What would you have done?

[Tenbatsuzen]

<p>If you were out for a nice day of fun with your fiance, and doing something very romantic, and then in walks in a person who mistreated you very badly in an employment situation - a person you absolutely despise and would relish the chance to tell off - what would you do?</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I was given an opportunity today... an opportunity to get some sort of cathartic release over something that's been pissing me off for a long time.&nbsp; And something overrode my natural tendency to start trouble, mainly because of Liz and other &quot;innocents&quot; that were involved in the situation.&nbsp; But I was SEETHING from seeing this person, and I still am.&nbsp; I think I'm pissed at myself even more for not taking advantage of the situation.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>I don't know.&nbsp; I'm just upset for no rational reason, and I've been trying to calm down for the last few hours to no avail.&nbsp; My hands were twitching as I left the store.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Jujubees2]

<font size="2"><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10pt; color: black; font-family: Verdana">I probably would have done the same thing as you and would&nbsp;have regretted not taking advantage of the&nbsp;situation to vent.&nbsp; As a matter of fact, I&nbsp;fell that way just about every time my brother-in-law (who lived with us for two years for free and then stole money out of my kids piggy banks to go drinking) every time he comes over the house now.&nbsp; But I bit my tongue&nbsp;for my wife's&nbsp;sake.</span></p></font>

[mdr55]

<p>I would have let it go.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>and if you still worked with that person, I would have told them off at work. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Why let that fucker ruin a nice evening with you and your gal?&nbsp;</p>

[hammerlane]

<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </p><p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I think everyone has the perfect scene in their head.&nbsp; Saying just the right thing, just the way you have always imagined, and with just the right people around to see it. You probably did what most everyone actually does or has done(me included). I fight the same feeling every Christmas.&nbsp; From my experience, when people actually make the scene, it never comes out the way they thought it would. It is usually awkward for everyone. I think scenes like that only look good in movies. </p><p>Just my opinion. I know I have definately saved some holiday gatherings by keeping it inside.</p>

[Clutch]

Don't have a work-related expierence... but a high school baseball coach (varsity) whom if he ATTEMPTED to say hello to me would find out that he's &quot;number 1&quot; to me in a heartbeat and a lovly fuck you asshole verbal response.&nbsp; He ruined my love for the game of baseball because of the way he mistreated the senior class (me being one of them) my senior year of high school ....&nbsp; but I'm somewhat better now, 10 years later&nbsp; lol

[MHasegawa]

fuck it, youd make a fool outta yourself and your chick.&nbsp; keep a clear head and have a good time

[OneEyeJack]

<p><strong>Do you know where this person is, and can you meet up with them again?</strong></p>

[sr71blackbird]

I think you did the adult thing.&nbsp;

[johnniewalker]

oh, that's life. <br />

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by johnniewalker on 2-3-07 @ 5:54 PM</span>

[reeshy]

You did the right thing.....save what you really want to say when you have him alone!!

[TheGameHHH]

<strong>Clutch</strong> wrote:<br />Don't have a work-related expierence... but a high school baseball coach (varsity) whom if he ATTEMPTED to say hello to me would find out that he's &quot;number 1&quot; to me in a heartbeat and a lovly fuck you asshole verbal response. He ruined my love for the game of baseball because of the way he mistreated the senior class (me being one of them) my senior year of high school .... but I'm somewhat better now, 10 years later lol<p>&nbsp;wow thats odd i have the same feeling......did we have the same coach? Good thing he didnt ruin my love for the game forever<br /> </p>

[Bossanova]

Nothing worse than embarrassing your chick due to a raging fit.&nbsp; You did the wright thing.&nbsp; When ever that occurs, I hit the speed bag for twenty minutes.

[blakjeezis]

I would bang the pants off my hot chick and forget all about it.

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by blakjeezis on 2-3-07 @ 6:32 PM</span>

[lleeder]

<font size="3">You did the right thing. If anything you should let your anger go. I agree with Mr.B when he said that alot of times when you tell someone off that mistreated you they dont even realize that you were mistreated. It would have only made your day worse and they wouldn't have fully understood why you were so pissed.</font>

[BLZBUBBA]

Let it go.&nbsp; It's a waste of energy.

[Bulldogcakes]

<p>If I were you I would have given my date cab fare and followed the guy home. Then I would lay in his bushes with a .45 equipped with a silencer and put on a ski mask. When he left the next day, two to the back of the head, two more behind the ear. Then bury him in the Pine Barrens.&nbsp;</p><p>Or you could just forget about it.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>

[Team_Ramrod]

<p>If I were in that situation and those other 'innocents' were my children I would have done the same thing. Just let it slide.</p><p>If it were Myself and my wife I would have started shit.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>You did the right thing if there were other children in the area though. Chances are you'll get your day.</p>

[Tenbatsuzen]

<strong>The Midnight Ramrod</strong> wrote:<br /><p>If I were in that situation and those other 'innocents' were my children I would have done the same thing. Just let it slide.</p><p>If it were Myself and my wife I would have started shit.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>You did the right thing if there were other children in the area though. Chances are you'll get your day.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>The innocent in question was his daughter and her fiance.&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[Gaia]

Because I am a horrible person, and my emotions override most other things, I probably would have told the person off. Whats this persons info, I'll do it for you!!! THAT FUCKER!!!!

[A.J.]

<p>Did said person make eye and/or verbal contact with you?&nbsp; If that's so, and that's why you're upset for not taking of advantage of the situation, then (as others have said) you did the adult thing.&nbsp; </p><p>Hell, it may have even impressed the douche.</p>

[MellySmelly]

<strong>Gaia</strong> wrote:<br />Because I am a horrible person, and my emotions override most other things, I probably would have told the person off. Whats this persons info, I'll do it for you!!! THAT FUCKER!!!! <p>Amen, or I would have at least stolen his wallet.</p>

[Tenbatsuzen]

<strong>A.J.</strong> wrote:<br /><p>Did said person make eye and/or verbal contact with you? If that's so, and that's why you're upset for not taking of advantage of the situation, then (as others have said) you did the adult thing. </p><p>Hell, it may have even impressed the douche.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>We did acknowledge each other with a stare, but he walked right over to the case that Liz and I were looking at.&nbsp; I didn't say a word, although I was beyond insane mad at that point.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[bobrobot]

<strong><font color="#000080">Discretion is the better part of valor. I think you did the right thing &amp; it's respectful of your&nbsp;Fiancee too. Somehow I doubt she wants to witness the kind of scenario your blow up would most likely have created. Learning to let go of anger is a LIFE SAVING tool in this world. I know people say it's bad to stuff feelings, but what I've learned is that it is far worse to let anger &amp; resentment rule my life &amp; my thinking. Men die by the droves from heart attacks and health complications that are created by some ancient, instinctive, territorial anger that has no place in the modern world. I know it sucks to be so angry that it makes you convulse, but THAT'S the problem, not some errant bozo who is best forgotten &amp; left to his own misery. A good life is the best revenge, so have a good life!!!</font></strong>

<span class=post_edited>This message was edited by bobogolem on 2-4-07 @ 8:07 PM</span>

[narc]

<p>In college, for a reason that's way too long and dull to go into, I came to utterly loathe one girl. Passionately. She is currently a good friend of a mutual friend (one of my best friends' fiancee, but I was friends with the fiancee independent of her dating my buddy). I used to rant and rave endlessly about her in college to this girl, asking her how she could possibly be friends with such a horrible person. I hate her just as much even now, but I try not to mention her to the other girl. Of course, if she comes up, I usually can't help from saying something snide or hateful. But I don't feel like my feelings should affect my friend's friendships, or should really spoil an otherwise good time. </p><p>In that situation, I probably would have just vented to my girl about it afterwards. I would've been &quot;on a roll.&quot; But I would probably try and cut myself short. &nbsp;</p>

[JamMaster]

<strong>TheGameHHH</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>Clutch</strong> wrote:<br />Don't have a work-related expierence... but a high school baseball coach (varsity) whom if he ATTEMPTED to say hello to me would find out that he's &quot;number 1&quot; to me in a heartbeat and a lovly fuck you asshole verbal response. He ruined my love for the game of baseball because of the way he mistreated the senior class (me being one of them) my senior year of high school .... but I'm somewhat better now, 10 years later lol <p>&nbsp;wow thats odd i have the same feeling......did we have the same coach? Good thing he didnt ruin my love for the game forever</p><p>My high school baseball coach dicked me over as well.&nbsp; It's been 15 years now and it STILL pisses me off about what he did to me and my baseball &quot;career&quot;.</p><p>The other point....you did the right thing to hold it in.&nbsp; Even though you are in the right to say something to the guy, there is a place and time for everything.&nbsp; It probably would have made your fiance uncomfortable and ruined the night for everyone.&nbsp; </p>

[Mike Teacher]

<p>Had one of my guitars stolen from me by a guy who I let live with me when he didnt have enough money, was a good 'friend' for a long time, and who tried to launch the music career of a third party; he borrowed it, and the next thing I know [edit long story] the guitar is in Sweden, taken out of country without my permission and [edit another long story] left in Sweden.</p><p>The cost of getting the guitar back? Around a thou.</p><p>Now with guitar back, and someone owing me about a thou I can:</p><p>-Get mad and sue hm for money he doesnt have/have him arrested for theft/fuck him up, etc.</p><p>-See the money as the price of having this loser out of my life and avoiding me at all costs for the rest of my life. He's a 40-something guy who, now that his career as a music manager has reverted back to his job as construction worker.</p><p>Best Thou I ever spent. Ever. </p><p>Seriously, it was almost like a good luck thing, the guitar theft. As a weird result [edit third long story] it cemented my marriage like never before, and financially awesome things have been happening, so living well, and letting the motherfucker have to live in his own skin is the best revenge.</p><p>By all accounts, he is utterly miserable.</p><p>I win. He loses. Good Day Sir.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[ralphbxny]

I agree..ya did the right thing.. I may have paid a busboy to drop a plate next to him but I wouldnt have ruined a night with my chick for some douche.

[high fly]

<font size="2">Tenbat, learn the fine art of socially&nbsp;cutting someone dead...</font>