Prenup or not to prenup?

[sexy bastard]

hmmm I was wondering how you feel about the concept of having a prenup before you get married...how would you feel if you wanted to give your spouse one, and how would you feel if your future spouse gave you one?

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[zathrus]

i would feel that my future spouse didn't truse me or the way that i felt about him. i understand why someone with extreme wealth would need one, but the everyday working joe...no

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[HordeKing1]

SEXY - With the divorce rates ranging between 1/3 to 1/2 of all married couples pre nuptual agreements are very much in vogue.

It is not an expression of distrust rather it is simply a means of protecting oneself. Usually only the wealthy require one, but many middle class people, particularly those who already have children are using the prenuptual agreement to spell out the division of property if the marriage fails.

Often, these agreements call for minimal payment for a short term marriage, with increasing payments the longer the marriage lasts.

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[Christy]

PRENUP ... PRENUP ... PRENUP :-)

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[Tall_James]

I'm sorry but I'm a firm believer that if you are adamant about a prenup before marriage...you should not get married. <P>
Listen, I know that marriage can be a flawed concept and an ill-advised one if gone into unprepared. If you are unsure about something so important - DON'T DO IT. <P>
If it is love, you don't need marriage to affirm it. Some do and its a wonderful thing. <P>

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[lleeder]

you should not get married.
That says it all.

[Kel4fdu]

my BF and i have been discussing marriage for a few months now and will likely get engaged by this summer. he's made it clear by his comments that he feels we dont need a prenup...(we trust each other, etc. the usual reasons). i know we love and trust each other, but i think we should have a prenup, like just as a precaution. how can i express this to him without it causing a rift between us?

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[sexy bastard]

hmmm that is a tough one, that is why i brought the subject up, in my opinion if you feel you want a prenup as a precaution, i believe right there is a problem, i mean marriage is suppose to be forever but now adays your lucky to be married 10 years, if he does not want one, and he has made it pretty clear then its something you need to figure out. I mean god forbid you marry and it does not work out you might be in court for months fighting over a stupid little thing becuase it gets ugly. But if you tell him we should just do it so we dont have to fight if god forbid it does not work out...butthe side note is i really dont know how you would phrase it cause if it comes out wrong when you say it it might offend him and maybe hurt him....its a tough call but if you think you should get one just in case then i believe you have every right to say something, just like he does not want it he has every right to say it also but somehow whether it is done or not is between the two of you. its also about respect and trust, but still unfortunately shit happens and some people are lucky to live happily ever after and others go there own ways. i think the horde king might give a better response then me though

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[HordeKing1]

I'm afraid I must dissent. A prenuptual is not a sign of a troubled relationship, it is an acknowledgment that you have rights that can be exercized as an individual.

Hopefully you won't even need the prenup, but it's comforting to know that it's there. All parties rights and responsibilities are spelled out in advance.

As a lawyer I would advise anyone with substantial assets, both tangible and intangible to draw up a prenup and have it signed well in advance of the wedding. Of course, two different lawyers must be used (one for each party).

As a therapist, I acknoweldge the importance of maintaing an individual identity apart from marital identity and a prenup accomplishes this.



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[sexy bastard]

amen horde
now adays also the word prenup is being a little more accepted the unaccepted, before it really use to be very taboo like cause it raised many questions but its more common now yet it depends on each person some people have no problem with the idea and then others are offended by it

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[42nd-delay]

Pre-nup's should be required by law. That way there would be no stigma, and our courts would be a lot less clogged up without so many protracted divorce cases.

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[ice cream girl]

Prenups are BULLSHIT..... in the old days you got married once...for love..if i ever asked someone to sign a prenup visa versa it only proves the lack of faith of the duration of the marriage. My advice.. DO NOT get married if you don't trust your spouse...if the relationship falters, then it does.. but signing a prenup is almost like your expecting it..prenups..hmph

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[zathrus]

Ice Cream Girl, i agree completely. why do a pre-nup, it's just like saying i love you enough to marry you, but i don't trust you or believe that this marriage would last.

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[cheezeemee]

This one is a no-brainer
Prenup!
When ever there's a divorce
the female always gets all the money, the house and the car. This prenup is security in an insecure world. I'd like to say vice/versa but it rarely happens. Why do most women get married in the first place? Love? Get real! Send all your hate mail here
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This message was edited by cheezeemee on 4-4-02 @ 10:08 PM

[HordeKing1]

CHEESEEME - The prenup is just as much for the woman's protection as the man's.

The prenup simply is a legal document spelling out various rights and obligations of both parties.

Instead of promoting a lack of trust, a prenup compells couples to talk about finances BEFORE they are married, something many or even most do not.

Another way to look at it is like this. If you've signed an organ donor card you hope (and if you're into it, pray) that the card won't be used. Same with prenups. It's there in an emergency, should the need arise, but both parties hope and expect not to have to rely on it.


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