Wedding Etiquette

[Suspect Chin]

I'm one of the groomsmen in an upcoming wedding and have already spent $100 on a tux, a couple hundred on the bachelor party, and another couple hundred in travel and accommodations to get to the wedding. My question is, since I've already spent close to $600 on the wedding, should I feel obligated to also buy them a wedding present?

[Tall_James]

Sorry to say this but, yes - you have to give them a present. If you don't, ten years from now you won't be remembered as the groomsman who spent a ton of his own money to take part in a special day. You'll be remembered as the cheap bastard who never gave them a wedding gift.

Sad but true. However, this doesn't mean that you have to go overboard on a gift. Buy them a rice cooker, that always goes over well. Practical and usually no one puts it on their registry.

Best you can do is drink and eat as much as you can and try to nail as many bridesmaids as possible. Try to recoup your losses by making it as memorable as possible for yourself.

[Tall_James]

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And remember...

"Candlesticks always make a nice gift, and uh, maybe you could find out where she's registered and maybe a place-setting or maybe a silverware pattern."

[King Hippos Bandaid]

Yes.... it sucks with the tux.... but the bachelor party was ur choice...... nothin more than the price of the plate.... don't feel obligated to give more.......

[torker]

Stop being such a cheap fuck, you cheap fuck.

[Suspect Chin]

Stop being such a cheap fuck, you cheap fuck.

Cheap fuck!? I guess you're right but there's a ton of other stuff about the wedding that has made me bitter. Including the fact that they scheduled it for Memorial Day weekend and everyone has to give up their weekend to travel to their big day.

[brettmojo]

Cheap fuck!? I guess you're right but there's a ton of other stuff about the wedding that has made me bitter. Including the fact that they scheduled it for Memorial Day weekend and everyone has to give up their weekend to travel to their big day.
My cunt sister made her entire family and her now ex-husband's entire family fly down from the northeast, mainly upstate NY, to her wedding in Miami Beach in the middle of March. Then she didn't even stay married to the prick for a full year.

But yeah, get them something. You probably should drop at least a $100. Unless there's something nice for cheaper on the registry.

[Dude!]

Cheap fuck!? I guess you're right but there's a ton of other stuff about the wedding that has made me bitter.

like you're not the bride?

[torker]

Suspect Chin plus Two
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[torker]

Call dibs. (http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_g-tViu31MMs/SjLDxcYaIbI/AAAAAAAAAdU/fVaSPCIqndg/s400/fisting.jpg)

[Suspect Chin]

Today I found out that the groomsmen are responsible for setting up all the decorations, centerpieces, DJ equipment, etc. beforehand (including a tent in case of rain--it's an outdoor wedding) and breaking everything down in a drunken stupor after the reception. Yes it is a hayseed wedding.

Their 'gift' from me is looking less and less likely.

[PapaBear]

Yes it is a hayseed wedding.
Sounds like it!

I've only been a groomsman for one wedding. They paid for my tux, the custom fitting, and a motel room. And I didn't have to do any manual labor at all.

[Suspect Chin]

Sounds like it!

I've only been a groomsman for one wedding. They paid for my tux, the custom fitting, and a motel room. And I didn't have to do any manual labor at all.

Damn it. I knew I was being scammed. Next time I'm asking a lot more questions before agreeing to be a groomsman.

[weekapaugjz]

Today I found out that the groomsmen are responsible for setting up all the decorations, centerpieces, DJ equipment, etc. beforehand (including a tent in case of rain--it's an outdoor wedding) and breaking everything down in a drunken stupor after the reception. Yes it is a hayseed wedding.

http://www.jlh-design.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/simpsons_nelson_haha3.jpg

[Suspect Chin]

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Fuck off. I'm going to get my revenge by bribing the DJ to play Another One Bites the Dust.

[PapaBear]

Damn it. I knew I was being scammed. Next time I'm asking a lot more questions before agreeing to be a groomsman.
You must be green with envy.

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[weekapaugjz]

Fuck off. I'm going to get my revenge by bribing the DJ to play Another One Bites the Dust.

You're devious.

[weekapaugjz]

And shouldn't the DJ be taking care of his own equipment?

[Suspect Chin]

And shouldn't the DJ be taking care of his own equipment?

It's almost too embarrassing to admit but I think they are renting the equipment and just hooking up their iPod. I guess that ruins my plan.

[weekapaugjz]

Sounds like this wedding is going to be a blast.

[TripleSkeet]

Cheap fuck!? I guess you're right but there's a ton of other stuff about the wedding that has made me bitter. Including the fact that they scheduled it for Memorial Day weekend and everyone has to give up their weekend to travel to their big day.

Anyone that has their wedding on a holiday (Memorial Day, New Years Eve, 4th of July) is a fucking inconsiderate dickbag. Its bad enough they inconvenience their friends by forcing them to spend the holiday at their wedding, but how about those peoples dates? The ones that dont know anyone and have to spend their holidays with strangers?

My wifes friend got married on New Years Eve once. I spent all night surrounded by strangers, and worse yet they were people I had zero in common with. She was in the wedding and friends with half of the bridesmaids, so she had a good time most of the night. The next day when we were leaving I basically told her as long as she was my wife there was no fucking way we were ever going to another holiday wedding again. I didnt care who it was for.

Today I found out that the groomsmen are responsible for setting up all the decorations, centerpieces, DJ equipment, etc. beforehand (including a tent in case of rain--it's an outdoor wedding) and breaking everything down in a drunken stupor after the reception. Yes it is a hayseed wedding.

Their 'gift' from me is looking less and less likely.

Thats the most ridiculous thing Ive ever heard. Theres no way I would ever agree to any of that. Your a fucking groomsman for Christs sake not the caterer. Grow a set and tell your friend to hire some cheap illegal immigrants to do his grunt work.