I've never gotten over my first love [Archive]

ShelleBink

06-19-2006, 03:27 PM

I started talking to an ex again... and I realized how many feelings I still have for him after all these years ((6 and counting... considering I"m 22, its like a lifetime)).  Yes, I know that ex's are ex's for a reason, and he's no exception.  It just sucks knowing he will always have a hold on me and a piece of my heart.  Not really complaining, not really happy about it either.

Gvac

06-19-2006, 03:36 PM

I can honestly say I still have an incredible amount of love for each and every one of my exes, even the ones that put me through hell.  When you love someone that much I don't think it ever goes away completely.  Sure, the intensity of the love changes and sometimes you have to make a decision for one reason or another to move on, but they'll always have a place in your heart.

hyperspace

06-19-2006, 03:37 PM

ahhh i remember my first love. turns out she was totaly nuts!!! she didn't smell very good either now that i think about it.....

This message was edited by hyperspace on 6-19-06 @ 7:37 PM

Don Stugots

06-19-2006, 03:39 PM

i feel totally indifferent about my ex's.  i honestly want them to be happy but other than  that i could care less.  i seen ex wife #1 a few weeks, our parents live across the street from each other, she looked fatter, had a kid, just what she wanted.  We didnt say hello or anything, but she did stand there and stare at me as i lit up cigar while talking to my dad. 

reeshy

06-19-2006, 04:08 PM

When me and my first wife split...I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, etc....lucky to just get to work....then I met my second wife......Judy who??????

narc

06-19-2006, 04:46 PM

I don't think anyone totally does. I mostly have, but I've never really gotten over my second one.

TheGameHHH

06-19-2006, 04:48 PM

my ex and i have been broken up for 7 months now, she was my first love and I was with her for 9 years. I still miss her like crazy and all I want is her back. I just try and live my life day to day and if we were meant to be together than one day we will.

Jennitalia

06-19-2006, 04:48 PM

there are only 2 of my ex-boyfriends that still hold a piece of my heart, and who always will.  One of them was killed 9 years ago and the other was a guy i dated in college who i still keep in touch with.  he's married and is expecting his second child.   i couldnt care less about the others i've dated.

Don Stugots

06-19-2006, 04:57 PM

reeshy wrote: When me and my first wife split...I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, etc....lucky to just get to work....then I met my second wife......Judy who?????? i dont what happened, but when i throw ex wife #1 out i was out drinking that same night and woke up next to one of her best friends the next morning.  I then spent the next 6 months drinking and partying heavily.  i was so drunk all the time that my friends were calling me Dean Martin. As for my first love?  i dont think i ever been in love until regina & me started to date.  what we share is so not like any thing i have experienced before in my life.  honestly, i have never been so happy and have someone that didnt insist on changing me like everyother women i have been with in my life.

ShelleBink

06-19-2006, 07:48 PM

Well, I knew I was in trouble when I saw him recently and all those butterfly feelings came back.  I always thought I'd end up with him in the long run, but now that its rapidly becoming a reality, its just so, so strange to me.  I also knew it was a problem when I got fucked up and told him I was still "in love" with him.  I hate my love life.

JoeYaDeadHomey

06-19-2006, 07:53 PM

at least youre not falling hard for one of your best friends sisters.. and arent sure if he's ok with it. yanno like going to his birthday party last saturday.. and not chilling with him or anyone else @ all, and leaving early with her... bad. lol but my first love, still think about her every day, knew her since we were 14, dated from 18-22and a lil bit... havent seen her in 2 years.. not a day goes by. wasn't it sam kinison who said. LOVE STINKS!! YEA YEA!

Gvac

06-20-2006, 02:37 PM

I just had to post the lyrics to one of my favorite Johnny Cash songs ever - "I Still Miss Someone" 
At my door the leaves are falling 
A cold wild wind has come 
Sweethearts walk by together 
And I still miss someone 
 
I go out on a party 
And look for a little fun 
But I find a darkened corner 
because I still miss someone 
 
Oh, no I never got over those blues eyes 
I see them every where 
I miss those arms that held me 
When all the love was there 
 
I wonder if she's sorry 
For leavin' what we'd begun 
There's someone for me somewhere 
And I still miss someone

FUNKMAN

06-20-2006, 02:47 PM

Soldier boy oh my little soldier boy I'll be true to you You were my first love And you'll be my last love I will never make you blue I'll be true to you In the whole world You can love but one girl Let me be that one girl For I'll be true to you Where ever you go My heart will follow I love you so I'll be true to you Take my love with you To any port or foreign shore Darling you must feel for sure I'll be true to you Soldier oh my little soldier boy I'll be true to you. i got nuthin, the thread title just made me think of this sweet tune...i just think back on some girlfriends and just wonder how they are doing... hope they're doing well!

narc

06-20-2006, 02:48 PM

Just as long as nobody posts the lyrics to Nickleback's "Photograph." Makes me want to punch someone.

razorboy

06-21-2006, 01:21 AM

Yeah, I guess that's one of life's more impiteous tricks. At the relatively young age of 25, I can look at my marriage, and understand that it never possibly could have worked. All the while, I still think of the wonderful reasons that we were in love, and still have wistful dreams (literally, dreams) about our time time together. Same goes for the only relationship of any real emotional consequence that I have had since. It's easy to forget one night stands, three month flings, throw away sort of relationships where you are just kind of looking for the companionship and comfort of having another body in bed next to you, and what have you. When you have a deep and real emotional connection with another person, I don't think that ever will, or should, leave you completely. I think that it's there for you to appreciate, and hold close, but most importantly, learn from. Hopefully there are lessons that you can apply to future relationships, to improve odds that the next time you achieve that level of connection, things can turn out differently, and better. I just got off of a twelve hour bartending shift, and am feeling a little loopy, so I hope this didn't come out wrong, or overly sanctimonious. By no means do I think that I have any real answers. Just offering opinion from personal experience. I think, though, that if we didn't hold onto some of those feelings that we would be poorer, emotionally, as human beings.  www.myspace.com/razorboys_iron _lung

This message was edited by razorboy on 6-21-06 @ 5:29 AM

ShelleBink

06-24-2006, 01:44 PM

Oh, no I never got over those blues eyes 
I see them every where 
I miss those arms that held me 
When all the love was there 
<hr width="100%" size="2" /> Its like the words read my mind. <blockquote />

ChimneyFish

06-25-2006, 11:57 AM

Well, I guess I can take solace in the fact that my first love is now as big as a tank.But I've never been more in love than with my most recent ex. God, how I hate her....and miss her. I'm actually kind of happy that I'm not going to be able to make it to my friends wedding, so I don't have to see her and her new fiance(sp??)I could only imagine how bad I would want to get back on the smack after having to spend a weekend with that.

FezPaul

06-25-2006, 12:03 PM

ChimneyFish wrote:  I'm actually kind of happy that I'm not going to be able to make it to my friends wedding, so I don't have to see her and her new fiance(sp??)  Her new fiance' is Spanish?Fiance' is French.(fr.)You spelled it correctly, you just left off the accent.<img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/tongue.gif" border="0" /><img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/wink.gif" border="0" /><img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/cool.gif" border="0" /><img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/tongue.gif" border="0" />

Don Stugots

06-25-2006, 04:26 PM

ChimneyFish wrote: Well, I guess I can take solace in the fact that my first love is now as big as a tank.But I've never been more in love than with my most recent ex. God, how I hate her....and miss her. I will parapharse Ronnie B "Thats how you know you're alive.  Just let the pain just wash over you."  he said it a few weeks ago and I have been thinking about what he said.  In times of happiness you can become complacient with life or even take it for granted.  But when you are suffering from heart break you feel alive but shitty at the same time.   

This message was edited by STUGOTS1 on 6-25-06 @ 8:27 PM

nate1000

06-26-2006, 06:04 AM

razorboy wrote: Yeah, I guess that's one of life's more impiteous tricks. At the relatively young age of 25, I can look at my marriage, and understand that it never possibly could have worked. All the while, I still think of the wonderful reasons that we were in love, and still have wistful dreams (literally, dreams) about our time time together. Same goes for the only relationship of any real emotional consequence that I have had since. It's easy to forget one night stands, three month flings, throw away sort of relationships where you are just kind of looking for the companionship and comfort of having another body in bed next to you, and what have you. When you have a deep and real emotional connection with another person, I don't think that ever will, or should, leave you completely. I think that it's there for you to appreciate, and hold close, but most importantly, learn from. Hopefully there are lessons that you can apply to future relationships, to improve odds that the next time you achieve that level of connection, things can turn out differently, and better. I just got off of a twelve hour bartending shift, and am feeling a little loopy, so I hope this didn't come out wrong, or overly sanctimonious. By no means do I think that I have any real answers. Just offering opinion from personal experience. I think, though, that if we didn't hold onto some of those feelings that we would be poorer, emotionally, as human beings.  www.myspace.com/razorboys_iron _lungThis message was edited by razorboy on 6-21-06 @ 5:29 AM How could this happen to me I've made my mistakes Got nowhere to run The night goes on as I'm fading away I'm sick of this life I just want to scream How could this happen to me eeeeyuck.

walking joint

06-26-2006, 06:12 AM

you mean this ex?Well, you can chalk me up for being a psycho bitch, and I think in this case it might be true.  He and I had a terrible relationship where I was incredibly dependent and in short, the world revolved around him.  He cheated on me, got his ex gf pregnant while we were together, but I still believed he loved me.  Even after several episodes of physical abuse which landed me in the hospital more times than I want to remember wasn't enough to make me realize he couldn't give a shit about me.  It was only after I called him and a girl answered saying "He wants nothing to do with you" which caused me to OD on pills and attempt suicide which landed me in the hospital for a good amount of time.  The two year anniversary of that phone call and subsequent insanity is going to be on the 30th of this month.easy to know why its hard to get over him...sounds like a winner.

angrymissy

06-26-2006, 06:43 AM

nate1000 wrote: How could this happen to me I've made my mistakes Got nowhere to run The night goes on as I'm fading away I'm sick of this life I just want to scream How could this happen to me eeeeyuck. lolololololI got over all of the people I thought I was in "love" with.  In fact, no real realtionship should end as "friends" - fuck em all.  I prefer for relationships to end with hatred.  Makes it a lot easier

Death Metal Moe

06-26-2006, 07:18 AM

Jujubees2

06-26-2006, 07:53 AM

angrymissy wrote: nate1000 wrote: How could this happen to me I've made my mistakes Got nowhere to run The night goes on as I'm fading away I'm sick of this life I just want to scream How could this happen to me eeeeyuck. lolololololI got over all of the people I thought I was in "love" with.  In fact, no real realtionship should end as "friends" - fuck em all.  I prefer for relationships to end with hatred.  Makes it a lot easierAmen Angrymissy,The whole Jerry and Elaine saga on Seinfeld was pure fiction.  While maybe "hate" is too strong a word, I think when a couple breaks up they should go their separate ways.  I've been married for 12 years now but I haven't heard from the last woman who dumped me in almost 20 years!  Though I have heard from my first love but she has beem married for 15+ years and has four kids!

ChimneyFish

06-26-2006, 07:53 AM

angrymissy wrote: I got over all of the people I thought I was in "love" with.  In fact, no real realtionship should end as "friends" - fuck em all.  I prefer for relationships to end with hatred.  Makes it a lot easierIndeed.The last ex and I were "friends". First it was friends who fuck, then it was just friends. Now it's been two years since I've seen her. Should have just gone with that instinct to hate her right off the bat.  I will parapharse Ronnie B "Thats how you know you're alive.  Just let the pain just wash over you."  he said it a few weeks ago and I have been thinking about what he said.  In times of happiness you can become complacient with life or even take it for granted.  But when you are suffering from heart break you feel alive but shitty at the same time.    I forgot about that.I suppose I agree, but I'll give you this:Thank God for alcohol.

Gvac

06-26-2006, 04:03 PM

I've never remained "friends" with an ex in terms of having regular contact with them and hanging out, but I don't hate any of them either.  The type of love you have for them changes, but I'll always wish them well and want the best for them.

reeshy

06-26-2006, 04:13 PM

Gvac wrote: I've never remained "friends" with an ex in terms of having regular contact with them and hanging out, but I don't hate any of them either.  The type of love you have for them changes, but I'll always wish them well and want the best for them.   Even when they're banging your brother??????

ShelleBink

06-29-2006, 03:53 PM

walking joint wrote: you mean this ex? Well, you can chalk me up for being a psycho bitch, and I think in this case it might be true. He and I had a terrible relationship where I was incredibly dependent and in short, the world revolved around him. He cheated on me, got his ex gf pregnant while we were together, but I still believed he loved me. Even after several episodes of physical abuse which landed me in the hospital more times than I want to remember wasn't enough to make me realize he couldn't give a shit about me. It was only after I called him and a girl answered saying "He wants nothing to do with you" which caused me to OD on pills and attempt suicide which landed me in the hospital for a good amount of time. The two year anniversary of that phone call and subsequent insanity is going to be on the 30th of this month. easy to know why its hard to get over him...sounds like a winner.  That one wasn't my first love.  He was definately a "first" something though.  First love I met when I was almost 16, and from the first time I saw him until now I've just always found myself wanting him all along.  And it sucks.

Don Stugots

06-29-2006, 03:55 PM

narc

06-29-2006, 04:32 PM

I've always stayed friends with my girlfriends. Not best buddies. I don't need to talk to them all the time. But I wouldn't feel weird talking to any of them, or hanging out with them. 
My last girlfriend was the opposite. Won't talk to any of her ex-boyfriends and hates them all. We went that way too. I think it all depends on your attitude towards relationships. I've never been one to take it that seriously I guess.
 
I have a harder time with girls who have rejected me. At least the girlfriends were nice enough to date me for a while and give me a chance, and I'm certainly indebted.

Don Stugots

06-29-2006, 04:34 PM

narc wrote: I have a harder time with girls who have rejected me. At least the girlfriends were nice enough to date me for a while and give me a chance, and I'm certainly indebted. who are these bitches that rejected you?

narc

06-29-2006, 05:40 PM

I just am talking about all of them, over the course of my life. It's a lengthy list, unfortunately.

Don Stugots

06-29-2006, 05:41 PM

same here. i cant even remember them all. 

Iamnotatool

06-30-2006, 05:37 AM

I thought you were banging snoogans?

Dougie Brootal

06-30-2006, 05:56 AM

Look at this photograph Every time I do it makes me laugh How did our eyes get so red And what the hell is on Joey's head And this is where I grew....<img src="http://longsutton.play-cricket.com/UploadedFiles/photogallery/4449/63147/jpg/_lg_punch.jpg" border="0" />OWWW!!!narc wrote: Just as long as nobody posts the lyrics to Nickleback's "Photograph." Makes me want to punch someone.

This message was edited by douggrasso on 6-30-06 @ 9:57 AM

abortedfetus

07-03-2006, 05:11 AM

Getting over anyone you've dated is hard even if they called the police and told them you sold drugs once you left her and her 3 shithead kids that you were taking care of by any means.

JerryTaker

08-02-2006, 12:28 PM

being friends with ex's sucks. It's like being rejected all over again and dying a little more inside every time you talk to them; makes me wonder why I keep doing it.

Tenbatsuzen

08-02-2006, 01:17 PM

JerryTaker wrote: being friends with ex's sucks. It's like being rejected all over again and dying a little more inside every time you talk to them; makes me wonder why I keep doing it.    Because you have zero self esteem and you're an emotional masochist.

JerryTaker

08-02-2006, 01:21 PM

oh, yeah. almost forgot. silly me.

PapaBear

08-02-2006, 07:15 PM

I never got over my first love, either. About two weeks ago, she got into contact me through email, for the first time in about 20 years. Of course, she's married. We've had a lot of good friendly talks on the phone and IM. I even went to her house to fix her computer for her. Her husband is a great guy.She told me tonight, he's uncomfortable with us being friends. I don't want to cause problems with her life, so I told her we shouldn't talk anymore. Oh, well.

KC2OSO

08-02-2006, 08:04 PM

Talk Talk -  Living In Another World.mp3

newport king

08-02-2006, 08:17 PM

i had a thing for my first love for awhile but then i came to realize there was a reason it went wrong and as time goes by you forget that.i was focusing in on "what could have been". the reality is i was a young kid. chances are as adults, it wouldnt be the same relationship. so it would never happen.          i'd totally still bang her though.

This message was edited by newport king on 8-3-06 @ 1:44 AM