Couples That Publicly Argue

[GregoryJoseph]

Sometimes you'll see couples having a full scale battle in a very public setting - the supermarket, the mall, the park, etc.

Why do they do it?

Are they attention whores?

Are they so incredibly self-absorbed that they think they're the only ones on the planet who matter and care little for everyone else's right to peace and quiet?

Are they incapable of controlling themselves?

[Tenbatsuzen]

Sometimes you'll see couples having a full scale battle in a very public setting - the supermarket, the mall, the park, etc.

Why do they do it?

Are they attention whores?

Are they so incredibly self-absorbed that they think they're the only ones on the planet who matter and care little for everyone else's right to peace and quiet?

Are they incapable of controlling themselves?

If an argument starts, you can't just say "time out" and "let's continue this at home"

[IMSlacker]

If an argument starts, you can't just say "time out" and "let's continue this at home"

Why not?

[sailor]

If an argument starts, you can't just say "time out" and "let's continue this at home"

Why not?

Are they incapable of controlling themselves?

that

[RhinoinMN]

Bob Kelly's goon hand comes in handy during these times.

[RhinoinMN]

My sister and her husband are examples of this.

We were at the Clapton/Winwood concert and while they were playing "Presence of the Lord", they broke into an nasty argument gaining the attention of many people. Very embarrassing.

[GregoryJoseph]

My sister and her husband are examples of this.

We were at the Clapton/Winwood concert and while they were playing "Presence of the Lord", they broke into an nasty argument gaining the attention of many people. Very embarrassing.

Why do you think they did it?

[RhinoinMN]

Why do you think they did it?

It obviously cannot be justified, but they start off harmlessly pushing buttons. Then one of them gets pissed off and voices it. IT SHOULD END THERE, but it never does. Neither one will admit defeat and feels the need to win at all costs.

It comes down to the fact that they are not compatible and should not be with each other. They are living a lie and they view divorce as a loss.

I have tried telling my sister that sometimes when you lose you really win, but she doesn't get it.

[GregoryJoseph]

It obviously cannot be justified, but they start off harmlessly pushing buttons. Then one of them gets pissed off and voices it. IT SHOULD END THERE, but it never does. Neither one will admit defeat and feels the need to win at all costs.

It comes down to the fact that they are not compatible and should not be with each other. They are living a lie and they view divorce as a loss.

I have tried telling my sister that sometimes when you lose you really win, but she doesn't get it.

So you're saying they're incapable of controlling their tempers and themselves?

[Ritalin]

Sometimes you'll see couples having a full scale battle in a very public setting - the supermarket, the mall, the park, etc.

Why do they do it?

Are they attention whores?

Are they so incredibly self-absorbed that they think they're the only ones on the planet who matter and care little for everyone else's right to peace and quiet?

Are they incapable of controlling themselves?

Sounds like somebody needs a girlfriend.

[RhinoinMN]

So you're saying they're incapable of controlling their tempers and themselves?

Exactly. The reason that they are incapable is that they are both very selfish and inconsiderate.

[GregoryJoseph]

Sounds like somebody needs a girlfriend.

Ha!

I was outside sipping some tea and in the courtyard of the complex next to me a couple was having a very loud argument on a peaceful, sunny, gorgeous Sunday morning. That's what made me think of this.

I've had slight arguments begin to bubble up with women I've been with, but I've always glared and said "NOT NOW" through gritted teeth and that was enough to quell it.

I just don't see the need to escalate it into a pubic display.

[RhinoinMN]

So you're saying they're incapable of controlling their tempers and themselves?

Bear with me on this one.

A couple weeks ago was my daughters 2 year birthday party. My sister and her kids showed up without her husband. I was informed that he elected to get drunk with his friends rather than attend. I didn't care cuz if that is his choice I prefer that he stay away.

He showed up later, drunk. My sister was livid. She began attacking him in front of everybody. I pulled her aside and told her not to do this as he was drunk and is in now shape to have a civil argument. Never mind the fact that it was my daughters b-day.

My sister ignored my plea and continued on. He then started screaming "GIVE ME THE FUCKING KEYS I WANT TO GO FUCKING HOME!" He repeated this until his wish was granted. He left before I could tell him to.

We then had a house of frightened toddlers.

They have no filter and are completely unaware of their surroundings when their tempers flare.

[GregoryJoseph]

Bear with me on this one.

A couple weeks ago was my daughters 2 year birthday party. My sister and her kids showed up without her husband. I was informed that he elected to get drunk with his friends rather than attend. I didn't care cuz if that is his choice I prefer that he stay away.

I showed up later, drunk. My sister was livid. She began attacking him in front of everybody. I pulled her aside and told her not to do this as he was drunk and is in now shape to have a civil argument. Never mind the fact that it was my daughters b-day.

My sister ignored my plea and continued on. He then started screaming "GIVE ME THE FUCKING KEYS I WANT TO GO FUCKING HOME!" He repeated this until his wish was granted. He left before I could tell him to.

We then had a house of frightened toddlers.

They have no filter and are completely unaware of their surroundings when their tempers flare.

They both sound incredibly childish and self-absorbed.

I can't stand being around people like that.

They're the ones who block an entire street with their car while they try to figure out where they are, or stop up an aisle in a grocery store because they think they're the only ones on the planet.

It's mind-numbing.

[FrogSlayer]

you guys have it all wrong, it is Foreplay.

[RhinoinMN]

Here is another angle.

Sometimes a couple will argue publicly to show people how crazy the other person is. They may feel that it helps them with future arguments.

[~Katja~]

Ha!

I was outside sipping some tea and in the courtyard of the complex next to me a couple was having a very loud argument on a peaceful, sunny, gorgeous Sunday morning. That's what made me think of this.

I've had slight arguments begin to bubble up with women I've been with, but I've always glared and said "NOT NOW" through gritted teeth and that was enough to quell it.

I just don't see the need to escalate it into a pubic display.
I try not to argue in public, but for example with my son's father... he walks away from me when I try to discuss something important and then starts yelling from his car or further away at me... so I will tell him off, then end it very quickly and go inside.
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[~Katja~]

Here is another angle.

Sometimes a couple will argue publicly to show people how crazy the other person is. They may feel that it helps them with future arguments.
that's exactly it! He has been doing that to me ever since we were separating, it started by him having family over or on the phone and then picking fights with me so they could hear or see me enraged, yet not understand a thing cause they only speak spanish. That's what made me expedite his departure cause I had no need for this behavior and stress in my house and in front of the kid.

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[sailor]

I showed up later, drunk.

paging doctor freud.

[RhinoinMN]

paging doctor freud.

oops

[A.J.]

you guys have it all wrong, it is Foreplay.

Could be.

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[Contra]

Sometimes you'll see couples having a full scale battle in a very public setting - the supermarket, the mall, the park, etc.

Why do they do it?

Are they attention whores?

Are they so incredibly self-absorbed that they think they're the only ones on the planet who matter and care little for everyone else's right to peace and quiet?

Are they incapable of controlling themselves?


You see an annoyance, I see a free show

[GregoryJoseph]

You see an annoyance, I see a free show

I guess I never wanted to be the center of attention so badly that I felt the need to be a "show" for everybody with in earshot.

I also think of others and their rights.

If I really like a song, I don't crank my stereo all the way up so everyone else is forced to hear it.

No matter how amazing it is to me, I fully realize there are others who will think it's awful.

[Enabler]

Sometimes you'll see couples having a full scale battle in a very public setting - the supermarket, the mall, the park, etc.

Why do they do it?

Are they attention whores?

Are they so incredibly self-absorbed that they think they're the only ones on the planet who matter and care little for everyone else's right to peace and quiet?

Are they incapable of controlling themselves?

I think this is it. I recently had a nightmare scenario where these two incredible dickholes were arguing next to me on an airplane. The girl was sobbing and blathering on about her boyfriend flirting, and the boyfriend was rocking in his chair and loudly saying "i wasnt flirting with that bitch. i would never fuck her." Meanwhile Im 3 fucking inches away. I wanted to actually kill them. Thank god it was a red-eye and I was exhausted enough to pass out within 15mins of boarding. But they clearly had no regard for anyone but themselves.

[TripleSkeet]

Im one of these guys. Sortve. I mean, I wont be screaming at the top of my lungs in a public setting, but I will argue with my chick in public. Im sorry, but if were in the middle of a disagreement Im not just gonna stop and let that shit boil in me for 4 hours until I get home.

But like I said, I dont rave like a lunatic in public either. There is a medium, and if me arguing with my wife at a normal deicbal level ruins your beauitful day, well I dont give a shit. Youre just a stranger to me anyway. Why should I care if you dont like it?

[RhinoinMN]

I guess I never wanted to be the center of attention so badly that I felt the need to be a "show" for everybody with in earshot.

I also think of others and their rights.

If I really like a song, I don't crank my stereo all the way up so everyone else is forced to hear it.

No matter how amazing it is to me, I fully realize there are others who will think it's awful.

I don't think that they want to be a show. They just do not have self-control.

I got to watch my neighbor go through his divorce. It was entertaining and sad. Sad because the kids were involved and they could not settle it away from them.

If they didn't have kids it would have been more fun to watch. Stupid people get what they deserve, but the innocent don't.

[JohnCharles]

I hardly ever argue with Ryan in public anymore.

[Suspect Chin]

Im one of these guys. Sortve. I mean, I wont be screaming at the top of my lungs in a public setting, but I will argue with my chick in public. Im sorry, but if were in the middle of a disagreement Im not just gonna stop and let that shit boil in me for 4 hours until I get home.

But like I said, I dont rave like a lunatic in public either. There is a medium, and if me arguing with my wife at a normal deicbal level ruins your beauitful day, well I dont give a shit. Youre just a stranger to me anyway. Why should I care if you dont like it?

Aren't you even a little embarrassed that you cannot control your emotions enough to argue in the privacy of your own home?

[underdog]

I guess I never wanted to be the center of attention so badly that I felt the need to be a "show" for everybody

Your internet persona disagrees with this statement.

[Dude!]

Aren't you even a little embarrassed that you cannot control your emotions enough to argue in the privacy of your own home?

exactly
very selfish, low-class behavior

[Serpico1103]

Im one of these guys. Sortve. I mean, I wont be screaming at the top of my lungs in a public setting, but I will argue with my chick in public. Im sorry, but if were in the middle of a disagreement Im not just gonna stop and let that shit boil in me for 4 hours until I get home.

But like I said, I dont rave like a lunatic in public either. There is a medium, and if me arguing with my wife at a normal deicbal level ruins your beauitful day, well I dont give a shit. Youre just a stranger to me anyway. Why should I care if you dont like it?

So, any behavior, up until breaking the law, is fine? "Strangers" should just accept it. Fences do make good neighbors.

If you are having a "discussion" I do not think Sir Gregory is talking about that. A heated screaming argument is different. And any adult knows, no one wins an argument. The other person may give up, but you have not won.

[Tenbatsuzen]

you guys have it all wrong, it is Foreplay.

Kinda this.

Liz and I will sometimes have harmless "fights" that really aren't fights, just inside jokes. But to an outside observer, it sounds absolutely horrifying.

I've gotten a few nasty looks because of really offensive stuff that my wife will roll her eyes at, but someone with a more delicate constitution may find to be grounds for divorce.

[Contra]

I guess I never wanted to be the center of attention so badly that I felt the need to be a "show" for everybody with in earshot.

I also think of others and their rights.

If I really like a song, I don't crank my stereo all the way up so everyone else is forced to hear it.

No matter how amazing it is to me, I fully realize there are others who will think it's awful.

What I meant was its all about perspective. You see a couple arguing, you think "look at these assholes fighting with each other, being all loud and ruining my day. Too bad I have to stay in this particular spot and listen to this. I wish there was a way I could move somewhere else in the world out of earshot of this annoying couple, but I can't!"
When I see the same I think "haha look at these two animals yelling at each other. This it some funny shit!"


I guess I'm just a people watcher.

[topless_mike]

nothing beats a good public spat, especially when the chick slaps the dood.

[Seinfez]

whats the deal with arguing in public? who are these people?

[NateCantDance]

Sometimes what happens, and what seemed to happen in Rhino's birthday party story, is that one spouse will use the public setting as cover for their bad behavior. You've heard of taking someone to a public place when you need to give them bad news so they can't make a scene, right? Well, it's the same kind of idea. Kind of a "I'm going to chew your ass and push your buttons quietly and privately, and you if you react to it to it you'll look like an asshole in front of everybody."

[JerseyRich]

I can testify that the worst place to get in a public argument is on a commuter train.

Nowhere to run...nowhere to hide.

That was probably the most embarrassing fight I've ever been in...shortly after, papers were filed.

[topless_mike]

Sometimes what happens, and what seemed to happen in Rhino's birthday party story, is that one spouse will use the public setting as cover for their bad behavior. You've heard of taking someone to a public place when you need to give them bad news so they can't make a scene, right? Well, it's the same kind of idea. Kind of a "I'm going to chew your ass and push your buttons quietly and privately, and you if you react to it to it you'll look like an asshole in front of everybody."

i've never thought of that. i dont like to argue, so normally when somebody brings the heat, i clam up and take it.

[JerseyRich]

i've never thought of that. i dont like to argue, so normally when somebody brings the heat, i clam up and take it.

It's much easier and much more necessary to do that when you have to go home with the person/wife. When it gets out of hand is when you know that this argument is the end of everything. It's almost like there is nothing left to lose and the two people know that they can say shit that they don't have to take back.

There are many different kinds of fights.

[RhinoinMN]

Here is another angle.

Sometimes a couple will argue publicly to show other people how crazy their spouse is. They may feel that it helps them with future arguments.

Sometimes what happens, and what seemed to happen in Rhino's birthday party story, is that one spouse will use the public setting as cover for their bad behavior. You've heard of taking someone to a public place when you need to give them bad news so they can't make a scene, right? Well, it's the same kind of idea. Kind of a "I'm going to chew your ass and push your buttons quietly and privately, and you if you react to it to it you'll look like an asshole in front of everybody."

Yep. I think we are thinking along the same lines.

[Aggie]

It's much easier and much more necessary to do that when you have to go home with the person/wife. When it gets out of hand is when you know that this argument is the end of everything. It's almost like there is nothing left to lose and the two people know that they can say shit that they don't have to take back.

There are many different kinds of fights.

That sounds awful. :glurps:

I'm not much of a fighter. I get annoyed and we have our disagreements but we work things out very civilly. And if one of us gets mad in public we do wait until we're alone to point it out so as not to make a scene. We don't want it and other people don't want to witness it. It's so uncomfortable when I have to see my friends do this.

[opie's twisted balls]

Frankly I'd rather see a couple scrapping away like they were on Springer then the douche bags who dress alike. They're just creepy.

[topless_mike]

This is a fave of mine. When she calls you at work to argue, knowing fuuly well that everyone is listening and that you can't defend yourself without getting loud and embarrased. Yeah, dick move if you ask me.

[opie's twisted balls]

When she calls you at work to argue, knowing fuuly well that everyone is listening and that you can't defend yourself without getting loud and embarrased.
Put her on speakerphone and make her look/sound cunty.

[jauble]

Bear with me on this one.

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