Chivalry

[Gwen]

I know it seems like an old fashioned thing to say but I think there is nothing sexier than chivalry.
I thought for quite some time that it was dead and that the most you'd get from guys these days was them to hold a door open (dont get me wrong, I appreciate that), but this weekend my theory on the death of chivalry was disproved.
I spent time with a guy who can change tires (and look good while doing it) and went out of his way to stay with me and protect me from the evil tow truck man AND paid for something that wasn't even an expense he should have incurred. I attempted to pay him back and he declined. The "non-damsel in distress" portion of my weekend that I spent with him was also charming. I've never met anyone so willing to go out of their way for me, not even my boyfriends!
Chivalry is a big turn on at least in my opinion, what do you ladies think? Are you offended when a guy tries to help you out?
Guys: do you try to be chivalrous? Do you think it depends on the girl?

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[Jackie Sloan]

I always try to be chivalrous, but, you'd be surprised how many woman get offended




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[TheGameHHH]

It's no big deal Gwen, you can say my name don't hide it. Let everybody know how great of a guy I truly am.
In all seriousness I think chivalry is a great thing and I TRY to do it whenever possible.

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[missileman]

Hi Gwen,

Know I'm a newbie, so I hope you old timers don't mind me jumping in. LOL :-)

"I'm the last one to call others old timers. 42 "

Chivalry is not dead. It just took a break from the 60's to the late 80's when far too many women felt it was a putdown, and did not want to be treated differently from the men.

But it is making a comeback.

I have always felt I was a complete gentlemen, and NEVER had a problem with chivalry.

If my date had a problem with it, her next date was someone else.

Ladies!! when you find a chivalrous guy, ENJOT IT.

GUYS!! WAKE UP. IT IS NOT HARD TO BE A GENTLEMAN, because now days, it is appreciated by the ladies.

Take care, and be good.
Alex :-)

[Gwen]

Welcome alex. Feel free to jump in whenever you have something to contribute. =)

Its nice to see its not dying. I used to be really bothered when guys offered to pay for me, and by no means do I expect to be paid for but it is flattering to find a nice guy who is willing to at least make the offer. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

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[impactplayer2k1]

I always try to be chivalrous. Holding doors, pulling out her chair aint a problem with me, in fact, its practically habitual. Would I fight for her or protect her from harm? In a heartbeat w/o giving it a second thought. If I truly care about her, I'd show just how much I care.

I can be a over-protective savage and there are times where my jealously will show but im smart enough not to let her see that im jealous because i know deep down inside theres nothing for me to be jealous about.

Chivalry should be my middle name!

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[fatty]

chivalry's tough. you would think it's just a matter of a guy doing something for a girl, but there's a lot more. most girls these days don't want everything paid for, and it bothers them when you do it all the time.

Ha ha ha, but i'm not even kidding. and, the girls that do appreciate it take it for granted after awhile, it's just the way it goes. they won't realize how special it is that you open the door for them everytime or walk on the sidewalk with them on the inside until they're with someone who doesn't do it.

i will still be a gentleman, but i no longer press the issue. if they feel the need to pay and get mad at my attempting to pay, then i don't do it. but i will be chivalrous whenever i get a chance.

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[scorpion]

I think there is nothing wrong with Chivalry. I assume it is just part of good manners and courtesy.

The only thing is alot of women seem to get offended by it or assume that there is an alternative reason.

With all the strange lawsuits being filed now a days what use to be a standard courtesy is avoided for that same reason. Even if it is in the mind of the individual the accusation is often enough to ruin someone.

[irishkb]

I am big on the whole open the car door for the girl and hold open the store door.. i the second for my girlfriend.. the first one is a little difficult.. on my last two cars the lock on the passenger side door does not open with key. so i have to unlock it from the inside. now picture explaining that and not looking like a tool.. "i would open the car door for you but...." it sucks and you get stupid looks for bringing it up...

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[TomPoo]

If you let the girl cum first... is that considered being chivalrous???

I personally would out it up there with opening a door or pulling out a chair.

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[Gwen]

If you let the girl cum first... is that considered being chivalrous???

I personally would out it up there with opening a door or pulling out a chair.


Thats why you're a moron ;)

But this brings me to another point: is there such thing as sexual chivarly? I dont think so, but maybe someone has an argument for it.

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[TomPoo]

Thats why you're a moron

not funny.

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[DarkHippie]

chivalry is like being a nice person, but doing it especially for woman, that's why alot of feminists have a problem with it. if you are gonna be nice and hold doors open, do it for everyone, not just people with tits

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[Gwen]

if you are gonna be nice and hold doors open, do it for everyone, not just people with tits


I agree 100% I hold the door for everyone. But if something like this is applied to everyone, what then would you say constitutes chivalry? Are there certain acts that are chivalrous by the very nature of them?

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[erinmoran]

Are there certain acts that are chivalrous by the very nature of them?


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[Jennitalia]

But this brings me to another point: is there such thing as sexual chivarly? I dont think so, but maybe someone has an argument for it.




yeah, when/if you fake it for a guy to let him feel like he's a good fuck ;)

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[Gwen]

yeah, when/if you fake it for a guy to let him feel like he's a good fuck


Jenni, you're my hero....I bow to you =)

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[EffMeBoobs]

Chivalry is a big turn on at least in my opinion, what do you ladies think? Are you offended when a guy tries to help you out?
Guys: do you try to be chivalrous? Do you think it depends on the girl?


I had a big problem accepting chivalry at times in the past, because at first it seemed to be genuine, but as time passed, chivalry turned out to be fake, and only an effort to get in my pants. I also have a hard time accepting other people's kindness because I always want to do good for others.

Today, the theory of dead chivalrousness has proved wrong in my life. Lou has done more for me emotionally, physically, financially, than anyone else in my life besides family minus the physical part. When I met him, he went out of his way to show his feelings for me and it still goes on to this day. He is the best thing that has EVER happened to me and I appreciate his every move, thought, and feeling.

As far as sexual chivalry, that's alive and kicking. Lou always puts my pleasure first. It's nice to feel cared for when someone is concerned about your pleasure zone. Lou goes out of his way, so much that he is the first person to ever pleasure me, if you know what I mean. That's fucking chivalry, literally speaking, if you ask me.

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[CovDiesel]

I practice chivalry...

I don't do it with anything expected in return... if it comes back to me... that's great... and I certainly don't do it to get in somebody's pants.

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[erole]

I think to truly be chivalrous you must have a personal, sort of, code of who you are. I don't know if you would call it chivalry, but the person that I am is a person who is generously kind to everyone around me. Even to people that think ill of me.

All my life, being kind to others was part of my nature. It was how I was raised, and it turns out to be something I want to be. Helping others is never a second thought or a second guess. Going out of my way to help people usually benifits me more than the person I helped.

I lost a lot of time and money, and even gained a couple emotional brusies for helping people out. But it's who I am, and if I had to do it over, I'd do it the same way. I never mind the sacrifice.

btw, I don't know about chivalry in bed, I guess there can be. But I definately believe in chivalry after bed. Think about it.

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[Hot4Teacher]

Gwen, your story of chivarly was very sweet! I know alot about that cuase Rich is like that all of the time, I think its sexy and wonderful!! I appreciate it!!!

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[reeshy]

Gwen.,

I always try to be chivalrous! I always wipe my moustache before I kiss a lady!!

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This message was edited by reeshy on 2-20-02 @ 7:23 PM

[GvacNoMore]

I'm glad to see that many of the young ladies on the board understand and appreciate gentlemanly behavior. Many times it is misinterpreted as "sexist," but nothing could be further from the truth.

A real man would do whatever it took to take care of his woman, and it is a code I've always lived by. Thanks for making guys like me feel appreciated.


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[HordeKing1]

Would I be correct in assuming that you guys don't know that the underlying concept is unrequited love? Hence the word as commonly used today is a misnomer.

A better word to covey the concept and this applies to men and women is this: Be a mensch.

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[legroommusic]

Gwen, If I had to, I'd lay down my cape for you in order for you to walk across a puddle. Fortunately, capes are gay and I don't wear them.

let me know.

[Gwen]

Awwww, Legroom thanks. I dont feel so bad about the yeast infection/inverted nipples thing anymore.


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This message was edited by Gwen on 2-25-02 @ 11:19 AM

[fatty]

that was nice of you legroom. i wouldn't pull my cape off for you gwen but i'd feel bad about watching you walk through the mud. and if i did laugh i'd try not to let you see

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[Hosp]

Is it Chivalrous or just being a good person? I never hold back from helping no matter who it is. I've helped mothers with packages when the were shopping because they couldn't handle the package and their kids, I've helped elderly people up a flight of stairs, and I've held the door for 100's of people. I don't do it for any other reason then if I were in a similar situation I would hope someone would do it for me.

And just a side note, of all the times I have held a door for someone. I think I have been thanked less then 10%. And it's not that I'm looking for the praise, it's just that when someone actually thanks me it makes me notice those who didn't.

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