How do you deal with someone who can't take care of themselves?

[sunndoggy8]

Suppose someone close to you has had a horrible accident...something that makes then unable to care for themselves really...for example, being handicapped to a wheelchair. Now this could be a family member, or a spouse, or a child.

Is it the responsibility of the rest of the family or spouse to take care of the injured person. Or do they have every right to either end the relationship, or put the person in a full care place in order to avoid having to deal with them?

There are plenty of people who take care of their loved ones, and say that it's no burden...but part of you doesn't believe them.

I'm not sure of my question here, but how far do you have to go for that loved one you have to take care or...and should you be chastised by society for not taking care of them?

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[impactplayer2k1]

I would say yes it is the family's responsibility to take care of them. How can someone stand there and watch a family member struggle with everyday life and not help them.

When we are born, we cant take care of ourselves, someone is there for us and the same rules apply to those who suddenly cant take care of themselves now.

When you get married, the priest or the justice of the peace tells you, "For better or worst, in sickness and in health, till death do us part." If you up and leave your spouse because you feel its an inconvience on you, your a fucked up human being and deserve nothing.

Its not right to leave a person in such a time of need. There are times in our life were we have to make sacrifices and our family members and loved ones made sacrifices to take care of us and its only right that we do the same.

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[HordeKing1]

SUNNY - You ask a question with very few concrete answers - those answers that do exist are certainly not universal but vary depending upon the circumstances and people involved.


Suppose someone close to you has had a horrible accident...something that makes then unable to care for themselves really...for example, being handicapped to a wheelchair. Now this could be a family member, or a spouse, or a child.

A catastrophic accident, illness or condition will play havoc on the entire household no matter how it is handled.

Yes, the quadraplaegic (for example) is a burden for those to care for him or her. However, some people take on the role to stay as close as possible to their loved one. Yes it's a burden. To some the burden is worth it.

Imagine a child involved in a car crash who becomes paralizyedl. Most parents would continue to care for the child. It seems pretty clear cut here, but it isn't. Let's imagine that the parents have another 5 kids and that caring for this one would mean neglecting their other children. It's not so clear cut.

Imagine an elderly parent with advanced stage alzheimers, to the point where the parent does not even recognize their child. Some will try to do anything to avoid institutionalizing a loved ones. Others cannot physically or emotionally deal with the daily care of their parents - it's not easy changing your mom's diapers. Moreover, sometimes institutions can provide better care.

There is just no easy answer.



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[CYYYFYYY]

I have to agree with the Horde King.... In an
imaginary world everryone would help this person
but in real life it just does not work that way.
Maybe you really just do not care for this realive,
maybe you just can't find the time, maybe you are
not mentally stroing enough to help this person or
iyou could just have tons of reasons. Even just not
having the time is a reason. Just because you don't
help does not make you a bad person. Now just
because you feel you can't help this person does
not mean it is an all or nothing sitution. Maybe you
can help a little. Like checking on them once a
week. Or even calling. If this person does have a
very bad injury. They will be losing alot of friends
as well as there social life. A simple phone call
might help alot..


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[CYYYFYYY]

Only 3 responces.... I was hoping for a debate or
something gosh darnit.... and tell us what you
thought of the responces sunnydogg.......


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[HordeKing1]

CYYYFYYY - It's a very difficult thing to imagine and indeed we actively try not to think about it, because it is so upsetting.

The paucity of responces to this thread may reflect this. It may also reflect the realization that people cannot adequately predict what they will do, nor are they able to forumlate a rule applicable in every situation.

There is no right or wrong answer, and the best we can do is hope that none of us has to go through it.

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