Girls think they are ugly, why??

[Doogie]

Earlier a friend of mine, who is a knock dead gorgeous lady, was in the local paper promoting some local basketball event. She was complaining that the picture was horrible of her, when in fact she looked great. I asked another girl why is it, girls in general always think they are ugly in pictures when they arent...It baffles the mind.
I guess my questions to the ladies of the board is this... why do you think yourselves ugly?? Is this a personal confidence thing?? Is it indoctrination from overbearing mother?? Those damn girl magazines featuring models on the cover and telling a girl who is 114 lbs that she is fat??
Any girl that I went out with always said the same thing too... I really like to understand what it is that makes woman work and this is one of the mysteries that I need solved.

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[Christy]

I think and knowI am ugly!

Everyone tells me I look fine, but I know they are just being "nice!"

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[CrazyClare]

well doogie you pretty much got it, its all those factors, i mean theres the whole anorexic model thing. but girls are taught that theire value as a person and a person to love depends on theire apperience. so were hyper sensitive and searching for perfection. at 19 im finally startign to realize how unhealthy those models are. always thought that was how i was supposed to look. now being a real woman and realizing hips and fat are part of a womens natural figure. and being attracted to women i honestly am much more turned on by girls who have real hips. i mean even the girls in maxim, they have no hips just a thin coat of skin over there bones. its gross!! i wish there were more positive images of healthy normal women. and and by the way guys.. nothng you say will help with a girl thinking shes fat or ugly or anything. temporarily in a certain outfit shell feel more confident but when it comes down to it its all in our head and psychosis and we have to deal with it. you saying we look fine or were being silly wont help me form being disgusted by my back fat.

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[Doogie]

Claire, thank you...you answered from your own perspective. And Christy, I am sure that you are not ugly...my email address is attached to this name so look me up and if you feel comfortable enough fire a pic my way. I am positive that you are not ugly...You girls are so hypersensitive about it, it drives me crazy. I had a very thin friend of mine the other day say that she had "a fat ass" when in fact her ass is nothing. Not even half of JLo's for reference...I mean, how can you consider that fat...thinness is the new sickness in our society and I dont know when exactly it started. I mean if you actually take the dimensions of those WWII models you would know they would be considered "plus" size gals today. But they were beautiful. Marilyn Monroe wore a size 10 dress for Gods sakes, and she is considered the matriach of beauty today. Well sexy really...my point in this whole rant is girls stop worrying. You are beautiful regardless. Stop starving yourselves, you are all beautiful, especially ALL the women of this board, even the ones that did not respond to this post... Looks are just an added bonus to beauty in my books

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[Doogie]

Im sorry Clare then the only way to break you pshycie is to detonate it. I have never had a phyisical conversation with you. But from hearing you on the air you sound like a very interesting person...now as far as physicalities go. You are beautiful...Ok so you among a whole group of girls who arent on Cosmo or Jane (By the way I gotta admit that the articles in there are better than Penthouse), but if you have to look like those girls then you should be in a mosoleum...Think those models are sponsered by rich t***s that are so misreable in life that they have to make daughters feel thin no matter what. Those people are so shallow...You girls are beautiful to look at physically that you blow them bags of bones away. I know these are only words on a message board, but there are also passion behind words. And passion is goverened by emotions, which in turn is governed by logic...basically, the end result is, you girls are all beautiful...

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[SweetPea]

were hyper sensitive and searching for perfection
That is soo true!
I'm nowhere near 114lbs, but I'm pretty happy w/ myself, thanks to help from my mom & learning that I dont have to disapear when I turn side ways (I couldnt do that anyway) I'd like the be thinner, and other people would like that too. But I've done so much to lose weight...I've been on so many diets (even though everyone says they dont work.) On good days I'll says I'm kinda cute. I'm nothing to look twice at. But hopefully I'll be thinner and more happy with myself
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This message was edited by SweetPea on 1-25-02 @ 11:47 AM

[sourkitty]

Why do girls think they are ugly? Well this is my reason i think i am ugly....Every where you go u always see those picture perfect girls on magazine covers...on tv..in movies..PLAYBOY..everywhere. Us gurls hav alot to compete with. I mean now matter how hard u try u can never look as good as one of those cover models and that kills us. In a woman's head we have to be the best of the best and no matter what we look like we will always see someone better which will push down our confidence...that is why almost all gurls think they r ugly!

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[TooCute]

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[Supervixen]

some girls say they think their ugly because there taught to try to be unreachably perfect, and it just makes you depressed and angry at yourself.

but heres a secret- alot of girls SAY they htink their ugly so you'll compliment them and make them feel really good. You can usually tell though. Its usually the girls that go "OOO i am SOOOO ugly!! DONT you think im UGLY!" like ten times a day. then you say "YEP" and they go "HEY!"

but really society makes us girls feel like crap. especcially with weight. I guess I should feel great because i lost ALOT of weight and I should be proud, but now i feel like there should be more, and like I just have THIS much left and I duno, I guess it sounds stupid but I just feel like im never good enough.

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[wilee]

Doogie has a point. When my ex showed me some pictures of her and her friends, she would always go into self-deprication mode- "oh, I look fat in this picture" or "I look horrible in this shot". While Supervixen is right and that there are some girls who are just fishing for compliments, some have a bad self image no matter how good they look.

Whether this poor self image is generated through the media saying "Everyone should look this good" or some other reason, they should understand that genetics makes up a lot of how you look, and there isn't too much that can be done to change that (cheaply).

Certainly, you can change your weight, hairstyle, makeup, etc, but remember that these things are superficial. If you still want an idea about how "beauty is fleeting", check out the "Good celebrities gone bad" thread or the coke arrest mug shot of Yasmine Bleethe.

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[SweetPea]

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[sexy bastard]

i actually must say that the media causes both insecurites in both men and women, i myself have learned that it is what is inside that coutns. i mean the way i see it when iget married or if i get married and am old and wrinkly the owman i am with has to be funny smart sweet and love kids and if i am with her for her looks when i am 80 there is no sense i want a nie woman does not matter what she looks like i have gone out with beautiful and not so beautiful women (externelly) but its what is inside that counts

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[NurseMira]

It's really hard to explain why girls think they are ugly. I, for example, am super hard on myself not because I am fishing for a compliment or not because I see these models in magazines. I was tortured when I was in school. I was the minority in my neighborhood as a child and was called all sorts of names only because I guess I wasn't one of 'them'. When my family finally moved, my shy attitude tagged along and made it even worse. I was the tallest of my friends, had bad acne, bad hair and was rail-thin. I never dated anyone which made my self-esteem drop to the floor. I understand that it's the 'growing pains' of life but I guess not everyone can get over some things. So, now I can't even stand looking in the mirror and freak out when I catch a glimpse of myself walking past a store window. I am constantly on some wierd diet too. Eh....life.

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[42nd-delay]

This discussion is interesting to me cause it shows a weird paradox in our society. On one hand, the discussion here is about trying to conform to unrealistic degrees of thinness, and many of the women who have posted in this topic say that they've tried in the past to lose weight and be like those skinny models in the magazines. Yet, at the same time, I hear all the time about how Americans have a terrible diet and eat all kinds of foods which are unhealthy and fattening. Another example: I was in Europe a few years ago, and I noticed that Americans seem to go to the gym and workout a lot more than Europeans, yet they still have the image of being more in shape than us (as a whole).

I'm not sure what the truth is, whether this country is split between those who really care about their weight and health and those who don't care to the point that it's unhealthy and ultimately dangerous, or if it's a different situation altogether.

(Sorry, a bit off the subject, I know).

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[GvacNoMore]

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[DaniGirl]

I think I am ugly because I look in the mirror sometimes and that is what I see. An ugly girl. I tell my mom that I think I'm ugly and she says "Well, if you are ugly, I am too". My mom and I look alike. I think my mom is very pretty.
It's all a neurosis I think. I feel that way from kids telling me that I was fat and ugly since I was young.
I feel when I wear alot of makeup I look pretty, otherwise, I feel there is no hope for me.

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[Supervixen]

I love Anna even though
I never got to meet her


i think everyone feels that
way sometimes.
I used to tell myself i was
too ugly to live and then hurt
myself to try to make myself,
or trick myself into trying to
fix my appearance to be
attarctive enough. so im sure
everyone has had moments like



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[ice cream girl]

I don't think woman think they're UGLY per say... however we will never look in the mirror and be 100% confident in ourselves... I think it's more a matter of those little insecurities than anything else... i could think of a least 10 things i'd love to change about myself but it'll probobly never happen so i'll just have to accept what God gave me and thats that... Janet Jackson said it best when asked about her weight i.e.- "A woman could be 110lbs and still think she's fat... A woman will never look in the mirror and be completely satisfied"... and thats Janet talking!

God put me on this earth to do a certain number of things right... now i'm so far behind, i'll never die.

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