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Kewlkat

04-02-2002, 09:50 AM

Is there something/anything that a person w/o self-confidence can do to bring it up or get it back??? And how does someone convience someone with no or low self-confidence that they are a good person?

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Jackie Sloan

04-02-2002, 09:57 AM

It depends on (among many other things of course) how low they've gotten, why they feel this way, how long, etc. For me, self esteem is the most important quality a person can have, but it's also one of the hardest things to acquire if one doesn't have it. EVERYTHING good comes from self esteem because without it worthlessness is overwhelming. Hang in there if it's you, stand by this other person if it's not. Remember though, no one can "make" someone feel something, be patient.

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Christy

04-02-2002, 10:06 AM

Surround yourself with people who make you feel good. I love those late night talks when I feel like crap and my friends cheer me up!

You CAN NOT convience them that they are a good person. People tell me all the time what a good, loving, kind, funny person I am (I am not talking about myself here ... just trying to make a point!) ... but I never believe them. I think "they're only being nice." But that has to do with my low-self-confidence,

Actually, my low-self-confidence is getting better ...

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Kewlkat

04-02-2002, 10:09 AM

Aaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww ty, Jackie u r sweet... All I can say is its not me(thankgod)but, I feel really bad for the person it is and wish I could break the cycle.

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JerryTaker

04-02-2002, 11:02 AM

I agree that nobody can give someone else self confidence, hence "self" confidence.
Sorry to reference myself again, but sometimes I'm the only person who'll talk to me :-)
I know my lack of self confidence comes from being constantly reminded that I don't matter as a human being. I've convinced myself of this, and I know I've convinced myself of this,
but I still can't "undo" it, and the best anyone else can do is give me advice, but not "restore" my self confidence...

anyway, that's my $.02, feel free to throw pennies at me if you don't like it....

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Poison Ivy

04-02-2002, 11:06 AM

Self confidence is something that comes from inside yourself. No one can give it to you no matter how much they try. People can tell you how pretty, smart, etc. you are but if one person says something negative you are more likely to believe the negative comments. To most people the bad stuff is always easier to believe. The thing you have to remember that no matter what anyone says no one is any better or worse than anyone else, just different. Just be yourself and don't try to please anyone else. Don't worry about who's prettier or smarter or nicer, it's who you are on the inside that will endear you to people. And fuck the ones that think otherwise ;)

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Jackie Sloan

04-02-2002, 11:17 AM

Thanx NJB, this issue always reaches me. Self confidence is the key to it all, that's nice that you're helping your friend. List your Email! Or not...

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burns like a furnace
The burnin' keeps me alive

Kewlkat

04-02-2002, 01:10 PM

:P List yours and I'll get in touch with ya :P

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HordeKing1

04-04-2002, 08:51 PM

NJBYTCH - Self confidence is among the utmost of important qualities to possess. Yet it elludes a great many people and is dificult to obtain.

Many therapists approach it from a "strengths perspective;" which as the name implies looks towards the innate inner strengths a person possesses, some of which they might not even recognize, and use these strenghts to bolster self confidence, coping techniques, etc. Once the person starts to understand that they have something about which to take pride in, self confidence in other areas is more easily achieved.

Everyone can develop self confidence. Often though the lack of self confidence is a SYMPTOM of the underlying problem or issue that's causing that specific behavior.

Therapy works wonders.

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