Is True Love Possible?

[sunndoggy8]

This is a sappy post, but is true love possible...or better yet, is there a person out there for everyone that perfectly matches up with them?

I'm presently in a fight with my g/f so I've pondering...

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[EffMeBoobs]

This is a sappy post, but is true love possible...or better yet, is there a person out there for everyone that perfectly matches up with them?

I'm presently in a fight with my g/f so I've pondering...

I'm not the Horde King but I figure I'd put my 2 bronze cents in because I'm a bit older and have been through the love dept quite a few times. Love is possible and I'm telling you, you do feel it almost instantly with that person. Everything feels so right, you complete each others words and emotions. You can't stand to be away from that person for one minute and when you do, they are all that's on your mind. You know what they are thinking about just by looking in their eyes. The feeling of excitement after not seeing that person for a while then seeing them again is unexplainable. There are cases when this doesn't happen right away which is fine and normal. You'll know you're "in love" because you will FEEL it. Yes I also believe there is a perfect love match for each and every one of us. Unfortunately, it's very hard to meet your match if he/she is in Australia or something like that. Have faith Sunn, if she is the one for you, everything will happen on its own because love is natural so let it take its course. :)

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[HordeKing1]

SUNNDOGGY8 - This is not a sappy post at all, but rather a question that confronts many people at one point or another. I'm replying to your query not just a student of the human condition but from personal experience as well. I've been married 16 years, each one more satisfying and exciting than the preceding. So, yes, true love is possible and when it's right, it's really right.

I must however disagree with much of what EFFMEBOOBS wrote. Unlike the movies or popular novels, true love at first sight is not possible. You can be attracted to someone at first sight; you can be in lust with someone at first sight, but in love? No way. Love develops only after gaining an intimate understanding of a person, their beliefs, values, ideals, goals, fears, triumphs, disappointments, etc. That simply is not possible in a short amount of time.

The love of which EFMEBOOBS writes is also not the norm, in fact if that's the "love" that the relationship is based on; it's a pretty safe bet that you don't know as much about the person as you think you do.

No two people are identical. Everyone has his or her own unique take on life. Some differ to a greater extent than others, but all differ. And guess what? Sometimes the best matches are between those who are complete opposites.

The most loving couples argue at times. They are two different people and have different opinions. If they agree with each other constantly, it's not so much that they are in perfect sync with each other, it's that one of the people in the relationship is a marshmallow agreeing with whatever his or her partner says because that's the only way he or she feels the relationship can endure.

In a loving relationship the total is greater than the sum of its parts. However each of these "parts" can maintain their own identity.

So, SUNNDOGGY8, having a fight with your girlfriend isn't "bad" or "wrong" or the end of the relationship. It's quite normal. Indeed you can both learn something about each other from it, which can make your relationship and appreciation of each other stronger.


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[EffMeBoobs]

Horde King I do agree with what you are saying. I guess I didn't explain myself fully. I don't think EVERY relationship is based on love at first sight, what I meant was it IS possible and it can happen. I've heard actual stories from people I know that have experienced this. I know the majority of relationships does not happen this way. I'm sorry if I made "love" sound like a fairytale, I was just making a statement that true love is possible. :)

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EFMEBOOBS - You never have to appologize for expressing your opinion.

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[sunndoggy8]

Just to clarify, I don't think that a fight or disagreement is "wrong" or "bad"...i'm not that clueless! :) I was simply pondering the question, and if I sounded like I was that affected or upset over a simple fight, then that wasn't my point at all. But I do understand what you're saying, and appreciate the input. Thanks ! :)

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[HordeKing1]

SUNNDOGGY8 - Although my replies are geared primarily towards the person making the quesry, they are read by many others as well. Therefore I try to include as broad a range as possible in my replies. This ensures that the greatest number of people will be able to see its relevance and benefit from it.

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