Insecurities.....

[Gaia]

<p>Everyone has something they dont like about themselves, With the media constantly focused on beautiful people, sometimes it's hard to see what your own personal beauty is, and even easier to pick out&nbsp;your flaws.</p><p>So what is it? What are you insecure about?&nbsp;Do you have just one thing you would change or that you dislike? Or would it be a whole laundry list?</p><p>I must admit, I am very critical about my appearance,&nbsp;I find myself&nbsp;becoming&nbsp;increasingly dissatisfied with my looks as I get older. There are many things I would change If&nbsp;I could. &nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;I hate my chest, I always have and always will. It's always been a very&nbsp;difficult thing for me to deal with,&nbsp;sorry to say, but a man could never know how painful it is. </p><p>&nbsp;More than a mouthful is&nbsp;NOT a waste. It's hard for me to feel feminine with&nbsp;women that have double D's and guys that can't stop staring.....I have always wanted a HUGE rack, the bigger the better, if I get stranded at sea; I want floatation devices on my chest. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/tongue.gif" border="0" /></p><p>I also hate my smile. I have always hated it, and when I was younger I had a tiny gap between my two front teeth (it's closed up some), &nbsp;my brother would taunt me constantly, day in and day out. Not a day went by where he didnt poke fun at me about this or that, but mostly it was my teeth. Im still convinced that he's evil.&nbsp;To the core.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>

[AngelAmy]

without stating the obvious....i hate my hands, my feet, and my smile....i have to say i hate my hands the most.

[SinA]

<p>h</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>i want people to think i'm funny</p>

[grlNIN]

<p>Off the top of my head the one that bothers me most(because i cant change it) is my voice.</p><p>It's kind've low and not gravely or sultry by any stretch of the imagination. I don't feel like it's feminine at all, especially when i laugh. I also mumble constantly so i'm certain that doesn't help.<br /></p>

[ShelleBink]

<p>i don't like my face shape.&nbsp; Its too wide and my head's too big.&nbsp; My nose, sucks.</p><p>as for the rest of my body, its just an unbelievable disaster that i hate looking at.&nbsp;</p>

[SinA]

<strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>i don't like my face shape.&nbsp; Its too wide and my head's too big.&nbsp; My nose, sucks.</p><p>as for the rest of my body, its just an unbelievable disaster that i hate looking at.&nbsp;</p><p>we've seen that ayse of yours and believe me, its fine.</p><p>maybe it even inspired a&nbsp;batch or two... </p>

[A.J.]

Women tell me that I'm &quot;cute&quot; and that they &quot;can't believe&nbsp;you're single&quot; -- so why should I be insecure?

[terry1979]

Definitely my taint.&nbsp; It is just disgusting.&nbsp; People are always staring at it and saying it smells really bad....it's reall embarrassing.

[Gaia]

<strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>i don't like my face shape.&nbsp; Its too wide and my head's too big.&nbsp; My nose, sucks.</p><p>as for the rest of my body, its just an unbelievable disaster that i hate looking at.&nbsp;</p><p>Are you fucking kidding me? Your kidding right. I cant believe you just said that. You are beautiful AND sexy....</p>

[mendyweiss]

I can't stand my real first name, Otis.

[A.J.]

<strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>i don't like my face shape.&nbsp; Its too wide and my head's too big.&nbsp; My nose, sucks.</p><p>as for the rest of my body, its just an unbelievable disaster that i hate looking at.&nbsp;</p><p>I just saw your picture <a href="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/viewmessages.cfm/Forum/52/Topic/52517/page/MyHeritage______" target="_self">here</a> and you couldn't be more wrong.</p><p>And you'll recall I already complimented your sunburned hiney.</p>

[ShelleBink]

<p>Wow, I can't believe the kind words from you guys... I honestly appreciate them.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I guess everyone just gets tired of seeing themselves every day in the mirror, and picking out the flaws... lord knows I do.&nbsp;</p>

[ShelleBink]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>mendyweiss</strong> wrote:<br />I can't stand my real first name, Otis.<p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I thought it was <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emanuel_Weiss" target="_self">Emanuel</a>&nbsp;</p>

[mendyweiss]

<strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>&nbsp;</p><strong>mendyweiss</strong> wrote:<br />I can't stand my real first name, Otis. <p>&nbsp;</p><p>You got me. I didn't want people to know my real name Emanuel.&nbsp; Just made up Otis, but from what I've seen, you shouldn't have many insecurities</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I thought it was <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emanuel_Weiss" target="_self">Emanuel</a>&nbsp;</p>

[ShelleBink]

Wow, was that me doing a ventriloquist act with ya?<br />

[furie]

i hate that i'm too good looking.

[Gaia]

<p><span class="post_edited"><img height="89" src="http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n53/rfgaia/th-zool_01.jpg" width="126" border="0" /></span></p><p></p><p><span class="post_edited">Have you ever wondered if there was more to life, other than being really, really, ridiculously good looking? <br /></span></p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Gaia on 9-22-06 @ 4:29 PM</span>

[Gvac]

<p>Wow.&nbsp; I never really believed the whole &quot;we're placing too much emphasis on looks for our young women and it's making them unhealthy&quot; thing but I'm starting to rethink my position.&nbsp; I find it interesting and kind of sad that the main people responding to this thread are the chicks.&nbsp; </p><p>And I absolutely cannot believe Gaia started it. &nbsp;</p><p>You're all gorgeous. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>

[dereckfishboy]

I used to carve my arms down to the bone when I was a teenager. The scars are huge and for the rest of my adult life I have to live with the ramifications of mistakes I made as a child. If I ever go out in public wearing a short-sleeve shirt, I become incredibly self-concious and assume every is staring at my scars, whcih they usually are. Except at metal shows. I seem to blend right in there.<br />

[GwEnYpOo]

<strong>ShelleBink</strong> wrote:<br /><p>i don't like my face shape.&nbsp; Its too wide and my head's too big.&nbsp; My nose, sucks.</p><p>as for the rest of my body, its just an unbelievable disaster that i hate looking at.&nbsp;</p><p>i feel the EXACT&nbsp; same way Shelle , plus i hate my cheeks , they're rediculously chubby and they take up my whole face when i smile . i think my eyes are mad small too . my ass is too flat , my chest is tooo big , and my ears are 2 inches big , no joke , 2 .</p>

[mendyweiss]

When is the &quot;My Pecker is too big&quot; post going to come from one of the fellas?

[AngelAmy]

<strong>Gvac</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Wow.&nbsp; I never really believed the whole &quot;we're placing too much emphasis on looks for our young women and it's making them unhealthy&quot; thing but I'm starting to rethink my position.&nbsp; </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>all you have to do is go to the mall and hold up a pair of women's jeans to see just how much emphasis is placed on how we look.&nbsp; yeah i am a bit&nbsp;overweight, i have some chub to me and there is nothing i fit into anymore while going shopping and it all just keeps getting smaller and smaller...pisses me off.&nbsp; i know there is weight that i have to lose but in the mean time until that happens i'll just have to walk around naked because they dont make clothes for people like me anymore.</p>

[FezPaul]

http://i49.photobucket.com/albums/f281/FezPaul/000067-jean_chretien.jpg<br /><strong><font face="courier new,courier,monospace" size="2">I'm insecure because I look like this guy.</font></strong>

[AngelAmy]

i have other more personal ones that i wont get into here but also a big one with me is that i know that even when i become an acceptable weight and shape and whatever that i still wont look good because i cant change what my face looks like and i think its ugly

[Gaia]

<strong>AngelAmy</strong> wrote:<br />i have other more personal ones that i wont get into here but also a big one with me is that i know that even when i become an acceptable weight and shape and whatever that i still wont look good because i cant change what my face looks like and i think its ugly <p>Honey....you are NOT ugly. Dont&nbsp;EVER say that.</p><p>&nbsp;Yes...it is cliche to say its whats on the inside that counts, but its true.&nbsp; You are a wonderful person, and I sincerely think that you are NOT ugly....The people who know&nbsp;and love you think that you are beautiful, and you ARE, and that's all that matters, fuck everyone else. </p>

[FUNKMAN]

<p>my nose is a little too big, my upper lip is a little too small, and my hips are too big...</p><p>i'm just a mess</p>

[SatCam]

the paleness of my skin

[Gvac]

I look too much like Burt Reynolds.<br />

[JesterOfSadness]

<p>For me its alot of things, now that I'm older I wish I took better care of myself.</p><p>I'm too pale, disgustingly out of shape,etc.</p>

[Hottub]

<p>This is my first look at this thread. A rundown;</p><p>Amy and Shelle, you guys are so pretty! Cut the crap. You are welcome to my Hottub any time!</p><p>Funk, I'd do a McGreevy for you!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>As for me, I am always&nbsp;worried&nbsp;about my teeth. They are really not bad at all, but I got some kind of mental thing about them. I also wish I had the Bi's and pecs I had a few years ago. Housedad = zero gym time. And I could be 1 or 2 inches taller. I'm 5'9&quot;.</p>

[ShelleBink]

<p>&nbsp;</p><strong>Hottub</strong> wrote:<br /><p>This is my first look at this thread. A rundown;</p><p>Amy and Shelle, you guys are so pretty! Cut the crap. You are welcome to my Hottub any time!</p><p>Funk, I'd do a McGreevy for you!</p><p> </p><p>As for me, I am always worried about my teeth. They are really not bad at all, but I got some kind of mental thing about them. I also wish I had the Bi's and pecs I had a few years ago. Housedad = zero gym time. And I could be 1 or 2 inches taller. I'm 5'9&quot;.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>You're teh best. :o)&nbsp;</p>

[FUNKMAN]

<strong>Hottub</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Funk, I'd do a McGreevy for you!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/wub.gif" border="0" /></p>

[Gaia]

<strong>A.J.</strong> wrote:<br />Women tell me that I'm &quot;cute&quot; and that they &quot;can't believe&nbsp;you're single&quot; -- so why should I be insecure? <p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I think you should post a pic and the ladies will decide, I thought you were married. </p><p><strong><font size="4">Yesss bitches!!! 1600.....</font></strong></p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Gaia on 9-22-06 @ 9:26 PM</span>

[sr71blackbird]

I slouch and am balding.&nbsp; I dislike my anxiety issues and I used to be in much better shape than I am in now.&nbsp;

[Gaia]

Balding? So what if your balding???? I mean it, some of the sexiest men ever are balding. Hair is overated. I have anxiety issues too :(&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; your not alone.

[sr71blackbird]

<strong>AngelAmy</strong> wrote:<br />without stating the obvious....i hate my hands, my feet, and my smile....i have to say i hate my hands the most. <p>Are you kidding??&nbsp; Your smile is awesome and if you werent dating my brother, Id be all over them feets!!&nbsp; <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/tongue.gif" border="0" /></p>

[FUNKMAN]

<p><strong><font size="1">Insecurities</font></strong></p><p>my broker told me one time to lay off commodities and get insecurities...</p>

[sr71blackbird]

<strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br />Balding? So what if your balding???? I mean it, some of the sexiest men ever are balding. Hair is overated. I have anxiety issues too <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/images/smilefrown2.gif" border="0" /> &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; your not alone. <p>Thanks sweety!&nbsp; I have been working on this problem for a year now.. I worry about <em>everything</em>.. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/down.gif" border="0" /></p>

[Bulldogcakes]

I'd have to say its my 12 inch shlong. Sure people think its great to be &quot;well endowed&quot;, but I end up constantly meeting women (usually referrals, word gets around) who just want to go for a ride on the guy with the huge cock. And they keep calling and calling at all hours of the night, usually drunk. Its an empty, vapid, loveless existence. Then I go meet a nice girl and 99x out of 100 she just cant handle riding the big beast. Its a curse, and I'm doomed forever. <br />

[GwEnYpOo]

but your lovely lawn....

[narc]

Nose, definitely. It's definitely on the big side and it's got a little hook. I also have what we in my family call a "butt nose" which means that the very tip has a bit of ass-looking cleavage in it. <br><p>
My hair. it's a bit wavy, and I can't do much with it other than keep it from looking too crazy. <br><p>
Lastly, weight, but only a little bit. I'm not huge or anything so that keeps me from freaking out too much. And I've really never known what it's like to be totally skinny. I've always had a paunch as far as I could remember. <br><p>
The first person to make a Stern joke draws my eternal ire.

[chili_chest]

The full length mirror shows me what I am uncomfortable with every day before I venture out in public.<br />

[Justice4all]

<strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>AngelAmy</strong> wrote:<br />i have other more personal ones that i wont get into here but also a big one with me is that i know that even when i become an acceptable weight and shape and whatever that i still wont look good because i cant change what my face looks like and i think its ugly <p>Honey....you are NOT ugly. Dont&nbsp;EVER say that.</p><p>&nbsp;Yes...it is cliche to say its whats on the inside that counts, but its true.&nbsp; You are a wonderful person, and I sincerely think that you are NOT ugly....The people who know&nbsp;and love you think that you are beautiful, and you ARE, and that's all that matters, fuck everyone else. </p><p>I agree with Gaia on this one. None of you are ugly in any way...Amy you are loved for who you are and what you look like. If you doubt that, look into your mans eyes when ou ask why he loves you. You will see it.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Gaia I am a little shocked you posted this, I know people have insecurities but I honestly did not think you had a problem with this. You are stunning and I, for one, would not have changed a thing about you.&nbsp; I do understand about the smile thing however. Whenever I am in a picture people keep asking me to show my teeth, and I tell them no, because it makes me look like either an evil scientist grinning as he plots to destroy the world, or the smile looks forced. I do not like my smile either.</p><p>Or my stomach, and I am working on that with diet and exercise.</p><p>I have to also give props to anyone who was willing to admit ANY of your insecurities on here. Tough thing to do in a public forum, especially one where you never know when you will be bashed or made fun of for it. (Hopefully never)</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Hats off to you people.</p>

[Coach]

<p>I am fat...I know it...please, the kids I work with have likend me to Santa Clause but without the beard.</p><p>Because of it, I really hate to be touched. I mean in any way. It really skeeves me out.</p>

[Gaia]

<strong>Justice4all</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>AngelAmy</strong> wrote:<br />i have other more personal ones that i wont get into here but also a big one with me is that i know that even when i become an acceptable weight and shape and whatever that i still wont look good because i cant change what my face looks like and i think its ugly <p>Honey....you are NOT ugly. Dont&nbsp;EVER say that.</p><p>&nbsp;Yes...it is cliche to say its whats on the inside that counts, but its true.&nbsp; You are a wonderful person, and I sincerely think that you are NOT ugly....The people who know&nbsp;and love you think that you are beautiful, and you ARE, and that's all that matters, fuck everyone else. </p><p>I agree with Gaia on this one. None of you are ugly in any way...Amy you are loved for who you are and what you look like. If you doubt that, look into your mans eyes when ou ask why he loves you. You will see it.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Gaia I am a little shocked you posted this, I know people have insecurities but I honestly did not think you had a problem with this. You are stunning and I, for one, would not have changed a thing about you.&nbsp; I do understand about the smile thing however. Whenever I am in a picture people keep asking me to show my teeth, and I tell them no, because it makes me look like either an evil scientist grinning as he plots to destroy the world, or the smile looks forced. I do not like my smile either.</p><p>Or my stomach, and I am working on that with diet and exercise.</p><p>I have to also give props to anyone who was willing to admit ANY of your insecurities on here. Tough thing to do in a public forum, especially one where you never know when you will be bashed or made fun of for it. (Hopefully never)</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Hats off to you people.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Awww. thank you justice, that makes me feel good :)</p><p>&nbsp;These arent&nbsp;all the issues I&nbsp;have, but they were the ones I felt were appropriate to bring to the table. Sometimes it makes you feel better to talk about some of the things that bother you, even if others dont agree or cannot identify. Its fucked up being a woman in todays society, and I can honestly say on a daily basis, I wish I was a man. Maybe I should have put this in the &quot;thats life&quot; forum, but I really do despise being a woman sometimes. </p>

[sr71blackbird]

I think you are great too, Gaia!! <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/smile.gif" border="0" />

[Gaia]

<p><span class="post_edited">I swear....this board loves to fuck with me........especially when I try to quote....</span></p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><span class="post_edited">anywho,.......<img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/wub.gif" border="0" /></span></p>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by Gaia on 9-24-06 @ 11:55 AM</span>

[reeshy]

I don't think I'd change anything about me.....I'm pretty perfect!!!!!!<br />

[A.J.]

<strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>A.J.</strong> wrote:<br />Women tell me that I'm &quot;cute&quot; and that they &quot;can't believe&nbsp;you're single&quot; -- so why should I be insecure? <p>I think you should post a pic and the ladies will decide, I thought you were married. </p><p>I'm only married to my work.</p><p>I think there's a pic of me from one of the Dave and Buster's things from 2002 or 2003 but I'm too lazy to look for it.&nbsp; Besides, I'm more breathtaking in person than on film.</p>

[WhistlePig]

I used to be extremely critical of myself, of being "fat" (but really I'm not)
and putting myself down all the time. Then I realized my mom does the
same thing, and she's STILL doing it and she's 76 years old! I finally
realized it's really annoying to other people, and I don't want to be doing it
when I'm 76 so I cut it out. And I really did feel a lot less ugly and fat when
I quit saying it all the time.

[AngelAmy]

<p>i have another one that i forgot about until now...i even blogged about it.</p><p>i feel that my torso is too small for my long legs, i feel&nbsp;disproportionate.</p>

[AnomalisticAnna]

I can absolutely relate to being concious about teeth. I cannot
remember the last time I fully smiled for the camera. I've attempted
the closed mouth grin, but it usually ends up looking like I just ate a
lemon.<br />

[keithy_19]

I'm ugly. <img src="http://www.ronfez.net/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/rolleyes.gif" border="0" />

[keithy_19]

I'm not that ugly.

[Hottub]

<p>Love Southside!</p><p>I know what you want<br />I know what you need<br />A girl can live on just sweet nothins<br /><br />Security, she's got to have security <br />Something she can show `em for all her time<br />All her time<br /><br />A nice big rock<br />Or just that little ring<br />Your sweet talking don't mean a thing<br /><br />Security, she got to, got to have it<br />Security, the girl really needs it<br />Against the day when love starts its long decline<br /><br />She don't wanna wake up<br />Poor and destitute<br />She knows how love goes<br />It's never absolute<br />You might swear she could never be replaced<br />And she'll believe you, but just in case<br /><br />She'll need a piece of the rock<br />If you decide to roll<br />The girls got insurance that she can consult<br /><br />Security, she got to keep on looking smart<br />Security, little checks from the heart<br />You're drunk with love but you gotta<br />Sober up sometime, don't ya?<br /><br />You might tell the truth<br />You might be a liar<br />She don't know it so she'll require<br /><br />Security, your heart is running a race<br />Security, hers beats a nice, steady pace<br />Your cold, wet feet will get plenty of time to dry<br />All she wants is<br />S-E-C-U-R-I-T and a Y<br /></p>

[FUNKMAN]

<strong>keithy_19</strong> wrote:<br />I'm not that ugly. <p>don't forget you talk to yourself too...</p>