what to expect

[Arienette]

is it better to have low expectations of people so that you're disappointed less often, or to believe that they can actually come through?

logically, it makes sense to not expect much of people. not only because the empirical evidence overwhelmingly proves that people will be disappointing, but also as a handy defense mechanism.

but there's something to be said for having hope and believing in people. it would be pretty sad to always assume the worst of people and to have nothing to look forward to.

i don't know what the answer is. probably some kind of compromise between the two positions, i'd imagine. as a card carrying overly trusting person, i'm starting to think that the former way of thinking might just be the way to go...


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the moon it leaves silver but never sleep
and then the silver turns to grey
oh, stay with me, arienette, until the wolves are away

[Fat Guy]

Trust no one and expect the least from strangers and even most of your friends this way when you are proved wrong you will be pleasantly surprised. Works for me.

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[AngelAmy]

its hard not to have high expectations

u always think not to have them but the best always seems to pop into my head and i usually get disoppointed in the end

im a worry wart though so its even worse

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[Bron Yur Stomp]

I just generally dislike everyone( its not nice to hate) This way when the bastards prove me right, I just can say see I told you so.
It all depends on how removed a person is removed from the situation. I find that people will not try to screw me over when its face to face, but when on the phone forget it. Also it depends on what is involved. Take for instance, my volvo. I told the car salesman if turns out to be a lemon I would come back and kick the shit out of him. Its proven to be the best vehicles I have ever owned, albeit after he made the mechanics re-look it over. I got the price I wanted and the monthly payments I wanted as well. But another instance, I called a good friend of mine to help me move, he didnt show. You see when removed from a situation a person who had been your buddy will screw you. Even though I had helped him move several times.
I guess it boils down to personal magnetitude when it comes to trusting someone. I find people are less likely to screw me in person, then over a removed situation like a phone call


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[TheGameHHH]

I trust and believe in people until they give me a reason not to. I am also a firm believe in, if you want something done right you have to do it yourself.

IT'S TIME TO PLAY THE GAME-AHHH!

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[Jennitalia]

i think i have higher expectations of those closest to me.

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[DaniGirl]

I have low expectations. That way I don't get too dissapointed. It only makes sense.
If you meet someone for the first time and you have low expectations and they dissapoint you anyway, you don't get so upset. It's only logical.

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[Poison Ivy]

I trust and believe in people until they give me a reason not to. I am also a firm believe in, if you want something done right you have to do it yourself.



I've got to agree with this. I generally don't expect anything from anyone but myself. I do not have any expectations of others that I do not have of myself. I also don't judge things by what this one did to me vs what I did for them. I don't think it's really fair to judge someone for not doing something for you just because you did it for them. Do things because you want to, not because you expect compensation.

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[Supervixen]

I expect way too much of people. Then they don't come through with what I expected and I become very dissapointed.

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[Jackie Sloan]

Screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice, shame on ME...unless she's hot n' givin' it up!

I oughtta know betta but it just ain't my fault...love ta hear my baby when she baaaby talk

[IkeaBoy]

I don't have high expectations of people because of the 'don't have high hopes, you won't be disappointed' philosophy and it hasn't exactly led to non disappointment in life.

as far as not trusting anybody...you'll be shocked at how intense paranoia can get.

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[AngelAmy]

as far as not trusting anybody...you'll be shocked at how intense paranoia can get.

i know how that is sometimes believe me


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