I had a great first date!

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

We laughed! We talked music. I had a nice time.

He walked me to my car and asked if I wanted to get coffee. I froze and said I was tired. Then as I drove away, I thought, "CRAP! What if he wants a second date?"

I did have fun and we have stuff in common.

A second date leads to a third, a fourth, and... possibly a r-r-r-elatonship.

Like I need ANOTHER person to know all the bad stuff about me only to throw it back in my face later? (Tonight I was relaxed and every now and then I'd do something and think, "Wait, will this be used against me?")

I'm looking too far into this, right? Or not enough?

[MadMatt]

Congrats on the great date! It is always nice when they go smoothly.

And relax, don't think about it too much. The WORST thing to do is get yourself all psyched out. If you had a nice time ask for (or accept) a second date. Keep yourself open to possibilities and don't put to much pressure on forging "a relationship" - Let it develop organically.

:thumbup:

[Tall_James]

That's great! Just don't overthink it. Let it happen naturally and go into it with no expectations. It's more fun that way.

My fingers are crossed for you! :thumbup:

[WhistlePig]

Yay Petrina! I'm so glad you had a good time!
Now stop with all the negative thinking already. You need to at least get laid first!!! :devil2:

[sailor]

everyone's right...chillax! it's a difficult concept when you're in the middle of it all, but you can't look too far down the road. glad you had fun. hope the fella did too and you get to do it again.

[FUNKMAN]

Nice! Hope you guys continue to be sweet to each other...


and fuck like slutbunnies, it's a heckuva lot of fun!!!!!

[Ritalin]

Congrats on the good date.

No kiss on the first date? Not even a little peck on the cheek, or nothin? Did he even try?

[Bulldogcakes]

Glad to hear your back in the game! Congrats, good luck, and as everyone else said just go with the flow and see where it leads.

[milliehatchett]

I hear ya Alice! It's hard to think about letting someone in and being vulnerable but let's not go there just yet. Continue to have fun - be yourself...that's who he (obviously) likes. I say obviously because it sounds like he didn't want the date to end.

Tell The Committee (the one in your head that whispers the negative stuff) to shut the F*&^% UP and you go and get ya some, Girl!!!!!!!

This is the BEST part about dating...having fun and looking forward to doing it again. Sit back and enjoy the ride!!!

[Ritalin]

I hear ya Alice! It's hard to think about letting someone in and being vulnerable but let's not go there just yet. Continue to have fun - be yourself...that's who he (obviously) likes. I say obviously because it sounds like he didn't want the date to end.

Tell The Committee (the one in your head that whispers the negative stuff) to shut the F*&^% UP and you go and get ya some, Girl!!!!!!!

This is the BEST part about dating...having fun and looking forward to doing it again. Sit back and enjoy the ride!!!

I always thought the best part of dating was the exquisite anticipation I'd feel while waiting for the roofies to kick in.

But then I would wake up a day later and it was like nothing happened.

[milliehatchett]

I always thought the best part of dating was the exquisite anticipation I'd feel while waiting for the roofies to kick in.

But then I would wake up a day later and it was like nothing happened.

Except for the rectal bleeding....

[Gvac]

This is wonderful news Ms. Fuzzybutt!

Stop thinking so much and just be yourself. I'm sure that guy is as excited and nervous as you are right now.

Best of luck to ya!

[Tenbatsuzen]

Fuzzy:

As a piece of advice, if you want a second date, make the move and call him. Don't wait for him to call you, because as you said, he may take "I'm tired" as a stop sign.

[Gvac]

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[A.J.]

Nobody deserves it more. :clap:

[Justice4all]

Congrats on the successfull first date! You do deserve it.
And if he wants a second date then go for it. (If you like him that is)
But don't read too far ahead...be mindful of the future but not at the expense of the present.

But the best way to start is not to look at the negative things inside yourself and go "Oh god now ANOTHER person is gonna see how fucked up I am!"

#1 you are not fucked up
#2 if you look at yourself in a negative light it will make others see you that way. You are a good person and very likeable. Hell he saw it.
#3 go and enjoy yourself. You had a great time....ride the wave Petrina....again...you deserve it

[tupper65]

If you're worried that he took your "I'm tired" answer the wrong way, why can't you give him a call to say what a nice time that you had on your date. The topic of a second date should come up and you won't have to worry about waiting for him to make the call. Chances are that he's probably playing the "what if" game right now and worrying about when he can call you and ask for that second date.

[Ritalin]

It's just me, but I say don't call.

[drjoek]

Swingers (1996)
[It's 2:32am, and Mike decides to call Nikki, a girl he met just a few hours ago.]
[Nikki's machine picks up: Hi, this is Nikki. Leave a message.]
Mike: Hi, uh, Nikki, this is Mike. I met you at the, um, at the Dresden tonight. I just called to say that I had a great time...and you should call me tomorrow, or in two days, whatever. Anyway, my number is 213-555-4679--
[the machine beeps]
Mike: [Mike calls back, the machine picks up]
Mike: Hi, Nikki, this is Mike again. I just called cuz it sounded like your machine might've cut me off when I, before I finished leaving my number. Anyway, uh, and, y'know, and also, sorry to call so late, but you were still at the Dresden when I left so I knew I'd get your machine. Anyhow, uh, my number's 21--
[the machine beeps]
Mike: [Mike calls back; the machine picks up again]
Mike: 213-555-4679. That's it. I just wanna leave my number. I didn't want you to think I was weird or desperate, or... we should just hang out and see where it goes cuz it's nice and, y'know, no expectations. Ok? Thanks a lot. Bye bye.
[hangs up]
Mike: [Mike walks away from the phone...then walks back and calls again; once again, the machine picks up]
Mike: I just got out of a 6-year relationship, Ok? That should help explain why I'm acting so weird. I just wanted you to know that. It's not you, it's me. I'm sorry. ...This is Mike.
[hangs up]
Mike: [Mike calls back, the machine picks up again]
Mike: Hi, Nikki, this is Mike. Could you just call me when you get in? I'm gonna be up for awhile and I'd just rather speak to you in person instead of trying to fit it all into--
[the machine beeps]
Mike: Fuck!
[Mike calls back, gets the machine again]
Mike: Uh, Nikki? Mike. It's uh, uh, it's just, uh, this just isn't working out. I think you're great, but maybe we should just take some time off from each other. It's not you, it's me. It's what I'm going through, alright? It's uh...it's only been 6 months--
Nikki: [picks up] Mike?
Mike: [very cheerful] Nikki? Great! Did you just walk in or were you listening all along?
Nikki: Don't ever call me again.
[hangs up]
Mike: Wow. I guess you're home.

[Thebazile78]

Hey Fuzzy-P!

This sounds like it's the start of some happies for you. You deserve it!!

Don't stress, you are wonderful and definitely take the bull by the horns . . . call!

GOOD LUCK.

We all believe in you.