Hurt Feelings

[reeshy]

Has someone ever said something very hurtful to you that you just couldn't take it?? Has someone basically just "spit"in your face and you couldn't take it any more??

Last night , on the board. I was called a drunk..I have been sober since 1989..i.t was a long road but I still walk it...

it really hurt ...and I'm not asking for an apology...I know I won't get it....But I forgive him...for if I don't...it will tear me apart...and I can't allow this person to do that to me....I just forgive him...


How do you cope with people hurting you???

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[JPMNICK]

I try not to let petty things get to me. If someone who I cared about insulted me it owuld be one thing. Nothing a stranger says anymore can get to me. I could be in a bar and someone coudl mouth off to me. I would either offer hima drink or leave. I am not to proud to walk away, better than spending a night in jail.

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[JerryTaker]

I know I'm a horrible person, so anything horrible anyone says about me is probably deserved. I try to find a way to make myself a better person, but lately I've been a miserable failure in that category.

Honestly, I'd usually just hope that person shoots me in the face, but if he doesn't.... well, I've given up defending myself, becasue I know I'm not worth it.

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[A.J.]

Has someone ever said something very hurtful to you that you just couldn't take it??

Yes. My grandmother nags me for still being unmarried.

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[reeshy]

Yes. My grandmother nags me for still being unmarried


Only 'cause she loves you!!!

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[Arienette]

things like that are very tough to deal with, but you have to look seriously at where it's coming from. i can't say that i've never gotten upset by something that someone said to me on the board, but it could never be all that hurtful. it's just a message board, and you have to realize that most of the people on it don't even know enough about you to try to hurt you. it's sort of just a lucky shot.

i think it's far more upsetting if someone that you knew personally were to say that to you. that i would take to heart and have a much harder time with. in my opinion, if someone would pick out the one thing that they know will hurt you most just to get to you, they are not much of a friend, or anyone that you need to associate yourself with further. forgiveness is one thing, but you also have to learn what people are worth. it's unfortunate that, often, we misjudge that.

and i guess the most important thing is just dealing with the underlying issue from your end. if someone can say something to upset you that much, it's because the thing bothers you immensly. in your case, you've done a great job of dealing with your past problem and moving forward. you should be proud of that, and nothign anyone else could say will change that.

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[East Side Dave]

When I get hurt I think of Mojo's grandmother nagging him for being unmarried. John F. Kennedy bachelor son-of-bitch!!

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[Tall_James]

Yes. My grandmother nags me for still being unmarried.

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[FUNKMAN]

i was at my nephews graduation party and my sister-in-law hired a comedian out of the yellow pages... when he first walked in he came near our table and said something that i didn't hear clearly and he made a comment that i was 'old'... i would have to admit for the first time in my life i got a 'little hurt' receiving that comment...

so i had more wine and it was all better...

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[Yerdaddy]

I think the only thing that I will never accept being said about me is someone questioning my patriotism. If it's said to my face I will clock anyone regardless of the consequences. Other than that I think I'm unoffendable. Oh, and I won't accept being accused of making up words like unoffendable. I'll clock you.

Reeshy, I've got 8 years of sobriety. I've been insulted once or twice for that over the years, but I've still got my 8 years. You still have 15 years. No one can take that away from you but you. Congratulations.

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[JohnnyCash]

Im pretty thick skinned when it comes to people offending me or hurting my feelings. I think the only thing that would probably hurt my feelings is someone questioning my loyalty or not trusting me when I feel like I have proven myself to them.

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[Furtherman]

Everything was fine for me down in Florida as I walked down the road past this little house when someone called me a drunk Communist. So I killed them all. Other than that, I try and shake things off when insulted.

I find myself hanging on to moments when I hurt someone else's feelings, and feeling worse.

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[JohnnyCash]

I find myself hanging on to moments when I hurt someone else's feelings, and feeling worse.


Yeah, thats what gets to me too more than having my own feelings hurt. I can get over it when it happens to me but when its someone else I just feel awful.

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[whoopsy]

Someone in the Politics and CE section called Moslems animals and said that liberals didn't understand that we are at war until we lose someone we know or ourselves.

Knowing Moslems and having lost a friend in 9/11, I found these statements hurtful.

No one is guiltless on this board - congrats on the 15 years of sobriety.

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[fiestygal]

yes of course...people are asses

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[curtoid]

As Johnny Cash said, I'm also pretty thick skinned when it comes to stuff said on internet message boards. I've been on these things long enough to know that so much is just bullshit that I can't let annoymous strangers bum me out.

Now...in real life, I am a big time pussy. I get my feelings hurt all the time! LOL! The worst is if you have kids your life, and they don't like something you say or do, and they say they hate you, and then know just what to say to go in for the kill!

I get most offended if someone who I have bent over backwards for takes it for granted, and abuses it, and doesn't ever feel the urge to go that extra mile for me. That sometimes really bums me out.



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[Katylina]

Yes. Espeically on the board. They know nothing about me or my life or my ambitions, yet they continually try to hurt me over and over and over. Do they know what it feels like to teach a student who has no speech to speak? Do they know what it is like to immerse themselves in learning about history through reading? Do know they know what it is to be dedicated to a cause and to be so in love with it that it fills your every pore? No-- they know nothing about me at all. And reeshy, I bet they know nothing about you either.

At first, I let it get to me, but then I realized that these people must have their own issues if they feel the need to strike out at people who have never done anything to them ever. I would understand it if I had personally did something so dispicable that I would deserve the meanness, but it's simply spiteful hate. You got to let it roll off of you and realize that it doesn't really matter because you DO have people who know, love, and respect you in real life. When someone does something to mean to me now, I go in the bathroom and "wipe away" the negativitity. A wise psychic taught me that, and it makes me feel better. Another good thing is to laugh at things and find some humor in everything.

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[Mr.Angelino]

Last night , on the board. I was called a drunk..I have been sober since 1989..i.t was a long road but I still walk it...


I'm the one that said this to him after he carried a disagreement from one thread to another. He repeatedly called me a supporter of pedophilia and I returned the compliment with similar sentiments.

I tried to quote directly from the thread titled "Why Mojo Why" where a member was upset over an apparent abuse of power from "TheMojoPin". That thread is no where to be found as far as I can see. Odd or maybe just convenient.

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[JPMNICK]

I could care less what was said, but your name is hysterical and so is the sig.

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[keithy_19]

Someone very close to me called me miserable. She said I was always miserable. I am upset more then I should be and that really hurt.

Edit:It wasn't like she was fooling around with me neither. She meant it. And it was right, but it really hurt.

I also had something else but it just really bothers me and I don't feel like writing it out and remembering.

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[JPMNICK]

why did she call you miserable. One specific incident or just from being arounf you a lot (not making fun, seriously asking).

If it was a single incident, forget it. If not, forget it anyway. She was probably 15 and being an idiot anyway.

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[sr71blackbird]

I take things to heart too, I dont think theres anything truly wrong with it, but you have to know that when it happens that its being said by a person who is inherently faulty and imprefect. I have noticed something about what you post about and I think your in pain and feeling a loss and I hope you know its ok to grieve for that loss. If it ever gets beyond you, reach out.

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[keithy_19]

why did she call you miserable.


She didn't have a date to prom and her mom said she should take me.(Her parents love me)She said she didn't take me because I would have been miserable there. I told her I wouldn't, and I honestly wouldn't. She said, Keith you're always miserable.

I dunno...it just really hurts and rings in my head from time to time...

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[Tenbatsuzen]

Katylina's "please feel sorry for me because EVERYBODY picks on me" post.


Actually, not all people blindly single you out because they don't know you and just want to trash you because they can. And please don't think people don't know you because of what you do in your "daytime life". People see you for how your portray yourself in your posts, your behavior at events, the way you dress, and other assorted traits. That is more than enough to make an assumption and therefore create a negative behavioral pattern towards you.

People trash you because of your actions towards them, whether you realize or not.

Whorish behavior, attention-getting or straight out acting like a sexual buffoon is a good way to get on a person's shit list, just like acting like a total control-freak hothead psychopath when someone is having a really bad reaction to alcohol and painkillers.

So please, don't pull the "woe is me" shit. People will see you for how you portray yourself. You want to be seen as a nice person with a big heart? Clean up your act.

EDIT: And Katylina, if you'd like a laundry list of things you've done to me alone to piss me off - and wonder why I act the way I do towards you - I'd be more than happy to provide them to you, either in a PM or in this thread.





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[JPMNICK]

She didn't have a date to prom and her mom said she should take me.(Her parents love me)She said she didn't take me because I would have been miserable there. I told her I wouldn't, and I honestly wouldn't. She said, Keith you're always miserable.

I dunno...it just really hurts and rings in my head from time to time...



Sucks... but use it to better yourself. Next time you want to say something miserable or complain, take a step back and maybe don't say it. You should try and convince people your problem has made you stronger, not weaker (even though it probably does).

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[JPMNICK]

Whorish behavior, attention-getting or straight out acting like a sexual buffoon is a good way to get on a person's shit list, just like acting like a total control-freak hothead psychopath when someone is having a really bad reaction to alcohol and painkillers.


Have you 2 hung out before?

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[Tenbatsuzen]

Have you 2 hung out before?



I could start with something that happened at Rock and Ribs. Who's ready for Uncle Matty's story time?


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Someone called me a fat ass once. And I cried like the fat little bitch I was. If someone calls me that now, chances are I'm stronger than they are, and I'd either A) tell them off, or B) kick their ass.

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[keithy_19]

Next time you want to say something miserable or complain, take a step back and maybe don't say it.


Oh I know. The funny thing is though, she was one of the reasons I was miserable. How would you like it if the person you were infatuated with kept on reminding you of how your brothers were hotter then you?

If one good thing came from it, and other events, it's that I stopped loving her.

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[sr71blackbird]

Actually, not all people blindly single you out because they don't know you and just want to trash you because they can. And please don't think people don't know you because of what you do in your "daytime life". People see you for how your portray yourself in your posts, your behavior at events, the way you dress, and other assorted traits. That is more than enough to make an assumption and therefore create a negative behavioral pattern towards you.

People trash you because of your actions towards them, whether you realize or not.

Whorish behavior, attention-getting or straight out acting like a sexual buffoon is a good way to get on a person's shit list, just like acting like a total control-freak hothead psychopath when someone is having a really bad reaction to alcohol and painkillers.

So please, don't pull the "woe is me" shit. People will see you for how you portray yourself. You want to be seen as a nice person with a big heart? Clean up your act.

EDIT: And Katylina, if you'd like a laundry list of things you've done to me alone to piss me off - and wonder why I act the way I do towards you - I'd be more than happy to provide them to you, either in a PM or in this thread.




Tenbat.. Consider carefully where you go with this and keep in mind that she is my friend and I have a tendency to be very protective of my friends. I have known her for a while now both on the board and in person and nothing I see about any part of her behavior or style of clothing justifies what you say in your post or storys on your blog. I am letting you know now, youll keep it civil, never bring her up again or talk negatively about her in any format or you will know my wrath.

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[reeshy]

Tenbatsuzen,

You/ve been on my case in the past.....I don't fucking care anymore...leave Katylina alone...its's very evident that you have an agenda here....go fuck off ...I've met you once before and I didn't like you then...take it wlsewhere!!

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[reeshy]

Mike,

I jsut sent a PM to someone...seems to be working fine

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[Tenbatsuzen]

I am letting you know now, youll keep it civil, never bring her up again or talk negatively about her in any format or you will know my wrath.



HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.


"Feel my wrath?" Who the hell are you, Dr. Doom?

That post is about as civil as I get, man.

Whether you want to accept it or not, a lot of people don't like Katylina, just like a lot of people don't like me.

Unlike Katylina, I understand and accept why people don't like me.

Unlike Katylina, I won't put up a sob story post propping up how great I am while begging for validation.



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[reeshy]

That post is about as civil as I get, man. Whether you want to accept it or not, a lot of people don't like Katylina, just like a lot of people don't like me. Unlike Katylina, I understand and accept why people don't like me.


You're right about the "civil" part...you go out of your way to make enemies and you got them!!!


And alot of people DO like Katylina...I'm one of them...accept that very few people like you...you must have some ego issue!!!!!!

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[reeshy]

Yiou know what it sounds like, Ten...you tried to proposition Katylina and she turned you down cold for the fag you are ....now you're pissed!!!!

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[Tenbatsuzen]

Honestly, I thought about it, and I'm NOT going to get into why I personally don't like Katylina.

However, as you can note in my post, I tried to be as civil as I can without trashing her.

I have a major problem with people attention-whoring and seeking validation when it's quite obvious what the problem is.



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