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saveopieanthony.net

02-27-2006, 02:56 PM

<div>My girl "ran out" of birth control pills this weekend...and she told me after we had been drinking all night right before we were going home to bang....after we fucked I got nervous about the whole thing with her not being on the pill.... she said something like "why does it make you nervous" and I was like "I don't want to knock you up...I want to tell my and your parents we're getting married before i'm having a kid..." and she was saying stuff like "it wouldn't be so bad..." and I was like "what are you talking about..." She said we were having sex for the "wrong reasons" and I was saying "the wrong reason? can't it be for two people to feel closer?" I think she's fucked up in the head...anyway I wore a bag - two bags the first time...and I think i'm ok..but I'm fucking nervous and swear i'm not letting her put me in that position again... Either way i'm thinking this chick is fucking with my head...girls is it THAT BIG A DEAL to be on the pill? She keeps complaining about how she's going to gain weight, not be wet (which happened when she first started), moody, irribitable..but I don't see the trade off.. I mean...it feels better without a bag but I'm willing to wear one for both of us...why can't she fucking take a pill once a day?</div>

sr71blackbird

02-27-2006, 03:02 PM

11th: Essene & Chinese birth controls must reduce birth or Easter Isle type overpopulation destroys God's Spaceship Earth! God's law prevents all conception below pH3. Therefore, Essene contracepted for 400 years with rosehips, pH2! So, absolute clean, apply vaseline, oil, butter or cream, insert teaspoonful juicy lemon pulp, pH2. O.K.! Next day, douche with qt. soapy water, pH8, restoring pH5 balance God made! Eggwhite is pH9, Dr. Bronner's Soap, pH8, guaranteed the mildest made; below pH8 soaps biodegrade, synthetic-sulfides cannot. At conception, 10 grams contain 100 million humans! or... 10 humans in 1 invisible microgram - smaller than dust! Absolute cleanliness is Godliness! Then, who else but God gave man Love that can spark mere dust to life! The Moral ABC, uniting All One, brave, all life. Who else but God! Who else! (see Eucalyptus-Peppermint & SalSuds qts.) Our Brother's Teacher of the Moral ABC mason Hillel taught carpenter Jesus to unite all mankind free! If you can keep your head when all around you are losing theirs and blaming it on you! If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, and yet make allowance for their doubting too! If you can wait and not be tired by waiting or being lied about, don't deal in lies! 0r being hated, don't give way to hating, and yet don't look too good nor talk too wise! if you can dream and not make dreams your master! If you can think and not make thoughts your aim! If you can meet with triumph or disaster and treat those two imposters just the same! If you can bear to hear the full-truth you have spoken twisted by crooks to make a trap for fools! Or watch the things that you have given your life to broken, and stoop to build them up again with worn out tools! If you can make one heap of all your winnings and risk it at one turn of pitch or toss! And lose and start again at your beginnings and never breathe a word about your loss! 

This message was edited by sr71blackbird on 2-27-06 @ 7:03 PM

GwEnYpOo

02-27-2006, 03:10 PM

No.1: im on the pill myself , it's really not such a big deal , there are hardly any side effects and no it's not that hard to remember once a day.im actualy much happieer , i look better  , feel better , and have less mood swings duping PMS from the birth control .No.2:i think your reason for wanting to have sex is exactly on target . what reason does she say you're supposed to have sex?No.3:condoms are pretty effective , but never waer 2 , they break easier that wayNo.4: it sounds like you guys are at 2 totally different places in your relationship if she thinks it would be no big deal to get pregnant and the thought , upsets you . i would have a seriouse conversation with her about that. on the whole i don't think you have to be worrying about being pregnant you're probably fine , but maybe she should take a test just in case . i personally never have sex without taking the pill and a condom .

GwEnYpOo

02-27-2006, 03:13 PM

sr , have you had any recent neuro surgery? doesn't matter you're STILL awesome man .

sr71blackbird

02-27-2006, 03:16 PM

Hahaha!!  I saw that years ago on a bottle of Soap believe it or not!  LOL

GwEnYpOo

02-27-2006, 03:19 PM

DEAR LORD , on soap?!that is so disturbing.

Hottub

02-27-2006, 03:26 PM

Death Metal Moe

02-27-2006, 03:58 PM

I'll say the same thing to you here as I did in your wackbag.com thread about this.<div>When people stop being honest, it can only lead to bad things. That goes for any aspect of life really.</div>

Bulldogcakes

02-27-2006, 04:11 PM

<img border="0" src="http://adweek.blogs.com/photos/uncategorized/michaeljackson_4.jpg" /> "I used to worry about this stuff too. So I started fucking underage boys in the ass.Now THAT'S some reliable birth control right there!"    

This message was edited by Bulldogcakes on 2-27-06 @ 8:12 PM

angelinad128

02-27-2006, 04:15 PM

If you guys had sex within the first week of her going off the pill, you dont have to worry. There are so many verisions of the pill with different doses that she doesnt have to worry about mood swings. If that is a concern she needs to talk to her doc about that.  I am on the pill & have been ffor a few years I dont have a problem. I take it in the morning as part of my daily routine, maybe she can take it when se brushes her teeth at night, it doesnt need to be in the morning, just around the same time of day everyday. I can personally say that I have had no problems with being dry or not wet. She needs to relax, those situations happen because she has something blocking her mentally.  

Heather 8

02-27-2006, 04:39 PM

If she's so worried about the side effects, there are different
forms of birth control out there.  I prefer the NuvaRing myself,
having had very bad experiences with the Pill and the Depo shot. 
But seriously, both of you need to discuss contraception
plans.  Waiting till the last minute to tell you she was "out of
pills" (whether that truly was the case or not) is just irresponsible
on her part.  Kudos to you for being willing to wear a bag, though.

ShelleBink

02-27-2006, 05:35 PM

I remember being freaked out about the side effects before I started birth control, but now that I have ((the patch)) I adore it.  Personally, I know I am not ready for the responsibility of a child since I'm still in college and financially dependent.  Since being on the patch, I gained a little weight, but that also can be attributed to my decline in exercising since I'm away at school, not to mention my change in diet.  My advice would be to discuss this whole thing with your girlfriend.  You seem like a responsible, honest guy and have enough good sense to not want to get yourself in a situation in which you would be responsible for a child before you are ready to.  Not sure if this helps, but its just some observations on my part.

Reephdweller

02-27-2006, 05:59 PM

going home to bangYou lost me right there.

ShelleBink

02-27-2006, 06:58 PM

Reefdweller wrote:  going home to bang You lost me right there.  They were out drinking.  They went home.  To bang.God damn old people... unable to comprehend things anymore... I'll have Amy make ya some flashcards :o)

INFOSTUD

02-27-2006, 07:09 PM

Dude...keep your bases covered in the birth control arena. Use condoms!!! The only person calling you "Daddy" should be the woman you're having sex with. The "why does it make you nervous" and it wouldn't be so bad..." comments should be a BIG WARNING!!! She's either playing head games or testing you. The next comment from her might be: "oh...by the way I stopped using the pill a month ago." Apparently, she has no concept of how hard it is to raise children. It's absolutely brutal raising kids in today's society--even for married couples who willingly had the kids. Have children and your life as you know it is gone for at least the next 18 years.No birth control...NO SEX!!!I say DUMP HER...it really looks like she's playing games. 

This message was edited by INFOSTUD on 2-27-06 @ 11:24 PM

Reephdweller

02-27-2006, 08:33 PM

ShelleBink wrote:  Reefdweller wrote:  going home to bang  You lost me right there.  They were out drinking.  They went home.  To bang.God damn old people... unable to comprehend things anymore... I'll have Amy make ya some flashcards :o)  Actually I thought the phrase "to bang" was soooo old.

ShelleBink

02-27-2006, 08:46 PM

Reefdweller wrote: ShelleBink wrote: Reefdweller wrote: going home to bang You lost me right there. They were out drinking. They went home. To bang.God damn old people... unable to comprehend things anymore... I'll have Amy make ya some flashcards :o) Actually I thought the phrase "to bang" was soooo old.   You would know, oldtimer <img border="0" src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/bye.gif" />

Reephdweller

02-28-2006, 03:00 AM

Jennitalia

02-28-2006, 04:14 AM

I went on the pill when I was 18.  It's more reliable than the condom.  I'm too lazy to look up %s, but I believe, when used properly, the pill's effectiveness is 97%, and the condom is 85%.    Personally, I prefer the pill because it regulates my period.  I like knowing that on the fourth Tuesday of every month, my vag will start bleeding.  I don't like having to worry if my period is just late cuz my ovaries are slow or if I really am knocked up.  It also reduces my cramps, which were really bad before i went on the pill.   There are also several different kinds of pills, so if your girl isnt happy with one, she should try another one.  I'm on my fourth pill.  I've had a few scares, meaning, on occasions when i skipped a day or two on the pill and tried to catch up, my period, which would always be on a certain day, would show up a few days later.  But, just because my body reacts that way, doesn't mean another person won't get pregnant if she skips a pill or two.  If you think she's going to intentionally or unintentionally miss her pills, you should definitely bag it.  Take responsibility for yourself.  You dont need the additional stress and worries of having a kid, especially at your age.

saveopieanthony.net

02-28-2006, 05:38 AM

thanks all....I talked with her and she understood where I was coming from...she said she didn't mean the whole "would it be so bad" thing was meant like that...it was more about a committment thing as opposed to actually having a kid.  I also told her if she waited until after we had sex (instead of telling me right before we went home after a night of drinking) I would've broken up with her....because I wouldn't be able to trust her...and that scared her so she's testing herself today.She is getting a test today but confident we're fine.  She also said she wouldn't let this come between us again...I brought it up a while ago and she got a month from her doctor but needs to go to a OBGYN to get more...and she can't until she schedules an appointment.. Remember I only came once and instantly ran out..(i didn't cum with the two condoms on, and didn't know that was a mistake...i feel like a retard...) BY the way, she's from texas...although her parents are "Tex/mexican"

Bulldogcakes

02-28-2006, 02:01 PM

saveopieanthony.net wrote:BY the way, she's from texas...although her parents are "Tex/mexican"  <img width="200" height="200" border="0" src="http://www.artistdirect.com/Images/Sources/AMGCOVERS/music/cover200/drc600/c677/c6778383vdf.jpg" /> <blockquote />

SatCam

02-28-2006, 04:46 PM

i'm not letting her put me in that position again..

Literally!

punching out

Hottub

02-28-2006, 04:50 PM

LordJezo

03-15-2006, 11:44 AM

Things.. 1) The patch is supposed to be a killer.  Girlfriend told me that you now need to sign a waiver in order to get it.  Doubles risk of blod clots or soemthing.2) If you are on the pill how do you deal with the weekends?  Taking it every morning or so during the week wouldn't be a problem but say you take it at 7am M-F but on Sa, Sun. you sleep in to 11:30 because of a late night.  Would that totally screw everything up?  Do you set an alarm to wake you up at dawn on those days just so you can take the pill?

SinA

03-15-2006, 11:49 AM

you need reasons?

Jennitalia

03-15-2006, 12:04 PM

LordJezo wrote: Things..  2) If you are on the pill how do you deal with the weekends?  Taking it every morning or so during the week wouldn't be a problem but say you take it at 7am M-F but on Sa, Sun. you sleep in to 11:30 because of a late night.  Would that totally screw everything up?  Do you set an alarm to wake you up at dawn on those days just so you can take the pill? No.  They tell you to take it around the same time of day so that it becomes part of your daily routine, and that way, you're less likely to forget to take it.

JerseyRich

03-15-2006, 12:07 PM

INFOSTUD wrote:  The only person calling you "Daddy" should be the woman you're having sex with.   Umm...Did no one else catch this?Shame on you Infostud!

GwEnYpOo

03-15-2006, 12:28 PM

what's wrong with that?

ShelleBink

03-15-2006, 12:44 PM

Jennitalia wrote: No. They tell you to take it around the same time of day so that it becomes part of your daily routine, and that way, you're less likely to forget to take it.   In terms of "around the same time" how close does it have to be?  Within the hour or less?

Jennitalia

03-15-2006, 12:52 PM

personally, i take them first thing in the morning.  for me, it's easier to remember.  Or, you could take it around lunchtime, dinner time, bedtime...whatever is easier to fit into your schedule so that you remember; so that it because part of your routine, like brushing your teeth.it wont affect  you if youre off a few hours. hell, you can skip a day, and it shouldn't  affect things.  as long as you remember to double up the next day. if i forget a day, i'll take one in the morning and one the next day.  but, keep in mind that what may affect my body one way may have another or no affect on somebody else.  it's when you start to skip more than a couple of days that you need still double up until you catch up, and to be safe, use something else.  i think i mentioned before that i've skipped mauybe 4 days, because i was lazy in getting over to the pharmacy, but i've never had any problems, other than my period coming later.  In that instance, i got my period on a thursday when i shouldve had it on a tuesday.

MilkmanDann

03-15-2006, 02:13 PM

Whatever happened to just pulling out? )