Shy People Suck?

[CofyCrakCocaine]

I've noticed a lot of animosity towards shy people expressed by some people both online (such as this here messageboard) and in person.

I'm not going to get into the nuts and bolts of the debate, I'll just ask this question of you all.

Do you hate shy people? Do they piss you off? Are shy people douche bags? Why is that?

Just wondering. I posted in this thread so the usual shit-kickers don't derail the thread, thereby assuring this thing gets a cursory glance at most, which is alright.

[Furtherman]

Animosity towards shy people?

Why? I'll take a shy person over an arrogant loudmouth anyday!

[topless_mike]

no, i dont hate shy people.

i think the reason there is so much animosity towards them is that these days, with the internetz, our entire lives are out there for others to see/judge. a shy person doesnt want their lives to be public, so they tend to keep a low profile.
we are also busybodies. its natural to want to know everything you can about other peoples lives.

[Marc with a c]

Why? I'll take a shy person over an arrogant loudmouth anyday!

how do you survive in jersey with that outlook?

[SatCam]

Whenever I am in shy mode I feel like people pay attention to the fact that I'm not interacting with anyone. So I hate that part of me

[NateCantDance]

It's because shy people don't add to the energy level of the group, they leech energy from it. I have a sister that is miserable to talk to because she is so shy. She offers nothing in the conversation voluntarily, you have to draw everything out of her. After a few minutes of trying to socialize with her you find yourself interviewing her, seemingly against her will, and eventually just give up because neither of you seem to be enjoying the interaction.

[JPMNICK]

I vote pee shy in my butt.... oh wait it is not a poll?

[Dude!]

It's because shy people don't add to the energy level of the group, they leech energy from it. I have a sister that is miserable to talk to because she is so shy. She offers nothing in the conversation voluntarily, you have to draw everything out of her. After a few minutes of trying to socialize with her you find yourself interviewing her, seemingly against her will, and eventually just give up because neither of you seem to be enjoying the interaction.

is she coming on
the camping trip?

[NateCantDance]

Not unless you can talk her into it. You calling dibbs?

[Death Metal Moe]

I don't hate shy people but I do have to admit I'm not overly interested in dealing with them. You don't have to be the most outgoing person on the planet but if you're not willing to give and take a little, why did you leave the house at all?

[underdog]

I'm shy. I like me.

[Furtherman]

we are also busybodies. its natural to want to know everything you can about other peoples lives.

I don't think so... Do you really want to know everything about everyone? If it's just someone I know on a casual basis, I don't want to know anything more about their lives.

how do you survive in jersey with that outlook?

Ignore the assholes.

[sailor]

Ignore the assholes.

he repeats...

[Meataball23]

With all things there are levels of shy-ness. If someone doesnt initiate conversation or bounce from group to group at a party, I dont believe that necessarily makes them shy.

If they're just quiet or add nothing to conversations...then yeah they're pretty terrible.

Also I'll second - even as a guy from Jersey - I'll take a shy person over a loudmouth every time. Loudmouths that arent my friends anyway

[boosterp]

I can be shy and I can be boisterous/verbose. It varies on the setting and whether I want to interact or not. I tend to use the varying degrees of interaction to my advantage; shy being my observant side.

[Death Metal Moe]

I can be shy and I can be boisterous/verbose. It varies on the setting and whether I want to interact or not. I tend to use the varying degrees of interaction to my advantage; shy being my observant side.

I'm like that too but I think the post was about people who never come out of their shell either by choice or because they just can't.

[cougarjake13]

shy people dont bother me per se but if im trying to talk to them and theyre being quiet and i cant hear them well that'll bother me

[boosterp]

I'm like that too but I think the post was about people who never come out of their shell either by choice or because they just can't.

In that case I want to put a gun to their head, make them read aloud several of Shakespeare's sonnets on the field of a packed stadium.

Otherwise I just give them very little thought or if they are a relative or friend of a friend I fuck with them.

[Gvac]

I like people who are what they are.

If someone is shy but tries to act the opposite, I immediately brand them a fraud.

Nothing I despise more in the world than a phony.

[Aggie]

Nothing I despise more in the world than a phony.

Even cheese and lobster?

[Gvac]

Even cheese and lobster?

Even cheese and lobster.

One is curdled milk and the other is a sea cockroach. They don't try to pretend to be anything else.

Phonies, however...

Oh could I tell you stories.

[aramg83]

Shy people can sometimes come off as arrogant in their own way, in the sense that they're seemingly not interested in others. Sometimes it's not easy to distinguish between the two.

[Aggie]

Shy people can sometimes come off as arrogant in their own way, in the sense that they're seemingly not interested in others. Sometimes it's not easy to distinguish between the two.

True. My cousin is super shy and when I would bring her places my friends would think she was snobby because she wasn't outgoing. Just a misperception.

[brettmojo]

I like people who are what they are.

If someone is shy but tries to act the opposite, I immediately brand them a fraud.

Nothing I despise more in the world than a phony.
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_XAHTBfiYln4/Ra6v0Semt2I/AAAAAAAAAAM/eEKIgj6XQqo/s400/phoney.jpg

[Andomray]

I come from a loud family...I'm not allowed to be shy. But I don't mind shy people. Someone I know and I are in the same group of friends, and he was painfully shy. I didn't actually speak to him for about a year of hanging out in the same group, then found out he's one of the funnier people I know. Never underestimate the quiet ones.

On the other hand, overly friendly people scare the shit out of me.

[TripleSkeet]

Even cheese and lobster.

One is curdled milk and the other is a sea cockroach. And they are both DELICIOUS.

Phonies, however...

Oh could I tell you stories.

Fixed it.

[lleeder]

I'm self hating, so yes I do hate them.

[Farmer Dave]

It's because shy people don't add to the energy level of the group, they leech energy from it. I have a sister that is miserable to talk to because she is so shy. She offers nothing in the conversation voluntarily, you have to draw everything out of her. After a few minutes of trying to socialize with her you find yourself interviewing her, seemingly against her will, and eventually just give up because neither of you seem to be enjoying the interaction.

Oh boy, don't hate me on first impression. I'm not one to interject myself into a conversation I know nothing about or just start babbling about my everyday life. I like to learn about others, but find my daily shit boring.

[zildjian361]

Oh boy, don't hate me on first impression. I'm not one to interject myself into a conversation I know nothing about or just start babbling about my everyday life. I like to learn about others, but find my daily shit boring.

I HAVE A PERSONALITY COME TO 7-11 NYC ,I" LL SHOW WHAT ONE IS BITCH:smoke::drunk::bye:

[NateCantDance]

Don't get me wrong, im not the life of any party. I can barely hold up MY end of a conversation, don't make me carry yours too.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

I'll give an instance of where I am automatically "shy" for the entire day. I don't get enough sleep. I am cranky, possibly angry, not thinking well, and am liable to emphasize by reflex just how tired I am, thereby indicating I think only in terms of myself to strangers.

I want to spare people the nuisance of my bad broken mood so I keep my trap mostly shut when I'm around people I'm buddy-buddy with, and I avoid the more casual friends altogether on those days. Not because of them or anything, but because I feel I can't on those days be trusted to be a good human being who has anything good or useful to contribute.

And another confession. I don't like meeting people at bars or parties. Too much noise, too crowded, and I can't hear anything somebody's saying to me which is always not awkward when you're talking to somebody for the first time to keep going 'WHAT?' 'I'M SORRY?' etc.

[DolaMight]

"it's what's inside that counts"

Susan Boyle

[Fez4PrezN2008]

I'm pretty introverted. I worry about coming off as aloof sometimes when I talk to people though. I think being "shy" is just "friendly on a small scale" :smile:

[WampusCrandle]

I don't care one way or another.

[zildjian361]

I HAVE A PERSONALITY COME TO 7-11 NYC ,I" LL SHOW WHAT ONE IS BITCH:smoke::drunk::bye:

Farmer Dave sorry i called you bitch, hope to seeya.:tongue: