Did You Ever Miss Somebody???? [Archive]

reeshy

07-12-2004, 09:45 PM

As some people know, I lost my wife a little over 4 years ago. A day doesn't go by that I don't think about her or something reminds me of her. You think by now, I would have been over her but I guess I'm wrong. Have any of you gone through something like this. I guess it's normal but it still hurts nonetheless.

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07-12-2004, 09:52 PM

BoondockSaint

07-12-2004, 09:54 PM

Man, Reeshy. I never knew this about you. I always thought of you as a yongster. This post touched me. I'm sorry for your lose.

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07-12-2004, 09:57 PM

No. I ain't no kid...I'm already retired from one job and have another one...i'm old....almost as old as Heckler!!!! and GVAC!!!!!!

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Melrapuo

07-12-2004, 10:01 PM

I'm sorry for your loss, Reesh. I think whenever you lose someone you love, the feeling never fully goes away. It's just something that everyone has to go through.

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07-12-2004, 10:25 PM

reesh, i honestly feel for you brother. take care of yourself and time will tell. my prayers are with you.

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07-13-2004, 01:28 AM

I'm moving this thread to the "That's Life" forum, since that's where the "serious" threads go...and this one definitely deserves the respect.

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07-13-2004, 02:34 AM

Drugs & Hookers, Hookers & Drugs, will get you through the day,,,

Go take a nice shit, you'll feel better,,,

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Tall_James

07-13-2004, 03:58 AM

i'm old....almost as old as Heckler!!!! and GVAC!!!!!!

Thanks for not mentioning me.

And you're a good egg.

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Jennitalia

07-13-2004, 10:18 AM

I lost 2 people very close to me. One was an ex boyfriend, and the other was a good friend with benefits. They died several years ago, and it still hurts, but not as much as it used to. I still cry when I talk about them.
And for a long time, I missed another ex boyfriend of mine. We were together for 4 years, and were living together. We broke up a few years ago, but it was hard for me to get over. I just had to try and keep myself busy and not constantly think about the past and what could've / should've been. When i did think of him, i tried to focus on the negative things of our relationship. I finally moved on.

Of course, none of my experiences can even come close to what you must be going through, Reeshy.

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 11:07 AM

Thanks for not mentioning me.

That's because the older I get...the more I forget!!!!

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07-13-2004, 11:22 AM

I'm really sorry to hear that... It must be incredibly difficult, more so than I'm sure I can even imagine..

good luck and best wishes to you.

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07-13-2004, 11:44 AM

I'm moving this thread to the "That's Life" forum, since that's where the "serious" threads go

Thanks MoJo!

I've never really lost anyone. Not yet at least. I would have loved to get to know my Grandpa but he's got Alzheimers so I never really knew him.

As for Reeshy, keep your chin up sir.

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07-13-2004, 01:10 PM

Hosp barely missed Lizzie Grubman... eighteen inches, I hear.

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 01:30 PM

You know, this thread wasn't written to solicit sympathy from anyone...although I appreciate it...I was curious how other people cope with lose and how they learn to live with it...

And Hosp...18 inches...I'm impressed ......and scared!!!!!

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Hottub

07-13-2004, 01:45 PM

Reeshy, I for one, did not know. Sorry Brother.
I have never had a loss like that. I can't even imagine how I would react/deal with a loss like that. It has got to be tough as hell. I am pretty sure though, if anything ever happened to one of my kids, I would probably want to do myself in. Then hopefully I would come to my senses and try to cope.
I can't remember who said it but they said "We humans where not born to deal with out-living our children." {paraphrase}
I think it was from "The Civil War"

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Jennitalia

07-13-2004, 01:51 PM

And Hosp...18 inches...I'm impressed ......and scared!!!!!

You should see, or feel, what his hands can do! ;)

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 02:01 PM

Thanks Hottub for the sentiment...but my kids are fine...it was my wife who died...but thanks again!

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East Side Dave

07-13-2004, 02:04 PM

I sympathize, Bad Touch.

And I'm not trying to be funny or out of line here but I miss my dog terribly. Dogs should live longer than fifteen or so years. They should be able to live to, say, a millionty.

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Iamnotatool

07-13-2004, 02:11 PM

Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most.

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 02:17 PM

I miss my mind the most.

I miss your mind too!!!!!!!

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07-13-2004, 05:11 PM

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 05:22 PM

unelss your wife was a 'dog'

FUCK YOU SATCAM...you just crossed the line.

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SatCam

07-13-2004, 05:27 PM

Iamnotatool

07-13-2004, 05:30 PM

Wow, Satcam, that was fucking brutal.

I tend to be a bit of a brutal guy, but, shit, your kidding me right?

I'm goin to hell, but your ass is driving the bus.

EDIT: You were asking?? Bullshit. I can see where you were making a brutal attempt at an off color joke, but c'mon. Just apologize and move on. Ouch.
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07-13-2004, 05:33 PM

reeshy

07-13-2004, 05:43 PM

This is what happens when you don't take reeshy seriously then he posts somthing serious once every six months and you can't take it seriously!!! dammit

When I talk about my wife dying, that's not serious? GROW UP, BOY!!

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JPMNICK

07-13-2004, 06:29 PM

I had 2 cousins dies within a year of each other. Both were 18 at the time. One was killed trying to cross the parkway and was hit by a car. The other one was also killed on the parkway, but he was driving and the tires on his Ford Explorer Exploded. He had 3 of my little cousins in the car with him, along with his girlfriend (who was my best friend who I grew up with). Anyway, they all lived, not a scratch. But he was thrown from the car and killed. Maybe the sadest phone call I have ever gotten. I can not imagine losing someone as close as a wife. That is terrible. I don;t think it will matter how many years pass, you will always be upset. Best of luck man, you are in my thoughts.

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 06:44 PM

That was the purpose of me starting this thread...people to vent over losing the ones they love!! It doesn't matter who they were, wife, lover, cousin, friend....whatever....just to vent and possibl;y feel better....keep going, people ...you're doing good because when you tell me of your experiences and feelings, you're helping me and you!!!!!

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07-13-2004, 07:00 PM

mostly Mom and Grandma... then comes the Granddads...

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 08:35 PM

Wow....thank you, tool, for the support...I thought we would neve agree on anything ...but thanks again, Big Man!!!!

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 08:53 PM

I noticed someting...SatCam edited his post but it doesn't show.....After he called my dead wife a dog ...I want to know from the mods how he did that!!!!

unelss your wife was a 'dog'

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Melrapuo

07-13-2004, 09:22 PM

There have been only two people who have died in my family since I've been alive; my great aunt and my great...aunt. I'm not sure what relation they are to me...one of them was a great aunt, I know that much. Anyway, I didn't really know them too well, and they died when I was fairly young, but seeing the reaction from the rest of my family made me feel like I needed to miss them. One was in her 60's, (forgot her name. I believe she was Aunt Dot...never knew her well cuz she was on my father's side of the family, and we don't really talk to them at all anymore). The other was named Auntie Mill. She was in her mid 90's, very frail, but had a great sense of humor and used to always have little fights with my grandmother, who was her sister. She was fun to be around and very intelligent. I didn't see her a lot (or enough). Maybe only a few weeks out of my whole life. She died a few years ago, and it was hard for my grandmother, as well as everyone else, but we didn't feel too bad because we know she lived a long life, traveling the world, even at such a high age. I do miss her, as well as my grandfather. It's weird, because I never met him, since he died 3 years before I was born, and yet hearing all these stories from my parents and sisters made me wish that I knew him.

On a side note, there was something that I never fully understood. After Aunt Dot's funeral, we had that lunch thing where the whole family met and ate. The weird thing was, it seemed everyone was having fun. I never did understand it at the time, and it took me a bit to figure out what it was all about.

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07-13-2004, 09:30 PM

...I want to know from the mods how he did that!!!!

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mikeyboy

07-13-2004, 09:31 PM

Reeshy, I can't even fathom such a losss. My heart goes out to you.

I want to know from the mods how he did that!!!!

Do the white text test.

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 09:34 PM

On a side note, there was something that I never fully understood. After Aunt Dot's funeral, we had that lunch thing where the whole family met and ate. The weird thing was, it seemed everyone was having fun. I never did understand it at the time, and it took me a bit to figure out what it was all about.

If your of Irish descent, that's what we always did after the funeral...a lot of food , booze and laughing and crying...a lot of story telling about the expoloits of the deceased.

I think that a lot of us have to talk and vent about our losses. Recently, I've been doing a lot of thinking about all the people that I have lost during my life. I'm not depressed about it ...just want to come to terms with it. Sometimes . I know I get depressed but this time I'm not . I just want to remember and honour the memory of my beloved lost ones. I don't think I'm alone!!

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TheMojoPin

07-13-2004, 10:01 PM

It's the healthy thing to do, reesh.

honour

I always knew you were ALL CLASS, baby.

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 10:18 PM

always knew you were ALL CLASS, baby.

You just realized that after almost 3 years together????????????

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ChickenHawk

07-13-2004, 10:38 PM

I never knew this about you Reeshy and I'm sorry to hear it. I don't think that because it's been 4 years you should be OVER IT. That's something you really won't ever get over and you shouldn't expect to get over. No guilt in that. Stay strong brotha.

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reeshy

07-13-2004, 10:43 PM

Thank you, mr. Hawk!!!!! it doesn't hurt me anymore.....it's just that I wanted to share it with othe rpeople so that thay could come out and talk about their experiences...that's all!!

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IrishAlkey

07-14-2004, 12:13 AM

I knew this about Reesh.

It's a piece of his past that makes me love and respect him more.

He's like the grandpa that never touched me...

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07-14-2004, 05:23 AM

I've lost quite a few people in my life...some I've met and some I haven't...my mom's dad died in '68 of a heartattack in St. Patrick's Cathedral....she says he would have liked me and that he was a devout Catholic....my dad's brother Eddie died in '88 (I think)....never met him either...my aunt Jeanetter..she died in '94...she had AIDS I think...she always used ot call me munchkin...that was probably the first death I ever experienced....in August '96 my cousin who I was close with died of an OD....in November 1996 my uncle who was like a second father to me took his own life...that one hit me hard because i always felt like I never told him how much I appreciated him....then about a month and a half ago my grandmother couldn't take the suffering anymore.....so she died it hasn't been as hard on me as it has my mother...she lost her mother her father and her only brother...I guess you just have to let them go eventually and move on and realize that they'll always be alive in your heart and your mind..and btw Reeshy I'm really sorry about what happened to you

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Iamnotatool

07-14-2004, 05:51 AM

Reeshy, no sweat. I'm actually not that much of a prick, I"m just drawn that way.

Alkey, didn't all 4 of your Grandfather's touch you?

I always thought Reeshy was a youngster. Good to know you are an old bastard.

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AngelAmy

07-14-2004, 07:43 AM

my grandfather and great grandmother died in the same year.

I was very very close with my grandfather so it was extremely hard for me. i was hardon myself for a while because i could not bring myself to see him in the hospital for the longest time. it was too hard for me to even think of him like that let alone to see him like that, i didnt want him to see me cry. the last time i saw him was for our birthdays (his was sept 1st and mine is the 9th) when we were saying goodbye we hugged and he said goodbye and i love you, but it wasnt like the other times. it was almost like he knew it would be the last time we would see eachother.

i didnt walk up to the casket until the day of the burial. we got there before everyone did. i at the casket all by myself and just looked, i stood there for 15 minutes and cried. i appologized for not going to see him and told him how much i would miss him and all that stuff.

it still is hard for me, i dont think you ever fully get over it. the littlest thing can remind you of it and set you off.....
for example, i was in church and everything was going normally. it was time to sing one of the songs and it was one of the songs that was sung at the funeral. i couldnt get through the words and i had to leave the room because i started hysterically crying.

i remember when i was a wee angel he told me that when he died he would leave me the chain that he always wore that had the sign of virgo on it. a few weeks after he died i still hadnt gotten it so i thought maybe he forgot he ever said that to me, but on christmas my grandmother gave it to me....i never forgot and neither did he.

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07-14-2004, 07:50 AM

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07-18-2004, 05:31 PM

I miss my godfather. he died when I was like 8 or 9 Of a brain tumor. It was hard for me cause I just felt the closest to him besides his 4 other children

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07-18-2004, 05:35 PM

My dad died in 1988, a month before my 21st birthday. I'm 37 now. I graduated college. Established myself in a good career. Own my my apartment. I did well for myself but not a day goes by I don't think about my dad.

I'd give it all up just to be able to talk to him again. So, yes, I've missed somebody.

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Evilpete

07-20-2004, 08:32 PM

I lost my uncle around last christmas. I miss him a lot. What hurts most is that I was at the hospital watching him slowly die and felt helpless that I couldn't help him. All I could have done was be there and help comfort my Aunt (who I drove to and from the hospital everyday). I chose to stop looking for work at the time to help them out, especially since my Aunt had no other way get to the hospital during the day (she has parkensons disease and my cousin could only take her at night for a half hour).

I had gotten a lot of grief from family members for making this choice and helping them, but most of it stopped at the funeral, when some of these critics saw how thankful my Aunt and cousins were for what I did. I miss him a lot, especially when he would tell me stories about some of my relatives when they were younger. I learned a lot from him and for that I'm grateful for that.

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07-21-2004, 05:04 AM

im missing somebody now. cant wait to see him this weekend.

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07-21-2004, 09:22 PM

everyday. and every little thing reminds me of that person.

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Lumber

07-21-2004, 09:43 PM

I miss her very much & the little one would have been 7 yrs. old. June 6, 2004

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reeshy

07-21-2004, 09:52 PM

I miss her very much & the little one would have been 7 yrs. old

I know what exactly what you're talking about, Dude!!! We've spoken about this face to face!!! You also know of my losses. One thing I've learned is to remember them and then put them behind you..I know it's the hardest thing that you can do and it will always hurt....but you will survive and go on.....Peace, Bro!!!!

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monsterone

07-21-2004, 09:56 PM

i'm not sure about most of you, but i find a lot of strength from those beyond. once i was past most of my grief, i found my mother communicating with me and leading me in directions.

maybe it's just me and i'm a lil loony, but i still receive bits of wisdom.

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reeshy

07-21-2004, 10:34 PM

maybe it's just me and i'm a lil loony, but i still receive bits of wisdom.

You know Monsterone,

I think you're right...Whenever I want to do something wrong or not in my nature, I hear my wife in the background telling me not to do it...just like when she was alive!!!!!

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