I went out with some local friends but we dont see eye to eye.

[Doogie]

Ok, I like to hang out with some of you nuts and some days I like to share it with the nuts from home. Well tonight I was hanging out with one of my older friends and we were listening to some country station and having a few beers and I was like "Uggghhh God this is terrible can we put on some White Stripes or some Decemberists." And the people, and not my friend around him replied "Well we like country so that is what we listen to..." And what kills me about this is that my friend in the 'old days' would have of accomadtaed me and tried some new country music. But these people that have moved into my shoes whilst I was gone told him what to do and he listened.

He never SAID a word and that is what made matters worse, it was three chicks. And they had NO music sense. When I asked them about any band beyond 2002, they had no clue. And my friend went with them cause they were all potential pieces of pussy or whatever. I guess I feel hurt cause all night long cause someone I thought was a friend got sold out whilst I was gone. And the people he was around kept calling me "bleeding heart liberal" and "fag lover." All of which didnt offend me, but rather entertained me more they said it. I guess I have drifted apart from my friends since I left in late 2003 than I realize and I needed to accept. I just needed to rant it here cause, well I have no one else to bitch to at home anymore about it. Everyone else thinks I am wrong if I bitch about these things...

[Bulldogcakes]

Dump em. They sound boring.

I'll guess that you've known these guys a long time. The longer you've known someone, the harder it is to accept that you just don't have the same interests anymore. If you don't have a good time hanging with them anymore, lose them.

BTW-Country music is hideous.

[zentraed]

where were you, and where did you go away to that made you such a "bleeding heart"? i saw a guy tell some (attractive) lesbians to stop kissing at a texas bar one night. couldn't believe it.

i was an air force brat growing up, and i've never been good about keeping in touch with people. i think the people i've met since college and beyond are more like-minded, and it's never awkward to hang out with them.

[DonInNC]

Been there. I learned the hard way that going back home and making such declarations as "Alan Jackson sucks", "NASCAR sucks", and "Why do all the people around here look alike?" put people on the defensive.

[Mafialife Chris]

I wouldve just kept farting in the car, knowing this would be the last time i hung out with that crew.
Fuckem!

BTW, i am NOT a people person. That's why you will see me being a wall flower at some gatherings. If i am self medicating, i may be a bit better. otherwise the anxiety is fez-like! Unreal. (and uncontrollable)

[Marc with a c]

this is why you should only have internet friends.

[Death Metal Moe]

If someone can't make a little concessions for you, they're not a real friend. I hang with all sorts of people and if we're listening to music, we'll try to listen to stuff everyone likes or at least take turns with songs.

Sounds like you just grew apart from these people. Not going to diss them at all, just sounds like your lives grew apart. I am sorry to hear that if they were close friends of yours back then, but in my opinion it sounds like you have little in common anymore and should limit your contact with them.

[sailor]

it all hinges on how hot the chicks were.

[Reephdweller]

Some like to take the approach of being a phony because they think it will win them pussy points. I do believe that there is a fine line between going against your friend in favor of trying to get some action and it sounds like your friend crossed it.

Fuck it, like others have said Dump em!

[King Hippos Bandaid]

just went out with my set of friends

I have hada core set of 8 friends since i was 10

We go out often, Lately I am trying to avoid them

They are single, almost 30, and act like they are 22, staying out to 5am, Binge Drinking. We all know each other, so jokes dont go over well, it turns into an insult fest, with arguments. The next week its like nothing ever happened and we repeat the step. Now that i am dieitng I am not drinking, so it gets annoying and I have become the chauffer.


The .net events are great cause I can have actual fun and hangout.


:king:

[Yerdaddy]

Ok, I like to hang out with some of you nuts and some days I like to share it with the nuts from home. Well tonight I was hanging out with one of my older friends and we were listening to some country station and having a few beers and I was like "Uggghhh God this is terrible can we put on some White Stripes or some Decemberists." And the people, and not my friend around him replied "Well we like country so that is what we listen to..." And what kills me about this is that my friend in the 'old days' would have of accomadtaed me and tried some new country music. But these people that have moved into my shoes whilst I was gone told him what to do and he listened.

He never SAID a word and that is what made matters worse, it was three chicks. And they had NO music sense. When I asked them about any band beyond 2002, they had no clue. And my friend went with them cause they were all potential pieces of pussy or whatever. I guess I feel hurt cause all night long cause someone I thought was a friend got sold out whilst I was gone. And the people he was around kept calling me "bleeding heart liberal" and "fag lover." All of which didnt offend me, but rather entertained me more they said it. I guess I have drifted apart from my friends since I left in late 2003 than I realize and I needed to accept. I just needed to rant it here cause, well I have no one else to bitch to at home anymore about it. Everyone else thinks I am wrong if I bitch about these things...

"Fag lover"? Where exactly is "home"? 1950? Or did they find out you posted in the "I'm not attracted to Angelina Jolie" thread?

On a serious note: fuck em.

[Fat_Sunny]

If Friendship Is Not A Give And Take, Then It Is Worthless. Maybe Give Them One More Chance, Though, Before You Pull The Plug.

BTW, Has DMM Always Been So Sensible??

[Death Metal Moe]

If Friendship Is Not A Give And Take, Then It Is Worthless. Maybe Give Them One More Chance, Though, Before You Pull The Plug.

BTW, Has DMM Always Been So Sensible??

There's threads to joke around in and there's threads to try to give someone a little advice based on your own life experiences. I had to drop a whole group of friends once so I guess I felt this subject a little more personally.

[Fat_Sunny]

There's threads to joke around in and there's threads to try to give someone a little advice based on your own life experiences. I had to drop a whole group of friends once so I guess I felt this subject a little more personally.

The Comment Was Actually A Compliment And Not A Dig.

[Death Metal Moe]

The Comment Was Actually A Compliment And Not A Dig.

Oh I know man, don't worry. I understood you.

[FezPaul]

Oh I know man, don't worry. I understood you.

Could you explain him to the rest of us?

[JimBeam]

I guess I'm confused a bit.

You didn't like their music but they were supposed to jump to and listen to what you wanted ?

What if they had the " uggghhhhh " reaction to the White Stripes ?

If you're looking for friends who think, act and like the same exact things you do than good luck.

What makes for good friendships is not only that you can have a good time together but that there's some give and take with regards to each others opinions/beliefs.

You can't force people to have the same opinions say you even if their's may be unpopular.

[Doogie]

I guess I'm confused a bit.

You didn't like their music but they were supposed to jump to and listen to what you wanted ?

What if they had the " uggghhhhh " reaction to the White Stripes ?

If you're looking for friends who think, act and like the same exact things you do than good luck.

What makes for good friendships is not only that you can have a good time together but that there's some give and take with regards to each others opinions/beliefs.

You can't force people to have the same opinions say you even if their's may be unpopular.

I was half hammered when I wrote this. Basically what I was trying to say was that I was hanging out with these people and all that they could do was put titles on people and so forth. All I was up for was some hanging out, and listening to a lil music, so I asked people if they listened to this or that, etc. And the looks of death I got just froze me. That is what I meant. What is amazing is that this is just north of the city, but you would have of thought I was in Alabama or what not. I guess I just realized that I have not too much in common with these people anymore and didnt know how to say it. That is what I was trying to say.The point is there in that drunken rambling, and this one that I am not embarresed to come back too.

And as for them making "concessions" all that I meant was just asking them if they listened to anything new, and that I had it on me and would they like to listen. I might have well asked if I wanted to rape their kids cause that is the look that I got. There was another party that I could have of went to and I should have of gone there. That is ultimately saying.

[JimBeam]

Another thing you have to remember is friends change.
Natural course of action.
Whether it be that things that you enjoyed together are no longer the same ( similar to what somebody said about their buddies still wanting to drink all the time ) or just you meet other people w/ different tatstes and interests.
Always good to have a well balanced group of friends.
Obvioulsy there are always your " go to friends" with who you have the most in common but there's also always room for others.
Hardest part is g/f/fiance/wife's friends adjustment.
These are people you have to get to know/like through no fault of your own.

[Doogie]

Another thing you have to remember is friends change.
Natural course of action.
Whether it be that things that you enjoyed together are no longer the same ( similar to what somebody said about their buddies still wanting to drink all the time ) or just you meet other people w/ different tatstes and interests.


Ohhh I totally understand that concept. I have seen it happen many times. I was just discouraged at how I was just being blown off or something at everything new that I suggested. There is this bizarre local hero worship that I seem not to be a part of especially since I went away for three years. Ohhh well que serar serar.

[FUNKMAN]

music is a personal thing. i've learned to refrain from saying "this sucks" or something similar. just say "it's not my type". i can say I always enjoyed all kinds of music from classical to rock with the exception of 'street rap' and the 'twangy pickup-truck country' but liked some stuff like Big Daddy Kane, Run-DMC. Now I enjoy some country/rock like Keith Urban and Sara Evans, that woman can sing anything she wants, beautiful strong voice...

don't let your friend's non-reaction hold too much weight... not a big deal

[SatCam]

He never SAID a word and that is what made matters worse, it was three chicks.

bros before hos

[Bossanova]

I hang out with two friends that i have made in the past ten years since high school. I am just so different from everyone I was friends with. FUCK EM ALL

[DarkHippie]

One of the greatest tragedies in life is realizing that you and your friends have gone seperate ways.

[underdog]

bros before hos

Has Ron Bennington not taught you anything?

Bros before hos is bullshit because you don't get BJs from bros.

Unless you do, then you can stay with the bros before hos thing.

[Death Metal Moe]

Has Ron Bennington not taught you anything?

Bros before hos is bullshit because you don't get BJs from bros.

Unless you do, then you can stay with the bros before hos thing.

http://www.cringehumor.net/shirts/chshirt_fez.jpg

[CofyCrakCocaine]

All that's needed to be said has been said, so I shall not waste your time with re-iterating other people's posts. Instead, I will just say that I sympathize with ya, and have been there before. Fella I was pals with became such a different person after high school. His world views were completely in opposition to mine, and I didn't like the way he thought of/treated women. This thread ain't about me so I'm not explaining it further, but I will end this with the fact that I ended my friendship with him and I should have done it two years earlier at the least. It was a great move I made.

Decide for yourself man. But we're there for ya, and know where you've been.

It sucks. You got other friends.

[ChimneyFish]

bros before hos

As a wise man once said:

"You know who says 'bros before hos'???? Fags."



Past the wisdom of Ronnie B., time and relationships change people. That's just life.
Ass is usually going to come before anything else.
You just have to ask yourself if this guy is enough of a friend to accept that.