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ShelleBink

08-20-2006, 06:15 PM

Lately I've been moving away from being attracted to assholes/bad boys and more into the "good boy" image.  I don't know what it is, but something about getting with a "good boy" has been insanely attractive to me as of late.  I never thought I'd see this happen to me...

FUNKMAN

08-20-2006, 06:18 PM

not sure if i mentioned this before but i take the garbage out AND do the dishes... <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/innocent.gif" border="0" />

ShelleBink

08-20-2006, 06:22 PM

Pfft, you already have a kick ass wife.

FUNKMAN

08-20-2006, 06:24 PM

ShelleBink wrote: Pfft, you already have a kick ass wife. that's the problem, she's always kicking my ass    <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/tongue.gif" border="0" />

Tall_James

08-20-2006, 06:24 PM

Nice Guys Finish FirstIf they truly are nice guys they'll let you finish first.

douchebagsean

08-20-2006, 06:28 PM

<hr color="cococo" align="left">Tall_James wrote: <hr color="cococo" align="left">Nice Guys Finish First<hr color="cococo" align="left">If they truly are nice guys they'll let you finish first.<hr color="cococo" align="left">

Bravo buddy, bravo

FUNKMAN

08-20-2006, 06:33 PM

serious Shelle, good for you... hopefully you meet someone who treats ya good and you are good for each other...

NickyL0885

08-20-2006, 08:28 PM

Well, I sure hope i can meet a girl who wants a nice guy. I can't seem to find any here on Long Island. They are non-existent.

UnknownPD

08-20-2006, 08:33 PM

nice guy = nice wallet

PapaBear

08-20-2006, 08:39 PM

I'm a nice guy who's also a felon. Best of both worlds! Too bad I'm fat, old, and broke.

SinA

08-20-2006, 08:45 PM

i'm such a nice guy i always take two girls out at time.  that way they don't have to walk home alone.

Fallon

08-20-2006, 08:54 PM

Nice guy, nice family....

SatCam

08-21-2006, 10:01 AM

I guess Shelle won't be dating any more guys from the site

El Mudo

08-21-2006, 10:10 AM

Well, I sure hope i can meet a girl who wants a nice guy. I can't seem to find any here on Long Island. They are non-existent.

Same here...I've always said i'm the kind of guy girls would want to be with at 32 and not 22

I don't like a lot of things other people my age like, so i get branded as "weird"

ShelleBink

08-21-2006, 11:33 AM

SatCam wrote: I guess Shelle won't be dating any more guys from the site  Probably not, but that's not a definate.

narc

08-21-2006, 11:57 AM

....So you're telling us there's a chance!

hyperspace

08-21-2006, 12:07 PM

not only will i call you the next day, i'll make you breakfast...

Don Stugots

08-21-2006, 12:12 PM

now where was this type of outlook when i was a good guy and single? 

MilkmanDann

08-21-2006, 12:17 PM

If nice guys had to wait for not nice guys for years, isnt that like finishing 2nd-1000th (not gonna guess) ?

Gvac

08-21-2006, 01:23 PM

This is something I've tried to explain to a lot of "nice" guys for quite some time when they complain that they can't get a woman, but I don't think they ever grasp it.  Women are attracted to confidence, and you can be a nice guy and still be confident.  Most nice guys, unfortunately, come across as pussies.  Given a choice between an arrogant, macho douchebag or a milquetoast wallflower, women will more often than not pick the asshole.                                If I had to give a reverse analogy, I guess I'd give the men a choice; you can either have a woman who satisfies you sexually in every way, but is a complete and total embarassment in public.  Your other choice is a classy, elegant, dignified woman who impresses everyone who meets her but is totally frigid and abhors sex.  You'd probably pick the nympho slob.  Some women will say "men just want whores" but that's equally as untrue as guys saying "women only like assholes." We all want the best of both worlds.  Women want a man who is classy and treats them with respect but who also comes across as maculine.  Not a macho jerkoff who walks around like a tough guy, but someone who they feel can handle any situation.   Just like men want their woman to be feminine and soft and pretty, but a tigress when the time calls for it.

terryc35

08-21-2006, 01:37 PM

For what it's worth I call my mom three times a day, visit my nana once a week, and go down on my fiance as often as she wants....just thoughtI'd throw that out their.

Fallon

08-21-2006, 01:45 PM

terryc35 wrote: For what it's worth I go down on my mom three times a day, call my nana once a week, and visit my fiance as often as she wants....just thoughtI'd throw that out their. Weird. 

This message was edited by Fallon on 8-21-06 @ 5:46 PM

SatCam

08-21-2006, 01:46 PM

terryc35 wrote: For what it's worth I call my mom three times a day, visit my nana once a week, and go down on my fiance as often as she wants....just thoughtI'd throw that out their.

You should check out the triple dipping thread

lleeder

08-21-2006, 02:23 PM

terryc35 wrote: For what it's worth I call my mom three times a day, visit my nana once a week, and go down on my fiance as often as she wants....just thoughtI'd throw that out their.thats only nice if their not all the same person

spoon

08-21-2006, 02:41 PM

Just like Ronnie says all the time on the show and Gvac just in this thread, it's all about confidence, an air of arrogance so close to cocky but not. 

JerryTaker

08-21-2006, 03:37 PM

El Mudo wrote: 

Well, I sure hope i can meet a girl who wants a nice guy. I can't seem to find any here on Long Island. They are non-existent.

Same here...I've always said i'm the kind of guy girls would want to be with at 32 and not 22

I don't like a lot of things other people my age like, so i get branded as "weird" I used to hear this a lot, problem is that lots of once "nice guys" get so pissed on, not just by women, but by the rest of the world, so that by the time they get to that point, they're so bitter and hadened that nobody wants to date them anyway.Anyway, when a woman says she wants a "nice guy" and dates him, se invariably gets bored and either cheats or dumps him for another cocky asshole....sorry, it's just how the world works these days.

undressa

08-21-2006, 03:42 PM

I am only trying to date the nice ones also, it is a lot harder then I thought it would be.  My problem is, I need them tall also!!! HELLO ANY NICE TALL GUYS OUT THERE, I am over here waiting<img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/clap.gif" border="0" />

Don Stugots

08-21-2006, 03:49 PM

spoon wrote: Just like Ronnie says all the time on the show and Gvac just in this thread, it's all about confidence, an air of arrogance so close to cocky but not.  i couldnt agree more.  i have a friend that has less game than Earl and every time we hang out he gets pissed at me because though i am not looking  for a woman i get hit on or the waitress buys me a beer or something to show that i got it going on while he is Mr. Lame hand.  all i do is act like i dont give a shit and be some what forword and some what flittery and some what poliet but mostley i act like my poop smells like lilacs.

FezPaul

08-21-2006, 03:52 PM

I'm an ass-hole......and yet I lack confidence.

Tall_James

08-21-2006, 03:53 PM

undressa wrote: I am only trying to date the nice ones also, it is a lot harder then I thought it would be.  My problem is, I need them tall also!!! HELLO ANY NICE TALL GUYS OUT THERE, I am over here waiting<img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/clap.gif" border="0" />Sorry my dear - I'm spoken for.  Just remember though, in your search for a tall man, the way to our hearts is to buy us clothes that fit.

Evilpete

08-21-2006, 04:02 PM

Shellie, you want a nice guy? come talk to me, I'll show you how a real man should treat his lady

Don Stugots

08-21-2006, 04:03 PM

FezPaul wrote: I'm an ass-hole...truer words have never been posted.  god bless you and your insight.

El Mudo

08-21-2006, 04:34 PM

<hr color="cococo" align="left">JerryTaker wrote: El Mudo wrote: 

Well, I sure hope i can meet a girl who wants a nice guy. I can't seem to find any here on Long Island. They are non-existent.

Same here...I've always said i'm the kind of guy girls would want to be with at 32 and not 22

I don't like a lot of things other people my age like, so i get branded as "weird" I used to hear this a lot, problem is that lots of once "nice guys" get so pissed on, not just by women, but by the rest of the world, so that by the time they get to that point, they're so bitter and hadened that nobody wants to date them anyway.Anyway, when a woman says she wants a "nice guy" and dates him, se invariably gets bored and either cheats or dumps him for another cocky asshole....sorry, it's just how the world works these days. <hr color="cococo" align="left">

I'm not bitter at all. I like who I am and I'm confident in myself, but I also refuse to change who I am and what I like just to impress some girl

I'm only 22...im not ready to just give up and hide forever cause I couldn't find a relationship

This message was edited by El Mudo on 8-21-06 @ 8:35 PM

Tall_James

08-21-2006, 05:11 PM

I'm not bitter at all. I like who I am and I'm confident in myself, but I also refuse to change who I am and what I like just to impress some girl I'm only 22...im not ready to just give up and hide forever cause I couldn't find a relationship You certainly have your shit together for a 22 year old.  You'll do well in life.

Don Stugots

08-21-2006, 05:17 PM

Tall_James wrote: I'm not bitter at all. I like who I am and I'm confident in myself, but I also refuse to change who I am and what I like just to impress some girl I'm only 22...im not ready to just give up and hide forever cause I couldn't find a relationship  You certainly have your shit together for a 22 year old.  You'll do well in life.i agree.  i didnt get to that point until divorce #2.  good for you.

ShelleBink

08-21-2006, 05:35 PM

El Mudo wrote: JerryTaker wrote: El Mudo wrote: 

Well, I sure hope i can meet a girl who wants a nice guy. I can't seem to find any here on Long Island. They are non-existent.

Same here...I've always said i'm the kind of guy girls would want to be with at 32 and not 22

I don't like a lot of things other people my age like, so i get branded as "weird" I used to hear this a lot, problem is that lots of once "nice guys" get so pissed on, not just by women, but by the rest of the world, so that by the time they get to that point, they're so bitter and hadened that nobody wants to date them anyway.Anyway, when a woman says she wants a "nice guy" and dates him, se invariably gets bored and either cheats or dumps him for another cocky asshole....sorry, it's just how the world works these days.  

I'm not bitter at all. I like who I am and I'm confident in myself, but I also refuse to change who I am and what I like just to impress some girl

I'm only 22...im not ready to just give up and hide forever cause I couldn't find a relationship

This message was edited by El Mudo on 8-21-06 @ 8:35 PM  Too bad you like Jeff Gordon :oP

Bulldogcakes

08-21-2006, 05:50 PM

Gvac wrote: This is something I've tried to explain to a lot of "nice" guys for quite some time when they complain that they can't get a woman, but I don't think they ever grasp it. Women are attracted to confidence, and you can be a nice guy and still be confident. Most nice guys, unfortunately, come across as pussies. Given a choice between an arrogant, macho douchebag or a milquetoast wallflower, women will more often than not pick the asshole. If I had to give a reverse analogy, I guess I'd give the men a choice; you can either have a woman who satisfies you sexually in every way, but is a complete and total embarassment in public. Your other choice is a classy, elegant, dignified woman who impresses everyone who meets her but is totally frigid and abhors sex. You'd probably pick the nympho slob. Some women will say "men just want whores" but that's equally as untrue as guys saying "women only like assholes." We all want the best of both worlds. Women want a man who is classy and treats them with respect but who also comes across as maculine. Not a macho jerkoff who walks around like a tough guy, but someone who they feel can handle any situation. Just like men want their woman to be feminine and soft and pretty, but a tigress when the time calls for it.  Right on Gvac. Being too nice puts you in the "Friend zone", and women want a guy who turns them on in some way. And to quote a commercial "Confidence is very sexy". There's nothing wrong with being nice, but you should be in touch with your mischievous side, if you have one.    <blockquote />

ShelleBink

08-21-2006, 06:38 PM

Bulldogcakes wrote: Gvac wrote: This is something I've tried to explain to a lot of "nice" guys for quite some time when they complain that they can't get a woman, but I don't think they ever grasp it. Women are attracted to confidence, and you can be a nice guy and still be confident. Most nice guys, unfortunately, come across as pussies. Given a choice between an arrogant, macho douchebag or a milquetoast wallflower, women will more often than not pick the asshole. If I had to give a reverse analogy, I guess I'd give the men a choice; you can either have a woman who satisfies you sexually in every way, but is a complete and total embarassment in public. Your other choice is a classy, elegant, dignified woman who impresses everyone who meets her but is totally frigid and abhors sex. You'd probably pick the nympho slob. Some women will say "men just want whores" but that's equally as untrue as guys saying "women only like assholes." We all want the best of both worlds. Women want a man who is classy and treats them with respect but who also comes across as maculine. Not a macho jerkoff who walks around like a tough guy, but someone who they feel can handle any situation. Just like men want their woman to be feminine and soft and pretty, but a tigress when the time calls for it. Right on Gvac. Being too nice puts you in the "Friend zone", and women want a guy who turns them on in some way. And to quote a commercial "Confidence is very sexy". There's nothing wrong with being nice, but you should be in touch with your mischievous side, if you have one.   You guys hit it on the head.  Most of the guys I've dated in the last few years have been good guys, but project the "bad boy" image in some way ((some more so than others)).  Its just gotten to be a bit boring I guess, and I'm getting to the point where I am ready for a "grown up" relationship...  Now to actually find someone to share my life with... that's been the tricky part.  No rush though, I got enough things to keep me distracted and busy ... but at the same time, I don't want to miss someone that's there. <blockquote />

meanmrbill

08-21-2006, 07:14 PM

You couldn't be more right.  I was a "nice" guy most of my life. I smiled and "please and thank you'd" for most of  my life.  Only recently (36yrs old) have I become bitter and really angry. I have deemed myself undate-able and gotten no resistance.  Nice guys do finish last.  I wish more than anything that this wasn't true but it is and there's no fighting it. <a href="http://www.myspace.com/bilper">www.myspace.com/bilper</a>

This message was edited by meanmrbill on 8-21-06 @ 11:56 PM

narc

08-21-2006, 07:20 PM

ShelleBink wrote:  Bulldogcakes wrote:  Gvac wrote: This is something I've tried to explain to a lot of "nice" guys for quite some time when they complain that they can't get a woman, but I don't think they ever grasp it. Women are attracted to confidence, and you can be a nice guy and still be confident. Most nice guys, unfortunately, come across as pussies. Given a choice between an arrogant, macho douchebag or a milquetoast wallflower, women will more often than not pick the asshole. If I had to give a reverse analogy, I guess I'd give the men a choice; you can either have a woman who satisfies you sexually in every way, but is a complete and total embarassment in public. Your other choice is a classy, elegant, dignified woman who impresses everyone who meets her but is totally frigid and abhors sex. You'd probably pick the nympho slob. Some women will say "men just want whores" but that's equally as untrue as guys saying "women only like assholes." We all want the best of both worlds. Women want a man who is classy and treats them with respect but who also comes across as maculine. Not a macho jerkoff who walks around like a tough guy, but someone who they feel can handle any situation. Just like men want their woman to be feminine and soft and pretty, but a tigress when the time calls for it.   Right on Gvac. Being too nice puts you in the "Friend zone", and women want a guy who turns them on in some way. And to quote a commercial "Confidence is very sexy". There's nothing wrong with being nice, but you should be in touch with your mischievous side, if you have one.    You guys hit it on the head.  Most of the guys I've dated in the last few years have been good guys, but project the "bad boy" image in some way ((some more so than others)).  Its just gotten to be a bit boring I guess, and I'm getting to the point where I am ready for a "grown up" relationship...  Now to actually find someone to share my life with... that's been the tricky part.  No rush though, I got enough things to keep me distracted and busy ... but at the same time, I don't want to miss someone that's there. A lot of the girls worth dating will go for nice guys or see through any asshole smokescreen a nice guy might throw out.

spoon

08-21-2006, 10:33 PM

Tall_James wrote: I'm not bitter at all. I like who I am and I'm confident in myself, but I also refuse to change who I am and what I like just to impress some girl I'm only 22...im not ready to just give up and hide forever cause I couldn't find a relationship  You certainly have your shit together for a 22 year old.  You'll do well in life.You haven't seen him huh?  He makes Justice look normal!<img height="383" src="http://www.50lbslater.com/blog/dork%20dance.jpg" width="512" border="0" />

El Mudo

08-22-2006, 02:41 AM

ShelleBink wrote: El Mudo wrote: JerryTaker wrote: El Mudo wrote: 

Well, I sure hope i can meet a girl who wants a nice guy. I can't seem to find any here on Long Island. They are non-existent.

Same here...I've always said i'm the kind of guy girls would want to be with at 32 and not 22

I don't like a lot of things other people my age like, so i get branded as "weird" I used to hear this a lot, problem is that lots of once "nice guys" get so pissed on, not just by women, but by the rest of the world, so that by the time they get to that point, they're so bitter and hadened that nobody wants to date them anyway.Anyway, when a woman says she wants a "nice guy" and dates him, se invariably gets bored and either cheats or dumps him for another cocky asshole....sorry, it's just how the world works these days. 

I'm not bitter at all. I like who I am and I'm confident in myself, but I also refuse to change who I am and what I like just to impress some girl

I'm only 22...im not ready to just give up and hide forever cause I couldn't find a relationship

This message was edited by El Mudo on 8-21-06 @ 8:35 PM Too bad you like Jeff Gordon :oP 

Well, he DOES happen to be the best. thing. going. today! in terms of NASCAR....and it makes my hick relatives so angry I can't help but root for him

But the bottom line is, I spent a LOT of time when I was younger feeling sorry for myself. I can certainly understand that view because of the pressure put on men by society to be these beer guzzling, sleep with a different chick every night party animals. But its just not worth it to feel bad every minute of every day because you aren't getting as many girls as the next guy.

I gotta do what I gotta do you know? I gotta be me, cause I'm the one thats gotta look at myself in the mirror.

JerryTaker

08-22-2006, 03:37 AM

Women reward guys for acting like assholes by continually sleeping with them, therefore there's no reason for guys to stop acting like assholes, except of course a consience, which unfortunate guys like me have.  And as for giving up and hiding forever? when you're turning thirty it gets much more appealing.

A.J.

08-22-2006, 04:17 AM

I'm the opposite of every guy you've ever met.

ShelleBink

08-22-2006, 06:23 AM

A.J. wrote: I'm the opposite of every guy you've ever met.  You're a woman?

Jennitalia

08-22-2006, 08:37 AM

i dont like guys that finish first.  i like them to be able to hold out a little longer <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/thumbup.gif" border="0" />

SatCam

08-22-2006, 11:12 AM

I thought only gays liked asshole?

scorpion

08-22-2006, 11:40 AM

Jennitalia wrote: i dont like guys that finish first. i like them to be able to hold out a little longer <img border="0" src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/thumbup.gif" />  Thats why we finish Last<img border="0" src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/king.gif" />

JerryTaker

08-25-2006, 05:57 AM

Well, apparently...<img height="385" src="http://images.apple.com/moviesxml/s/weinstein/posters/schoolforscoundrels_l200608071429.jpg" width="261" border="0" />Make-believe is all well and good until <a href="http://www.apple.com/trailers/weinstein/schoolforscoundrels/trailer2/" target="_blank">this</a> comes along and reminds us where we really are in society.the link's a trailer, btw, so there's sound and such, so I guess that might make it NSFW in most cases. Just lettin' you know...

ShelleBink

08-25-2006, 08:11 AM

<hr color="cococo" align="left">JerryTaker wrote: Well, apparently...<img height="385" src="http://images.apple.com/moviesxml/s/weinstein/posters/schoolforscoundrels_l200608071429.jpg" width="261" border="0" />Make-believe is all well and good until <a href="http://www.apple.com/trailers/weinstein/schoolforscoundrels/trailer2/" target="_blank">this</a> comes along and reminds us where we really are in society.the link's a trailer, btw, so there's sound and such, so I guess that might make it NSFW in most cases. Just lettin' you know...<hr color="cococo" align="left">
I bet your cynical nature just brings has the pussy rollin in...

JerryTaker

08-25-2006, 03:12 PM

That and my "creepy troll"-ish good looks...

dereckfishboy

09-05-2006, 11:55 AM

ShelleBink wrote:  
I bet your cynical nature just brings has the pussy rollin in...   Hey, cynical nature is like spanish fly to women with chemical imbalances and emotional scarring. So there.

Marc with a c

09-05-2006, 11:56 AM

i miss the flash

angelinad128

09-05-2006, 03:13 PM

A nice guy will still break your heart it just takes a little longer for it to happen.

FUNKMAN

09-05-2006, 03:17 PM

a pretty tune by the one and only Neil Young"Only Love Can Break Your Heart"   When you were young and on your own How did it feel to be alone I was always thinking of games that I was playing Trying to make the best of my time. But only love can break your heart Try to be sure right from the start Yes only love can break your heart What if your world should fall apart. I have a friend I've never seen He hides his head inside a dream Someone should call him and see if he can come out Trying to lose the down that he's found. But only love can break your heart Try to be sure right from the start Yes only love can break your heart What if your world should fall apart. I have a friend I've never seen He hides his head inside a dream Yes only love can break your heart Yes only love can break your heart Yes only love can break your heart Yes only love can break your heart Yes only love can break your heart.

Don Stugots

09-05-2006, 03:23 PM

angelinad128 wrote: A nice guy will still break your heart it just takes a little longer for it to happen. and it that much more fun for me, i mean him.  i never did anything like that on purpose of otherwise.         maybe.

JerryTaker

09-05-2006, 07:28 PM

dereckfishboy wrote: ShelleBink wrote: 
I bet your cynical nature just brings has the pussy rollin in... Hey, cynical nature is like spanish fly to women with chemical imbalances and emotional scarring. So there.   That might actually explain a lot....