anything. I have found people that do that type of thing keep doing that kind of thing, and the real problems never go away.

[razorboy]

As an addendum to my previous statement, buy a heavy bag or a speed bag.

[A.J.]

Dark Hippie in 4...3...2.....

[TripleSkeet]

Yea I guess you're right I'll probably just pay for it. I didn't do it in front of her though, in fact she wasn't even at home.(thought I would throw that out there) And yeah I'm 19.

If you dont pay for it will she stop doing your laundry and making your racecar bed?

[Charlie_Don't_Surf]

If you dont pay for it will she stop doing your laundry and making your racecar bed?

FYI I've been doing my own laundry and making my own racecar bed since I was 10.

[red_red_red]

Yea I guess you're right I'll probably just pay for it. I didn't do it in front of her though, in fact she wasn't even at home.(thought I would throw that out there) And yeah I'm 19.
pukey teen :smile:

[Misteriosa]

pay for a new door, apologize, and next time you feel the need to break something, break what you own.
this^ what ever anger issue you have, you shouldnt break your moms stuff over it, esp if you claim it has nothing to do with her. she keeps a roof over your head. respect that and dont trash where you live
no punching walls.
pay up. and buy a heavy bag. they are a good investment.

^ this is also a great idea too

[mendyweiss]

I go eat a cupcake instead

[Kublakhan61]

no punching walls.
it's a fairly frightening sign of anger issues ... in my opinion.
and i have had a wall punched out right next to me... so maybe i am biased.


Yeah - I think as a male its important to remember that at your base level you are an animal that, through brute force and poor communication, you have the ability to frighten women.

Work that shit out. There is nothing more uncivilized then a man who cannot control his temper.

[TjM]

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[grlNIN]

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Yay Penny Arcade!!

[RoseBlood]

pay for a new door, apologize, and next time you feel the need to break something, break what you own, and keep it private, no one needs to know about your rage. i'm guessing you are young...

Tell that to Commish13 (http://www.ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=73833)

I've never punched a wall. I'd never condone it, but I guess it's better to punch a wall than a person.

My ex had anger issues and would punch shit.

My brother and his friends put many holes in our parents old house, but that was from drunken parties.

[hammersavage]

My brother and his friends put many holes in our parents old house, but that was from drunken parties.

Was it in the bathroom? Cuz they might have been glory holes.

[ecobag2]

Anger and explosive expression of such has been so taboo for years now. Try not to do that shit or your mom's backup aka the police will have you subjected to corrrrectification.

I don't subscribe, persay, to this type of behaviour but you have the juxtaposition of a biological need in men to do such things, along with conditioning to that end on the playground "nature" and then the entrance of these men into a bizarro society that says these things are to be subdued and wrong.

Now take your pills, keep your mouth shut and do as mommy says. (I'm being a sea fish)

[TripleSkeet]

Im not gonna crticize the kid for punching shit. Ive punched holes in plenty of walls and doors. I think Ive torn the tendons in my thumbs on both hand beating the shit out of my house. But I look at it this way, it was either the wall or a person. I mean sometimes my wife has be so angry its either punch a hole in the wall or in her face. I figure punching the wall IS me showing retraint.

But the difference is the walls and doors I punch are mine. Not my moms. I wouldnt do that to someone else property. I punched a hole in my parents wall once by accident and felt so bad I never even came close again.

[grlNIN]

Physical displays of anger suck.

I get it if you're 9 and you don't get to go over your friend's house and throw your baseball cards around your room but at an older age it starts to reflect some level of mental/emotional incapacity.

[Kublakhan61]

I mean sometimes my wife has me so angry its either punch a hole in the wall or in her face.



I'll never understand this. Lots of guys say things like this.

[red_red_red]

Tell that to Commish13 (http://www.ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=73833)

I've never punched a wall. I'd never condone it, but I guess it's better to punch a wall than a person.

My ex had anger issues and would punch shit.

My brother and his friends put many holes in our parents old house, but that was from drunken parties.
i laughed @ those pixs, such a dramatic answer to a small problem

[CountryBob]

Guilty as charged. I understand completely. I would hit the wall before realizing what I had done. Once in college at VA Tech, my beloved Redskins fucked up yet another game and i went outside the apartment - in the stairway - and punched probably 30 holes as I went down the stairs. After hearing me destroying the place, neighbors must have informed the landlord who did it. He showed up and my roomate answered the door. Tom was 6'8 and about 350 and asked me and the other roomate about the holes. My other roomate was 6'6 and about 300 and I was 6'2 and 280. We all said we had no fucking idea who did it and the dude just looked scared and agreed that it was probably someone else. He left and i was off scott free but that was the last time I ever hit a wall - now I just hit the bottle.

[TripleSkeet]

Physical displays of anger suck.

I get it if you're 9 and you don't get to go over your friend's house and throw your baseball cards around your room but at an older age it starts to reflect some level of mental/emotional incapacity.

I'll never understand this. Lots of guys say things like this.

Its very easy to understand. I would NEVER hit my wife. Ive never hit any female in my life. But she can aggrivate me to the point where I have to hit SOMETHING. Punching the wall is a way to release my anger in a way thats not harmful to her.

Dont get me wrong, Im not stupid enough to punch bricks. Im not trying to break my hands. Sheetrock gives but you can hit it hard enough to release the tension. If I had the room Id hang a heavy bag in my house.

Theres nothing wrong with letting out your emotions. People that get all mad and just sit there and stew, THOSE are the ones I think have the mental incapacity. Its not healthy to bottle up anger like that. I dont see where the harm comes in hitting an inanimate object.

Then again, you guys probably believe in teaching kids that hitting is never right and always go to an adult if you have a problem, where I grew up in the school of thought that if another kid hits you, you hit them back TWICE as hard. This way youre even for him hitting you, and he knows not to do it again.

[RhinoinMN]

My sister recently punched her wall in the moment of anger. She broke her hand. Good for her.

[red_red_red]

i don't sit and stew, i get up and clean the hell out of my house, whether it needs it or not. and i always told my kids to hit back, it was useless advice tho since no one ever hit them.

[Kublakhan61]

Then again, you guys probably believe in teaching kids that hitting is never right and always go to an adult if you have a problem, where I grew up in the school of thought that if another kid hits you, you hit them back TWICE as hard. This way youre even for him hitting you, and he knows not to do it again.

^This is personal and has no place is the discussion - grow up.

I must have made a good choice in my wife. In 6 years I have never found myself in a place of rage/anger regarding her. We are friends working toward the same goals - a partnership. A marriage.

[SatCam]

I get it if you're 9 and you don't get to go over your friend's house and throw your baseball cards around your room.

it's like you had a camera on me when I was 9 except change baseball cards to pokemon cards

[denko]

my father was a wall puncher... i always saw it as a sign of weakness for some reason.

you gotta bottle that shit up! stuff it down deep.

[Drunky McBetidont]

everything sucks, i feel like i cant eat any more shit sandwich, yet i know that is all the menu will offer me. i wish i had been a partial birth.

[boosterp]

Today, my mother & I got into a bit of an argumeny because I punched a door and cracked it. I am trying to explain to her that it has nothing to do with her but I think it is impossible for a woman to accept that a man can have a reaction that has nothing to do with them. So I ask how many of you hit stuff when you have a quick flash of anger?

Also, if you are female or male and the reactions of those around you would interest me, because I don't think what I do every now and then is abnormal.

I would also appreciate if one of the higher ups could throw in a yes/no poll to the question "Do you hit things or experience bursts of anger?"

Thanks.

Yeah - I think as a male its important to remember that at your base level you are an animal that, through brute force and poor communication, you have the ability to frighten women.

Work that shit out. There is nothing more uncivilized then a man who cannot control his temper.

This. It takes a lot for me to get angry, and I can be mean if I do get angry but I don't hit things. I pop a Klonopin, buy a pack of cigs and smoke a few, then I am fine. As a young teen I have a scar on my foot from hitting a toilette with a sledge hammer. A piece fell off and sliced my foot open, I learned my lesson.

[Kublakhan61]

This. It takes a lot for me to get angry, and I can be mean if I do get angry but I don't hit things. I pop a Klonopin, buy a pack of cigs and smoke a few, then I am fine. As a young teen I have a scar on my foot from hitting a toilette with a sledge hammer. A piece fell off and sliced my foot open, I learned my lesson.

LOG IT!

[led37zep]

I punched a few walls/doors/extremely hard siding on my house when I was in my late teens. Looking back I think it was more just a release for a lot of different emotions and stress that I wasn't 100% sure how to handle.

After a while I started going on walks, long drives, etc to calm down...seems to work pretty well. You just need to find the thing that suits you best and go with it.

Usually getting a girlfriend and getting laid seems to help as well. I highly suggest that.

[Enabler]

I had this problem in college. It ended when I drunkenly punched a glass fire extinguisher case. Its pretty humiliating sitting in an ER at 3AM waiting to get stitches. I havent hit anyone or anything in the ten years since.

[TripleSkeet]

^This is personal and has no place is the discussion - grow up.

I must have made a good choice in my wife. In 6 years I have never found myself in a place of rage/anger regarding her. We are friends working toward the same goals - a partnership. A marriage.

Thats great for you. I live in the real world where adults disgaree with each other and actually get mad at each other. Thats why my marriage works. Because no matter how mad we get we dont swallow it or hold grudges. We let our feelings out and let it be done with. An hour later its forgotten.

Some people never get mad. Good for them. Personally it takes alot to set me off, but when I do I rage. So I punch a harmless object and get it out of my system. Works for me. It may not be for everyone, but I dont see anything wrong with it.

[Charlie_Don't_Surf]

Thats great for you. I live in the real world where adults disgaree with each other and actually get mad at each other. Thats why my marriage works. Because no matter how mad we get we dont swallow it or hold grudges. We let our feelings out and let it be done with. An hour later its forgotten.

Some people never get mad. Good for them. Personally it takes alot to set me off, but when I do I rage. So I punch a harmless object and get it out of my system. Works for me. It may not be for everyone, but I dont see anything wrong with it.

Exactly. I don't usually get mad, and it takes alot to get me mad. When I do though, I let it out and it's forgotten within minutes.

Oooh I almost forgot. There seems to be a sense of superiority among those who have never felt this way or have a different outlet. Also my mother has now taken to not talking to me. She is doing what I did; displaying her anger although it's just a different outlet. This sense of superiority seems to similar to what I see in what people here say.

[Kublakhan61]

This sense of superiority seems to similar to what I see in what people here say.

The sense of superiority might not have anything to do with our ability to remain cool ... :)


I live in the real world where adults disagree with each other and actually get mad at each other.

I wonder where I live? The real is subjective, my man.