Not be depressed and not horny or to be depressed and be horny!!!!!

[Christy]

OH MY GOSH!!! I was just searching the web for anti-depressant information because I truly need to start one soon. I was on Paxil for about a month ... because I slowly stopped taking it because it made me sooooo tired. So I was reading the websites of some popular anti-depressants, and found out your sex drive diminishes while on these drugs. YIKES! Now that I think of it, I was a lot less horny when I was on Paxil.

What a choice ... not be depressed and not horny or to be depressed and be horny!!!!!

YIKES ... someone help me out? I've heard of Celexa not being so harsh on the sex drive.

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If you are depressed and horny, do you really enjoy sex or does it make you feel bad?



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[HordeKing1]

CHRISTY - Many antidepressants cause "dimminished sexual desire." However, all is not lost. There are many different anti-depressants to try with much less occurance of that particular effect. (Wellbutrin comes to mind.)

Do not accept this side effect as a natural consequence of anti-depressants. Insist your doctor try a different med until you find something that works for you in all areas.

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[Supervixen]

i DONT UNDERSTAND WTF I HAVE TO SAY TO YOU PEOPLE TO GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEADS THAT MEDICATION DOES NOT HELP ANYTHING!!!!

so you feel good on it for awhile, you become immune- you up your dosage- it goes on FOREVER.. learn to control yourselves.




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[FUNKMAN]

SuperVix,

Take a Chill Pill

:)

I have a brother who needs medication. My feeling is he had hoped to achieve something and left no room for failure. When it did not go in his favor he thought about it so much and so often that he brainwashed himself into thinking he was wronged and has been unable to reverse it. It's been almost 20 years and medication is the only thing that keeps him from losing work, getting arrested, and acting abnormal in public...

You can't force them to act and feel okay...

Tried Love and Anger to no avail...

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[JerryTaker]

I think my horniness enhances my depression, that's the only reason I'm considering medication....

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[Jennitalia]

so you feel good on it for awhile, you become immune- you up your dosage- it goes on FOREVER.. learn to control yourselves.




easier said than done, Supervixon. it's not like people choose to be depressed and if there were something we could do to control ourselves, don't you think we'd do it? not everyone can be happy little campers like yourself



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[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Christy,

Effexor is another medication that tends not to diminish your sex drive.

And Anna,

Medication alone isn't the answer, but it is very helpful. There is no cure-all magic pill that will make the world a better place BUT, that being said, there are people who need medication. I tried to "control" myself for 3 very dark and scary years. My therapist finally sent my to a psychiatrist. Medication got me out of the hole.

Jennitalia's right-- sorry we're not all happy campers!

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[TheGameHHH]

In the end, I would choose to be horny ;-)

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[IkeaBoy]

people just want a quick fix Anna and if a pill is more helpful than working at it so be it.

then again i'm cynical, what do i know?

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[Jennitalia]

some people may rely on medication as a quick fix, but that's not always the case ikea. depression can also be a result of a chemical imbalance in the brain. you think people choose to be depressed and feel miserable all the time?

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[DaniGirl]

When I was on Paxil it seemed to totally erase my sex drive. Now that I am off of Paxil for almost 2 years now, it's slowly coming back to me, but for the most part i just feel that i could live without it and be perfectly fine.

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[IkeaBoy]

i'm not saying they all are Jen and that no one needs medication but can you honestly say people would rather work at getting themselves better through years of therapy rather than popping a pill or two and feeling better?

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[DreamWeaver]

My father has been going to therapy for many many years and he still needs to take drugs..he has about 8 bottles of pills but the only one I can remember is Lithium. For some people, therapy alone won't help.Like Jenn said, people have an imbalance in their brain which screws you up. My father has a chemical inbalace which is why he takes drugs. The therapy helps but isnt going to cure whats physically wrong in his head.

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[JerryTaker]

for the most part i just feel that i could live without it and be perfectly fine.


The Paxil or the sex drive? ;-)


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[DaniGirl]

The Paxil or the sex drive

Both. Although I do have my days.....

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[Jennitalia]

i'm not saying they all are Jen and that no one needs medication but can you honestly say people would rather work at getting themselves better through years of therapy rather than popping a pill or two and feeling better?



i can't speak for everybody, ikea, only myself. my family has a history of depression, and my psychologist seems to think i may have a chemical imbalance. the sessions i've been attending have helped me somewhat, helped me put feelings and thoughts into perspective, but there are still times I'll sink into a deep depression and all i can think about is how i wish i'd just die already. (im too much of a wuss to actually do anything bad) she wants me to see a psychiartrist for an evaluation and second opinion. the meds help stimulate the imbalance in your brain and help trigger more positive feelings. my thing is that im very hesitant about having to go on medication because i dont like the thought of having to rely on medication to make me feel good. it makes me feel so crappy to think that there's something wrong with the way i feel and think that i need medication to make it better. i'd much rather try and fix things myself. but im beginning to see that as much as i may want and try to change things, it's still not good enough, and that maybe i should give it a shot.

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[DreamWeaver]

Jenn--I understand completely what you are going through and yes sometimes drugs are the only answer. Depression runs in my family as well and I am sure that I probably have a chemical imbalance also. My mother has been telling me to get help for years but for insurance reasons and just plain laziness I have been dealing with it on my own.I am afraid to have to relay on pills to make me a better person. But doing nothing about the situation hasnt gotten me anywhere but cause me and the people around me pain. I still feel like shit everyday and I just realized that being depressed for years isn't really a healthy thing.I didn't know that it is normal to be happy. I really don't know what its like to actually like youself and I didn't know that you are supposed to.To me that just doesn't seem possible. I didn't know that cutting yourself to make youself feel better isn't healthy either. But drugs may be what you and I both need. And I too didn't want to have to relay on pills for the rest of my life to be happy but its come to the point know where I think that may be the only answer. I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't know already but I just wanted to say that you aren't alone. I understand. One of these days I'll get my ass to a doctor and fix my miserable life but for now I'll keep pretending that I am not ending up like my father( which I think its too late for that already)

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[Jonkeu]

I was once on prozac when I was 18. I took the advice of my mother and father who felt that i had a bi polar disorder. Well even though the meds kinda worked, I was still sad and depressed. I have been involved with people who are unstable and are bi polar / ocd all my life. My brother is one, My mother is one. My Sister is kinda one. My Fiancee is majorly OCD and has a hint of bi-polar. The biggest problem I have now with my fiancee is that she doesnt take any meds and she STILL is not sexual. Im getting a major complex that it's me. That she just doesnt love me or want me anymore. I truly wonder if the medication fucked her up for the rest of her life.

[IkeaBoy]

The biggest problem I have now with my fiancee is that she doesnt take any meds and she STILL is not sexualI'm wondering which pisses you off more the fact that she's not horny or the fact that she doesn't take meds.

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[Jonkeu]

I'm wondering which pisses you off more the fact that she's not horny or the fact that she doesn't take meds.


Well the Sex thing does bother me. Im sure it would anyone. But I think her lack of meds isnt that big of a deal. Sometimes when you go on meds you become a drone!

[HordeKing1]

IKEABOY - I must disagree with your statements. Psychotropic medication isn't a "quick fix" for a person who doesn't want to work out problems, it is often necessary to correct chemical imbalances in the brain. Without the correct brain chemistry, therapy will most likely be ineffective.

Of course not all conditions require medication which is why this decision is best discussed on a case by case basis following clinical evaluation by a trained mental health therapist.

Think of psychoactive medication the same way you think of medication for hypertension or hyperthyroidism, or ulcers. Not everyone needs them, but for those who do, they will not be able to get better without it.

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[HordeKing1]

JONKEU - Your post made me cringe. You took prozac at 18 based on a diagnosis by your PARENTS (!) of bipolar disorder. Who was the doctor who prescribed this medication?

You cannot do things like that on your own. Diagnosis and treatment should only be made by those who are trained to make them. Your parents don't qualify. (This is the case even if your parents are doctors).

The meds appparantly had some sort of effect but you were still "sad and depressed." Of course you were! You may or may not be bipolar; you may or may not have taken the correct medication in the correct dosage; you may or may not have had your progress monitored by a therapist.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, these meds are not "happy pills." They will NOT make you happy. They will only correct chemical imbalances. That's why therapy is a vital part of treatment. You will not be "happy" until the issues are addressed and resolved in a theraputic environment.

Your diagnosis of your family members also seems questionable. You describe one as sort of this or that condition. Again I stress that it takes a competent therapist to make a diagnosis.

Regarding your fiance, have you ever considered that she just might not have as much sexual desire as you. Have you considered other conditions, such as medical, hormonal, emotional and psychological?

Instead of assuming that her lack of desire shows a lack of feeling for you, try to get at the root cause. There are just so many possible explanations.

Most pyschoactive medications are completely gone from the body within a few days or weeks. They are not responsible for her current mindset. I would pay far more attention as to WHY she was taking the pills long ago and why she stopped. Again, there are just way too many possibilities.

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[Jonkeu]

Horde -
I really dont know what it is but I wish we would all get better... =)

[CovDiesel]

Getting laid solves these problems... but when your sex drive is low... it's hard to get laid.. ah well.. thus is the circle....

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[Prince Neptune]

I'm was on paxil but I'm nymphatic so it did diminish my sex drive somewhat but not alltogether. I definatelly think you should deal with your mental health 1st Christy, then your sexual well being will follow.

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[HordeKing1]

NEPTUNE makes an excellent point that I overlooked.

If you're depressed, you're not likely to have any strong libidianal urges.

Therefore, you're much better off first treating the depression and then worrying about the libido.

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