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Judge Smails

01-15-2007, 12:25 PM

It's because I'm INCREDIBLY bad with faces.   Outside of my family, my close circle of friends and people that I interact with on a daily basis I have complete social amnesia.  There's people that I see from time to time at work, or church or my kid's school or sports functions, for example, which I'm OK with as long as I see them in those expected settings.  But, say I meet a guy that I see and speak to in church every week at the supermarket - he's as good as a stranger to me.If they happen to see me first and say "Hello", I'll say "Hi" and then stare blankly while I'll try to remember where I know them from.   If they don't happen to say something first, I'll blow right past them and ignore them.  Then when I see them again in church on Sunday, I'll think to myself: "Oh shit!  That's the guy who was in the supermarket."  I've done this with neighbors and even my friend's wife. Once I see them again I don't know if it's better to just not mention it and act like I just didn't see them the last time or appologize, thereby admitting that I didn't recognize them.  After I've done this to a couple of people, I think they get the impression that I'm some arrogant asshole (maybe you think so too).  I've noticed some people giving me the cold shoulder and even ignoring me because of it.Other than this little quirk I happen to have an excellent memory and can remember events and facts with perfect clarity.  Anybody else have this problem?

PapaBear

01-15-2007, 12:37 PM

I have a terrific memory, but I'm shit for remembering names. I'm bad with faces, the more I move from city to city. I've found that there are clones of everyone I've met in every place I've lived.

sr71blackbird

01-15-2007, 12:50 PM

I am very bad with names.  The worst I ever did was I went 7 years at one job, talking every night to this guy and if you put a gun to my head, I couldnt have told you his name!  It finally got to the point where I was forced into a situation through normal conversation that I had to admit to him that I did not know his name!  Vert embarassing.  From that point forward, Henry had a name.

sr71blackbird

01-15-2007, 12:54 PM

On other time I was shopping with my wife and I see this woman I work with and have talked to MANY times and she comes up to me and says HIIIIIII!!!  I am now in the awkward situation of having to introduce my wife to her and I dont have a CLUE as to her name!  It did NOT go well!  I was like "Ana, this is..............  uhhh......" I was cringing and kicking myself for hours after that one and then the next time I saw her at work..yeeeeeeesshhhh

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jax

01-15-2007, 01:03 PM

This shit happens to me all the time and it's so embarassing.  I introduced myself to the same woman at pre-school like 4 different times each time asking which teacher she had.  Her son was in my son's class.  It was last year and everytime I think about it I cringe.

Jujubees2

01-15-2007, 01:05 PM

I think I have winner here.  Went to my ten-year high school reunion in 1990.  Was having problems all night remembering names.  Like most of you, I recognized faces and knew that I went to school with these people, but could not remember names.Anyhoo, I'm waiting in line with a friend to get a drink and this woman comes up to us and says, "Hey, Joe, hey Carl, how's it going?"  I look at her and she doesn't look familiar at all.  I couldn't ever remember seeing this person before.  As Carl and the woman are talking, she catches me giving her "the stare" and she says, "You don’t know who I am, do you?" and I reply, "Well, I could BS you and say yeah but honestly I haven't the foggiest idea who you are."  At this point my friend tries to help me out by saying, "Come on Joe, you remember Cindy." But it does absolutely no good as I'm still drawing a blank.  Then she says, "Joe, you remember me, we went to the Senior Prom together." Turned every shade of red you can imagine and was given a hard time by everyone the rest of the night, including the <strike>principle,</strike> make that principal.

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Marc with a c

01-15-2007, 01:09 PM

Jujubees2 wrote: including the principle.im guessing he wasn't a friendly one.

Recyclerz

01-15-2007, 01:12 PM

Jujubees2 wrote: I think I have winner here.  Went to my ten-year high school reunion in 1990.  Was having problems all night remembering names.  Like most of you, I recognized faces and knew that I went to school with these people, but could not remember names.Anyhoo, I'm waiting in line with a friend to get a drink and this woman comes up to us and says, "Hey, Joe, hey Carl, how's it going?"  I look at her and she doesn't look familiar at all.  I couldn't ever remember seeing this person before.  As Carl and the woman are talking, she catches me giving her "the stare" and she says, "You don’t know who I am, do you?" and I reply, "Well, I could BS you and say yeah but honestly I haven't the foggiest idea who you are."  At this point my friend tries to help me out by saying, "Come on Joe, you remember Cindy." But it does absolutely no good as I'm still drawing a blank.  Then she says, "Joe, you remember me, we went to the Senior Prom together." Turned every shade of red you can imagine and was given a hard time by everyone the rest of the night, including the principle.You were supposed to slip the Roofie in her drink* not take it yourself, ya moron. ;) * Just kidding, ladies.

ralphbxny

01-17-2007, 11:23 AM

I am bad with names too. So i am an asshole also!!!

Team_Ramrod

01-17-2007, 11:26 AM

I remember faces like it's a curse. I cannot remember names though. I try to run names through my head 5 or so times when I meet someone so I can remember. I never do. I can't tell you how many conversations I missed out on with people because when they are talking I am trying to remember their name, never hearing a word they say....Or cause I'm thinking about myself.

mendyweiss

01-17-2007, 11:35 AM

I think I can honestly remember a set of tits from 30 years ago, and who they belonged to !!

SatCam

01-17-2007, 01:48 PM

I'm an asshole too!!!!

but im pretty good with names

Tenbatsuzen

01-17-2007, 02:18 PM

How come I didn't start this thread? Oh.. well, I'm the same way.  I can't remember the name of the girl who punched my V-card.

Bob Impact

01-18-2007, 11:47 AM

I'm fucking terrible, I could have a customer walk in, spend a couple grand with me, and then come back three hours later and I won't remember their face.  Once I see their ticket then I remember it all.

terry1979

01-18-2007, 12:01 PM

I am the same way with names/faces.  But I have a photographic memory for other stuff.  I have no phone numbers programed in my phone, I just remember every number I ever hear.  But if I get introduced to someone at a party or something U instantly forget their name.   I think it is more about not caring rather than bad memory.

TommySoprano

01-21-2007, 11:36 PM

jax wrote: This shit happens to me all the time and it's so embarassing.  I introduced myself to the same woman at pre-school like 4 different times each time asking which teacher she had.  Her son was in my son's class.  It was last year and everytime I think about it I cringe. You are supposed to brief your wife on your infirmity. That way, next time, you go HI, how are ya, this is my wife Bambi, and YOUR WIFE steps in and says hello, Im Bambi, shakes her hand, and the chick tells her name. See? No bodys the wiser. I do it all the time. unless your wife isn't named Bambi.

Reephdweller

01-22-2007, 01:36 AM

I'm very bad with names myself, I have this awful tendency to literally forget their name the second after I hear it and then have to ask for it again. I've gotten better though I still have those moments from time to time.The other thing that happens to me is that sometimes I get stuck on names - so if I'm telling someone a story about two people or something I saw in a movie I'll get to the point where I'll say something like say for example if Seth Green said something to Jack Black, I might get caught up in trying to remember his name and freeze right there with his face pictured in my head until I can remember the name. Meanwhile the person I was talking to ends up with a "Ummmmmmmm yeah" look on thier face. I hate that!!

pennington

01-22-2007, 03:20 PM

If I can't remember where I know someone or their name, I always admit it immediately. I come right out and say "I can't remember your name" or "Where do I know you from?" When they tell me, I apologise and they just about always say the same thing happens to them. Or if I see someone doesn't remember me or my name, I let them off the hook and tell them. It makes life easier.

Deadshot87

01-27-2007, 11:57 PM

i am an asshole i get names wrong alot unless they are drilled into my head or i say it like fifteen times I have the amazing ability to make the worst First impression ever

MrPink

01-28-2007, 06:19 AM

A few weeks ago I went to this party and was talkin to some cute little blonde girl. She tells me her name and we talk another 5 minutes. Next I go to the keg, come back, and forget who I was talking to until she says something.On a related note, is it awkward when you meet someone when your drunk and see them the next day? It's weird to me, especially when they wake up in your bed.

cougarjake13

01-28-2007, 07:02 AM

most of the time i have a good memory of people and their names but ocassionally someone comes up to me swearing that they know me, tell me from where and when and i still have no clue or memory of themmaybe they look different then when i supposedly knew them or maybe they knew of me but i never knew them or interacted with themanyway it bothers me to no end b/c usually i never get the satisfaction of finally remembering who they were