I'm Hurt

[biggirl]

This last weekend one of my sister-in-laws watched my 2 children while Rhino and I had a weekend away. My son, who is 6 years old, takes pills that make him sick to his stomach if he doesn't eat with them. We informed her of all of this. So Saturday morning, we get the first of many calls from her. She said Burkely was sick and puking all over. We asked her if he ate or has a fever...she said no. So we said no, he isn't sick it is his pills and all of the excitement of being with his cousins and junk food galore.

I talked to my son and he did not want us to come home, he said he was fine. We asked my sister in law if she wanted us to come home...her response "you need to do the right thing". We said call us if he isn't fine by noon. She kept calling us. So finally Rhino called his mom and sent her over there to check on Burkely. He was fine, just like we said. He puked, and was back ready for action after he got food in him. In the end, Rhino's mom took care of both our children.

The part that hurt me is that my sister in law posted on Facebook (of all places) that we were bad parents and should not have been allowed to reproduce.

I feel really hurt. I know I am not a perfect mom, but I really don't think I or Ryan deserved to be called bad parents on a public place in front of all of our friends that do not even know the whole story.

[Tall_James]

Your sister-in-law is a blabbermouth twat.

Never ask her to watch your kids again, she's just looking for a reason to drop a dime on you.

Your mother-in-law sounds aces though.

[Nothing Sound]

Just another example of why I never deal with my family and stay locked up in my house.

Good luck with that drama.

[HBox]

As far as I'm concerned, someone who not only thinks I'm not fit to reproduce but is such an incredible coward that they can't say it to my face is not worth any of my time anymore. I'd never speak to them again. I wouldn't even want to.

[RhinoinMN]

As far as I'm concerned, someone who not only thinks I'm not fit to reproduce but is such an incredible coward that they can't say it to my face is not worth any of my time anymore. I'd never speak to them again. I wouldn't even want to.

Your mod quote says a lot. I agree with you too.

[underdog]

Your mod quote says a lot. I agree with you too.

No one mentioned HOT TEEN SEX.

[Aggie]

That's really low and cold blooded. I don't agree with holding grudges because I think it actually hurts the person holding them more than the one you're holding it against, but it would be hard for me to forgive that any time soon.

[Furtherman]

That's terrible. You should confront her, call her out, and make sure she knows how wrong that was to do to family.

[Crispy123]

Your mod quote says a lot. I agree with you too.

I thought that meant he had a really hot cousin.

BG Not much to do about it. Seems like Rhino should handle it if thats what you guys choose to do since its that side of the family. Also is it possible she could have just been having a bad day/week/month and will eventually realize what an ass she is and feel sorry?

[NateCantDance]

Don't let it bother you Gwen. It's not worth the stress. You know that you're not a horrible mom, so don't let somebody else make you question your confidence.

[WampusCrandle]

that's completely unhelpful to hear from any family member, let alone posting it on facebook like a silly child. you don't need people like that in your life.

[NateCantDance]

That's terrible. You should confront her, call her out, and make sure she knows how wrong that was to do to family.

I might normally agree in a situation like this, but this person happens to thrive off of that kind of reaction. I say diffuse the situation.

[KatPw]

What a cunt. You told her that your son must eat with his medication or else he will get sick. She either didn't listen to your instructions or she is one of those "I know better and it's not a big deal regarding kids and medication" type of people (I've encountered several). Either way she fucked up and instead of dealing with it she chose to be a mean person instead. You and Rhino did nothing wrong; you have obviously dealt with this type of situation before and knew he would be fine. You guys are great parents. Your SIL just seems like a bitch.

[RhinoinMN]

I thought that meant he had a really hot cousin.

BG Not much to do about it. Seems like Rhino should handle it if thats what you guys choose to do since its that side of the family. Also is it possible she could have just been having a bad day/week/month and will eventually realize what an ass she is and feel sorry?

My sister has been working on bad days/weeks/months/years and has never accepted responsibility for any of it. It is always the fault of someone else.

Not worth jumping into that dragons layer.

[paulisded]

You don't put family issues up on Facebook. Period. This is complete bullshit that she took a private tiff and made it public for everybody to see.

I know this puts you in a tough spot, as I'm sure your child loves his cousins. But I'd cut her off immediately.

My only advice is to not further it by fighting on facebook. Tell your mother-in-law what you think in a calm manner, and I guarantee that the sister-in-law will get the message.

[Crispy123]

My sister has been working on bad days/weeks/months/years and has never accepted responsibility for any of it. It is always the fault of someone else.

Not worth jumping into that dragons layer.

Its all that snow you people get. It will drive you insane!


but that sucks, I got a brother like that.

[MisterSmith]

Lair.

If it was my Sister or SIL, I would just cut contact. If they are going to be a jerkoff, then they aren't worth your time.

I have had to do it in my family, and luckily things were eventually resolved. However, you have to be ready to stick to your guns and write the person off entirely for it to work. Some people can't get that extreme, and I can't fault them for it.

[Dude!]

You don't put family issues up on Facebook. Period. This is complete bullshit that she took a private tiff and made it public for everybody to see.

agree

similarly
do you put it on ronfez.net?

[RhinoinMN]

Lair.

If it was my Sister or SIL, I would just cut contact. If they are going to be a jerkoff, then they aren't worth your time.

I have had to do it in my family, and luckily things were eventually resolved. However, you have to be ready to stick to your guns and write the person off entirely for it to work. Some people can't get that extreme, and I can't fault them for it.

I have no problem cutting contact with my sis, but I feel bad for my son and the decreased contact he will get from his cousins. They are innocent.

[RhinoinMN]

agree

similarly
do you put it on ronfez.net?

Nobody here knows who she is nor does she know any of you.

[topless_mike]

kinda fucked up situation.

gwino, you guys did nothing wrong. "you need to do the right thing" means that she had no real desire to watch the kids. somebody knowing that you need some time would have said "no, i got it- dont worry" or "he's fine, but if something goes bad, i'll call mom if i cant get you guys", or something like that.

gwen- don't give it another thought.
rhino- its your sis. its blood. no offense dood, but she really fucked up.

[biggirl]

The part that makes this extremely hard is that I love my sister-in-law. She's irresponsible, but she is a lot of fun when it is just her and I. Ever since there has been kids in the family, there has been major problems.

We've gotten into huge arguments before. I never get an apology, but I do forgive. I will apologize if I am in the wrong too.

I don't know. I guess what really hit hard is saying we shouldn't have been able to "reproduce". We had problems with it in the first place.

I know I should just put this aside and go on with my my life. I just stress way too much when anyone in the family is in a conflict. I like people to be happy.

Thanks for all of the advice and thoughts. I appreciate it. I just have that unsettled feeling, and it won't be gone until everyone is getting along again.

[HBox]

No one mentioned HOT TEEN SEX.

Nobody needs to. We are on the internet. It has invaded every piece of code that makes up the internet.

As far as expanding on what I said previously: If this was a blood relative I would feel differently. Siblings and parents we've lived with our whole life and have done so much for us and us for them that it's worth trying to talk out, even in a situation like this. But I'm not going to put with this kind of shit from some cunt a family member somehow found something worthwhile in. Especially the way this was done. This was even worse than behind your back. At least if that was it the case can be made that she wanted to get something off her back without bothering you about it. It's not much in her favor but its better than this. In this case she didn't have the courage to say it to your face but she definitely wanted you to know she said it since she said it in Facebook and knew you would read it.

It's complete bullshit. Personally the only way I would consider talking to her again is if she would come to me and apologize. Otherwise I would be fine with never dealing with the cunt ever again.

[HBox]

The part that makes this extremely hard is that I love my sister-in-law. She's irresponsible, but she is a lot of fun when it is just her and I. Ever since there has been kids in the family, there has been major problems.

We've gotten into huge arguments before. I never get an apology, but I do forgive. I will apologize if I am in the wrong too.

I don't know. I guess what really hit hard is saying we shouldn't have been able to "reproduce". We had problems with it in the first place.

I know I should just put this aside and go on with my my life. I just stress way too much when anyone in the family is in a conflict. I like people to be happy.

Thanks for all of the advice and thoughts. I appreciate it. I just have that unsettled feeling, and it won't be gone until everyone is getting along again.

It sounds like she was a great friend for a different phase of your life. That phase is gone and you have and will find different friends and different places to find joy. Your children will pick up almost all of that themselves. But all she is doing now is causing you grief. I'd just leave her behind and not further soil whatever you guys used to have.

[RhinoinMN]

http://www.chentastic.com/images/johnny_cash-hurt.jpg

[Gvac]

Give me this twat's phone number.

I'll set her straight.

[biggirl]

Give me this twat's phone number.

I'll set her straight.

she would leave you feeling like your head is spinning. I wouldn't do that to you. You are too nice.

[biggirl]

Damn It!!!!! She is still fucking posting shit on facebook. Now I am not only hurt, but really fucking pissed off.

[Dude!]

Damn It!!!!! She is still fucking posting shit on facebook. Now I am not only hurt, but really fucking pissed off.

how about a link to that page
thanks

[biggirl]

how about a link to that page
thanks

depends...whose side are you on???:dry:

[~Katja~]

how about a link to that page
thanks
Dude stop it! We get it!

wait I should post it like this:


Dude
Stop it!
We get it!


:)




Gwen, just remove her from your FB friends list so you don't have to see it. Or at least hide her. She is not worth it!

[Drunky McBetidont]

i just saw this thread. what a shitty thing to do. posting that stuff on face book is offensive. get yourself a mikeyboy type to send her a scary lawyer letter about defamation and libel and suing and stuff.

[RhinoinMN]

Dude stop it! We get it!

wait I should post it like this:


Dude
Stop it!
We get it!


:)




Gwen, just remove her from your FB friends list so you don't have to see it. Or at least hide her. She is not worth it!


I think it is leaking through mutual friends.

She cut us off already.

[Dude!]

I think it is leaking through mutual friends.

What a surprise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !

Seriously, if she is your sister
can't you get your mom to intercede?

[RhinoinMN]

What a surprise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !

Seriously, if she is your sister
can't you get your mom to intercede?

That would be unfair to her. Why put her through any turmoil?

[biggirl]

What a surprise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !

Seriously, if she is your sister
can't you get your mom to intercede?

that isn't her job. She shouldn't have to always be the middle man. We are all adults, but there are only 2 of the 3 that will act like adults.

[Dude!]

That would be unfair to her. Why put her through any turmoil?

yes, i agree

but it seems to be escalating
and not reflecting well
on her family

she probably would
like to preserve the family
and the family reputation

if not mom, who you got
that your sister respects
that could talk some sense into her?

[RhinoinMN]

yes, i agree

but it seems to be escalating
and not reflecting well
on her family

she probably would
like to preserve the family
and the family reputation

if not mom, who you got
that your sister respects
that could talk some sense into her?

I completely understand your post and agree, but believe me. There is no one that can talk sense into this woman. Not her mother, father, husband, grandparent.

She marches to the beat of her own crazy drum.

Things will escalate. We will keep quiet. I will be stoic. My wife will stay hurt. Xmas will come and they will reconcile without apology.

Nice and dysfunctional.

[Dude!]

I completely understand your post and agree, but believe me. There is no one that can talk sense into this woman. Not her mother, father, husband, grandparent.

She marches to the beat of her own crazy drum.

Things will escalate. We will keep quiet. I will be stoic. My wife will stay hurt. Xmas will come and they will reconcile without apology.

Nice and dysfunctional.

dude, i will say one more thing
and then i'll shut up

you need to find a way to get that shit
off her facebook

that's the kind of stuff that pops up
when you go on a job interview
down the road
TRUST ME on that
it happened to a stupid friend of mine

[~Katja~]

dude, i will say one more thing
and then i'll shut up

you need to find a way to get that shit
off her facebook

that's the kind of stuff that pops up
when you go on a job interview
down the road
TRUST ME on that
it happened to a stupid friend of mine

not if your and her FB is private. Most people keep it that way.

[Dude!]

not if your and her FB is private. Most people keep it that way.

there is private and there is private

nothing on the Internet is private
all you have to do is cut and paste
or save the page
it ain't like a swiss bank account

regardless, no one should be dissing
a family member on the Internet
call me Corleone, but that's what i believe

[TjM]

I completely understand your post and agree, but believe me. There is no one that can talk sense into this woman. Not her mother, father, husband, grandparent.

She marches to the beat of her own crazy drum.

Things will escalate. We will keep quiet. I will be stoic. My wife will stay hurt. Xmas will come and they will reconcile without apology.

Nice and dysfunctional.

:glurps:

That was beautiful

[nate1000]

Things will escalate. We will keep quiet. I will be stoic. My wife will stay hurt. Xmas will come and they will reconcile without apology.

W.
T.
F. ????

There is a time for stoicism and there is a time for a slap in the chops. Guess what time it is now?

Believe me- you need to call your sister and lose your god damned mind on her. Then cease contact until she apologizes. If that ruins Christmas- then it is on her. I am sure your family will understand.

Anything less and you are being a complete doormat.

Shouldn't have been allowed to reproduce.... give me a fucking break. You gotta step up.

[biggestmexi]

me too

[nate1000]

thread killa strikes again

[opie's twisted balls]

tell your sister in-law to stop being such a cunty bitch

[KingModem]

Rhino - Is your sister single, and happen to live in the metro?

[TripleSkeet]

I give you both alot of credit. If that were my sister I wouldve told my wife, "We are driving over there. And if you dont punch her dead in the face, Im going to."

[TripleSkeet]

EDIT*

Im an ass. I didnt even realize this was an old thread. Can we really stop bumping these fucking things???

[biggirl]

EDIT*

Im an ass. I didnt even realize this was an old thread. Can we really stop bumping these fucking things???

yeah, this happened back in august. she's been on better behavior lately. she can drop a bomb pretty quicklike though.

[sr71blackbird]

Your sister in law had no right to do that, on the freaking internet of all places! I am sure her friends list may coincide with hers and she made you look like an ass. If it was me Id give her a public piece of my mind and demand she print a follow up saying she rushed to judgment or whatever. Im sure you went away because you felt you needed to, and I bet she did not give him food with his medicine and thats what caused it, so in the end its her fault. She was probably jealous of you going away or inconvenienced. If your kids behaved, I would think she should not have had a reason to do that. I would insist on a public apology or swear her off your contact circle.

[Penelope]

I think that this woman's behavior is completely unacceptable and disrespectful. If she wanted to update people on her weekend she could have just said something along the lines of it was a really rough weekend babysitting and that she's not going to do any babysitting again in the near future, the end. Unless she's been apologizing nonstop or sending you i'm sorry gifts I wouldn't want anything to do with her. That is not person you can trust. Be careful dealing with her in the future at family functions. I hope you can find a better babysitter. She did a nice thing by babysitting, but you shouldn't have to pay by being slandered in front of your friends and hurt like that. You have every right to feel hurt and pissed off. She sounds like a bitch.