I am fag rant(the less that read the better)

[biggestmexi]

So i had to change my gf oil in her car today.

(back story: just moved in December still got shit in the garage.((her shit)))

Waiting for the oil to cool i rifled around into some of her boxes. I KNOW BAD MOVE.
and found a WHOLE shoe box of shit that was of her and her biggest life love/crush/highschoolsweetheart thing. All these notes and pictures and all these little things. Needless to say the douche i am read all the notes because WHY the FUC turn back hmmm. cuase iam a idiot. And I cant say i am totally dissappointed that she has the shit as much as the fact that i am so jealous that i KNOW i never had anybody like that. its like 60-40 here.

The worst part is, is that i have to REAL firends anymore that i can talk to to help me out here and tell me a am a douche(and thats not what i am looking for from you guys here.) BUt at this age we are both 22 and you have a kid you pretty much loose all your people you thought were your "friends". End I was never one to talk to my parents. Let a lone i dont even talk to my mom anymore. And i really have no close family either and i dont want to bring it up to her though.


i am a fag i just want to :glurps::down::sad:

[Doctor Z]

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[King Hippos Bandaid]

looky loo or snoop thats what you are


either you don't tell her, but slip and she catches you in a lie

or you tell her you looked through her stuff and deal with the consequences , the worst that can happen is that she dumps you , then hires some goons to beat then kill you, then they place your body through a wood chipper and dump a bag of your remains into the ocean

[Furtherman]

You tortured yourself. Don't blame her. Yea, you're young, but if you tell her you went through her stuff - bye, bye! Suck it up and do your best to forget.

[jonyrotn]

I think you should put everything in a really pretty albulm and present it to her as a gift the same night you tell her you're no longer interested in women and your leaving her for MARC with A C-ock..
The good news is there is a house of ill repute in D.C. with an 11:00pm opening..

[Friday]

i had a box of pictures, albums, and a couple of keepsakes from my ex-fiance down in my basement until this past November when I finally went through it and threw it all away.

i broke my engagement in.... 2002.

just because she has this stuff does not necessarily mean she is holding onto anything. sometimes it's just something you have to keep around because at the time you pack it up it's too fresh to get rid of. try not to let it bother you too much... and definitely don't bring it up. choosing your battles is something i am learning is a HUGE part of relationship maintenance.

she is with you now. that is the important thing.

[mikeyboy]

i had a box of pictures, albums, and a couple of keepsakes from my ex-fiance down in my basement until this past November when I finally went through it and threw it all away.

i broke my engagement in.... 2002.

just because she has this stuff does not necessarily mean she is holding onto anything. sometimes it's just something you have to keep around because at the time you pack it up it's too fresh to get rid of. try not to let it bother you too much... and definitely don't bring it up. choosing your battles is something i am learning is a HUGE part of relationship maintenance.

she is with you now. that is the important thing.

I'm with Friday on this. Just because she still has that stuff doesn't necessarily mean anything.

[keithy_19]

I agree with Friday. Myself, I have a shoebox full of notes and various things my ex gave me. I hardly ever look through that box.

My current love itnerest keeps everything from all her bfs. It doesn't mean anything to her anymore, but she doesn't feel like 'throwing away' her past.

I don't mind it. I know she has a box someone where with stuff I've given her.

But for future advice, don't look through stuff. Boxes full of old mementos or cell phones. You'll drive yourself crazy.

[reillyluck]

completely agree with you, Friday.


you guys just moved in together, which is a HUGE step. She has these things because she's not ready to let them go. Not because of you. Because of her. there will be a point in her life when she says to herself "why am i keeping all this crap?". it will happen. She's 22 years old, so i'd say give it a couple of more years.

I used keep a shoebox of stuff like that. movie stubs, concert tickets, love letters, etc. if it had to do with a special moment with my ex , it was in there. Needless to say i got rid of it. well most of it at least. some stuff im still not ready to let go of yet. maybe i will, maybe i wont. Its a part of my past. i keep it to remind me of my youth, love and being naive.

I wouldnt bring it up to her. She probably would get rid of it if you asked her to, but i think its her personal stuff that she's holding on to because she wants to. let it be her choice when to get rid of it.

She's with you now. Start giving her memories that she can keep and before you know it, that old junk she has will just be garbage soon enough.

[FUNKMAN]

just love her

every man gets a bit jealous at times but let it pass... you can ask her down the road if she holds onto anything from past relationships and get it out in the air and behind you. if you don't have trust in the relationship then you have to decide if that's what you want or don't want

[Dougie Brootal]

completely agree with you, Friday.


you guys just moved in together, which is a HUGE step. She has these things because she's not ready to let them go. Not because of you. Because of her. there will be a point in her life when she says to herself "why am i keeping all this crap?". it will happen. She's 22 years old, so i'd say give it a couple of more years.

I used keep a shoebox of stuff like that. movie stubs, concert tickets, love letters, etc. if it had to do with a special moment with my ex , it was in there. Needless to say i got rid of it. well most of it at least. some stuff im still not ready to let go of yet. maybe i will, maybe i wont. Its a part of my past. i keep it to remind me of my youth, love and being naive.

I wouldnt bring it up to her. She probably would get rid of it if you asked her to, but i think its her personal stuff that she's holding on to because she wants to. let it be her choice when to get rid of it.

She's with you now. Start giving her memories that she can keep and before you know it, that old junk she has will just be garbage soon enough.

QFT. i broke up with my ex, and got with my current chick in 2005, and i just threw out all the memories and pictures this past weekend. we did it together, me & my chick. we ripped up the pictures and letters and old shit from my ex, then we had a drink and we fucked on top of the shredded memories. and i think we have become closer because of it. and weve been together for 3 years. so ya got that goin for ya...which is nice.

[Thebazile78]

I've probably been so unfortunate that when my past relationships ended, all I wanted to do was purge my life of the stuff I'd accumulated through them.

I burned notes from my high school ex.
I kept a puzzle ring from one of my college exes because I didn't know what to do with it...until I got the idea to mail it back to him from my Manhattan-based job with no return address. I figured it would either get back to him and he could dispose of it ... or it would be permanently lost in the mail; either way, I won.

I deleted all the back e-mails from the last guy I dated before Matt...and this was pre-cell phone for me, so I didn't have to deal with fighting the temptation to drunk dial him because he was on speed-dial. Hell, I even threw out a trash bag full of MY OWN STUFF because it had been sitting in his apartment, soaking up the cigarette and weed smoke and it just made me too sick to even sort through it, much less haul it off to the laundromat to wash it. Not to mention the mattress & boxspring I got rid of after he'd peed himself after a night of drinking at my place. Ewww. (That is totally another story for another day.)

I guess all this proves is that people deal with their breakups differently.

Reading other peoples' posts kind of makes me think that I'm in the minority here because I feel the need to purge. I have the good memories, but the things only brought tears. So I got rid of them as a way of working through things. . . of course, I also have a shortage of storage space, so that could explain my need to purge things quickly.

[keithy_19]

After a heavy night of drinking I deleted everything I had from her. All the pictures, the IM conversations, the emails. I kept all the things I wrote for ehr though because I'm not going to throw out writing that I thoroughly enjoyed giving her.

[Ritalin]

You know, I actually just ran across a box I didn't know about in our apartment - or course while my wife was out of town but it was a complete accident, I was looking for something else - and there were these notes from her high school sweetheart, and I thought they were charming. I don't care that she kept them, and we've been married for 13 years (together for 18), so I don't feel threatened, and what the hell, I wrote the same silly letters to MY high school sweetheart way back then.

You have to forget that you saw them, concentrate on the fact that she's with you now, and move on.

[jonyrotn]

I think you should put everything in a really pretty albulm and present it to her as a gift the same night you tell her you're no longer interested in women and your leaving her for MARC with A C-ock..
The good news is there is a house of ill repute in D.C. with an 11:00pm opening..
Just trying to make you laugh..Gay jokes always make me laugh..The fact is, she had a life before you.. Dont't make her pretend she was born the day she met you or her ex never exsisted.. She used to love him and that is a fact,but she loves you now and that says it all.. You're the man..Let it go and don't say a word..It will spook her and you'll probably regret it..You can always find another reason to punch her in the face and light her car on fire, keepsakes and all..Good luck and don't sweat it..

[Dougie Brootal]

Just trying to make you laugh..Gay jokes always make me laugh..The fact is, she had a life before you.. Dont't make her pretend she was born the day she met you or her ex never exsisted.. She used to love him and that is a fact,but she loves you now and that says it all.. You're the man..Let it go and don't say a word..It will spook her and you'll probably regret it..You can always find another reason to punch her in the face and light her car on fire, keepsakes and all..Good luck and don't sweat it..

you probably LOVE me, then. im a walking gay joke....



and you were right.... you are pretty funny!

[Tenbatsuzen]

I've probably been so unfortunate that when my past relationships ended, all I wanted to do was purge my life of the stuff I'd accumulated through them.

I burned notes from my high school ex.
I kept a puzzle ring from one of my college exes because I didn't know what to do with it...until I got the idea to mail it back to him from my Manhattan-based job with no return address. I figured it would either get back to him and he could dispose of it ... or it would be permanently lost in the mail; either way, I won.

I deleted all the back e-mails from the last guy I dated before Matt...and this was pre-cell phone for me, so I didn't have to deal with fighting the temptation to drunk dial him because he was on speed-dial. Hell, I even threw out a trash bag full of MY OWN STUFF because it had been sitting in his apartment, soaking up the cigarette and weed smoke and it just made me too sick to even sort through it, much less haul it off to the laundromat to wash it. Not to mention the mattress & boxspring I got rid of after he'd peed himself after a night of drinking at my place. Ewww. (That is totally another story for another day.)

I guess all this proves is that people deal with their breakups differently.

Reading other peoples' posts kind of makes me think that I'm in the minority here because I feel the need to purge. I have the good memories, but the things only brought tears. So I got rid of them as a way of working through things. . . of course, I also have a shortage of storage space, so that could explain my need to purge things quickly.

You forgot the time I fenced all the jewelry from him too and we went out to dinner with the proceeds.

Are you glad I never pissed myself?

[Kris10]

I'm the wrong person to be commenting about this maybe.....I'd get rid of it all myself. Thats me. That relationship is over, we are together (you and her) lets start fresh.

I had my ex husband's name tat'd on my chest (shut up everyone) and we are going through a divorce right now. This past Sat I went and had it covered up. Once the relationship is over, its over.

I wouldn't tell her you went through her shit though, just gotten rid of it somewhere off the property where she couldn't find it later.

[keithy_19]

Are you glad I never pissed myself?

What every lucky gal wants to hear. :tongue:

[ToddEVF]

personally what I have done in a situation similar was just throw the box out and casually mention how you were cleaning up and happened upon a box with what you thought was junk.

She'll overreact even though she says "I"ve been meaning to get rid of those"

[SinA]

No, I AM FAG RANT
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on the serious tip...the past is the past, and you can't blame her for not being more upfront just becasue she's bad at cleaning out her garage.

[PapaBear]

All I can say is, when I started going out with my first wife, she made me get rid of all the old photos, letters and shit from an old g/f. They weren't just run of the mill photos, either. They were fashion photos that I took for her modeling portfolio. I was very proud of the work I had done. To this day, I still can't forgive her for making me get rid of that stuff.

[biggestmexi]

You guys really helped here.

Especially Friday, St. Mikeyboy of the Iternet, keithy19, reillyluck, funkman, etc.

And you say give her more time? I just hope she actually does get rid of them. Atleast beofre my son can ready. Which i know i have a WHILE(but cant wait)((16mnths old)).

And we have been dating from 3+ years and lived togother for well a couple years.

So i guess we will have to see when he actually move this stuff into the house if it really makes it in there. Maybe on its way into the house itll hit the can.(trashcan)


dr. z - can you get a bigger picture into the threads. thats so awesome.:dry:

[foodcourtdruide]

So i had to change my gf oil in her car today.

(back story: just moved in December still got shit in the garage.((her shit)))

Waiting for the oil to cool i rifled around into some of her boxes. I KNOW BAD MOVE.
and found a WHOLE shoe box of shit that was of her and her biggest life love/crush/highschoolsweetheart thing. All these notes and pictures and all these little things. Needless to say the douche i am read all the notes because WHY the FUC turn back hmmm. cuase iam a idiot. And I cant say i am totally dissappointed that she has the shit as much as the fact that i am so jealous that i KNOW i never had anybody like that. its like 60-40 here.

The worst part is, is that i have to REAL firends anymore that i can talk to to help me out here and tell me a am a douche(and thats not what i am looking for from you guys here.) BUt at this age we are both 22 and you have a kid you pretty much loose all your people you thought were your "friends". End I was never one to talk to my parents. Let a lone i dont even talk to my mom anymore. And i really have no close family either and i dont want to bring it up to her though.


i am a fag i just want to :glurps::down::sad:

You are 22. You will learn that the person you love is their own dynamic and unique person that is not 100% obsessed with you. I don't know how it is for other people, but I know I had to learn this lesson by experience and now my wife could practically cheat on me and I really wouldn't care.

[topless_mike]

forcing someone to have to let go of things sometimes only makes it worse.
since this is not "life-threatening", i really wouldnt push the issue, nor ever bring it up.
when she's ready to close that chapta, she will.

[ralphbxny]

QFT. i broke up with my ex, and got with my current chick in 2005, and i just threw out all the memories and pictures this past weekend. we did it together, me & my chick. we ripped up the pictures and letters and old shit from my ex, then we had a drink and we fucked on top of the shredded memories. and i think we have become closer because of it. and weve been together for 3 years. so ya got that goin for ya...which is nice.

You did what to the letters I wrote you!!

What a jerk!

[pennington]

I wouldn't mention it, ever. Don't even mention it when you're in the middle of some BS argument and she throws something from your past into your face. It just causes more problems.