Maybe our parents were RIGHT.

[fezident]

When you're young, you think your parents are "out of touch" or that they don't understand our modern problems.
Then... you get a little older, and you realize that maybe they weren't all that out of touch after all.

Do you tell 'em? Have you ever called up your mom/dad and said "I get it now. I see what you were trying to tell me."


For example;
When I was a kid, I was making a lot of money as a roadie for a lot of world-famous bands and artists. I was making a LOT and I never really saw the need to look for other work. I thought, "hey I'm making more than my dad makes, and I'm only 20!"
My Grandpa pulled me aside and said "Son, there's two kinds of jobs in this world; the kind where ya shower before you go and the kind where ya shower when ya get home. Trust me.. you want the kind where ya have to shower BEFORE you go in. There's nothing wrong with an honest day of labor but, don't work with your back for your entire life. Let your BRAIN do the heavy lifting."

The 20 year-old version of myself thought he was an idiot. I was making 400 a day and hangin' out with celebs. What did he know?!
Now... I see the wisdom in his words.

All these years later, I finally have a "real" job and I appreciate it to the max.



So, what advice (or wisdom) did you ignore when you were a kid that now, with hindsight, you wish you hadn't?

[nate1000]

"Son, there's two kinds of jobs in this world; the kind where ya shower before you go and the kind where ya shower when ya get home."

That is brilliant.

[LaBoob]

Your grandfather was a smart man...

My mother forced me to take piano lessons for 10 years and I never took it seriously and barely ever practiced. She told me that it's worth it to learn because one of these days you'll be at a party or something where there's a piano and you'll be able to play for everybody and everyone will appreciate it and you'll remember these lessons then.

She recently gave me the piano I learned on and I have it in my home and now that I'm playing as an adult I know exactly what she was talking about. I'm so thankful I have those years of lessons to fall back on! I had friends over the other night who were so thrilled when I started playing they were literally screaming and stomping for me. It was extremely exhilerating...

Since I've been playing again I've gone to my mother, hugged her, and thanked her from the bottom of my heart for giving me those lessons all those years and giving me a gift that I now truly appreciate.

[topless_mike]

i was always told to "take school seriously".
i didnt, and now i wish i did.

[LaBoob]

i was always told to "take school seriously".
i didnt, and now i wish i did.

I hear ya on that one...

[TheMojoPin]

Scrooge McDuck said the same damn thing.

Maybe our ducks are RIGHT.

[mugby43]

parents were... and when i was twenty one i was amazed at how they had learned in just six years!

[Arienette]

when i was sixteen i was appalled at how stupid my parents were... and when i was twenty one i was amazed at how they had learned in just six years!
doesn't 16 + 6 = 22?

i'm confused.

[ChrisTheCop]

parents were... and when i was twenty one i was amazed at how they had learned in just six years!

doesn't 16 + 6 = 22?

i'm confused.

They used to help him with his math homework when he was 16.

[mugby43]

and half the time with arts and farts.

I wzs good at math, it was just the arithmatic that got in the way

[Coach]

I think a lot of current parents are out of touch. I kicked a 10 year old out of practice for saying "I don't give a Fuck" to me and I was made the asshole.
If it was my kid I would have washed his mouth out with soap.
Now, alas, parents are of the mindset that their kids are perfect, and everyone else is out to get their kids or just plain wrong.

[Thebazile78]

I think a lot of current parents are out of touch. I kicked a 10 year old out of practice for saying "I don't give a Fuck" to me and I was made the asshole.
If it was my kid I would have washed his mouth out with soap.
Now, alas, parents are of the mindset that their kids are perfect, and everyone else is out to get their kids or just plain wrong.

Or they're trying to be their kids' best friend.

(And why isn't that considered pedophilia?)

I'm inclined to agree that a lot of parents have tried so hard NOT to be like their own parents that they've gone to extremes ... and that makes for some ill-behaved youngsters.

Because I disagreed with quite a few things that my parents did while I was a kid, I was absolutely terrified of being a parent.

Now, while I'm still apprehensive, I'm a bit more relaxed ... and I also realize that my parents did the best they could with the skills they had. I also read a lot about current parenting theories, which are constantly evolving, picking out the things that I disagree with and trying to figure out why I disagree. And I'm also trying to identify what I feel will be my biggest challenges when I finally do have kids.

I guess I have an advantage at this point - I'm already 7 years older than my mother was when I was born and I read a lot more in-depth behavioral science articles than she even knew existed when she was expecting. So I think I have my bases covered.

[Freitag]

I guess I have an advantage at this point - I'm already 7 years older than my mother was when I was born and I read a lot more in-depth behavioral science articles than she even knew existed when she was expecting. So I think I have my bases covered.

With all apologies to Danny Ainge:

"She forgot about one thing. She forgot about Matty Fridays!"

[Thebazile78]

With all apologies to Danny Ainge:

"She forgot about one thing. She forgot about Matty Fridays!"

Yeah, you're a whole wild card I've got to deal with in addition to toddlers.

[Coach]

Or they're trying to be their kids' best friend.

(And why isn't that considered pedophilia?)

I'm inclined to agree that a lot of parents have tried so hard NOT to be like their own parents that they've gone to extremes ... and that makes for some ill-behaved youngsters.



I guess I have an advantage at this point - I'm already 7 years older than my mother was when I was born and I read a lot more in-depth behavioral science articles than she even knew existed when she was expecting. So I think I have my bases covered.
I think part of the problem is that parents read too much of the Behavorial Science articles..I firmly believe that psycologists have made up a slew of "disorders" that kids have and have sold it to parents to make money.
"Disorders" like Oppositional Defiance and it's ilk are nothing more than a parent's inability to control a situation and be a parent. I am sorry, but a swat now and then by a parent is a good thing in my opinion.
I am tired though of parents taking it out on me when their kids act like brats and are mad at me when their kid is expelled from practice. Sorry, I am not the problem, your parenting skills are. I really hate it when I am put into the parenting position and have to discipline a kid for acting incorrectly on something that I should not have to, foul language for example; if the kid is constantly cursing, why is it my fault that I kick him out for using inappropriate language?

[TooLowBrow]

I really hate it when I am put into the parenting position and have to discipline a kid for acting incorrectly on something that I should not have to, foul language for example; if the kid is constantly cursing, why is it my fault that I kick him out for using inappropriate language?

put into a parenting position?
you chose to be a coach, its your job to teach these kids right
and kick one out for foul language?
grow a thicker skin. kids can be harsh, they haven't learned how to level their insults yet
make the kid sit out a game
teach him that he wont play if he does shit that you dont like
a coach/teacher should be molding these kids to be better, not giving up when they seem to be too bad/tough/annoying.

[PapaBear]

I'm still convinced my dad was pretty much wrong about EVERYTHING. And my mom? UGH!!! She'd wait until I gave up something that I loved (due to lack of support), then she'd say, "I wish you had stuck with that. I always thought it was right for you".:wallbash:

[Coach]

put into a parenting position?
you chose to be a coach, its your job to teach these kids right
and kick one out for foul language?
grow a thicker skin. kids can be harsh, they haven't learned how to level their insults yet
make the kid sit out a game
teach him that he wont play if he does shit that you dont like
a coach/teacher should be molding these kids to be better, not giving up when they seem to be too bad/tough/annoying.1)I bench them for the practice..not from the team.
2) I have 34-50 other kids I have to work with..to spend all my time explaining what is proper/improper language to one kid when we covered it already (and is in the handbook)
is unfair to the rest of the team.

[jonyrotn]

When I was a kid, I was making a lot of money as a roadie for a lot of world-famous bands and artists. I was making a LOT and I'm only 20 and hangin' out with celebs.
A year later, I finally have a "real" job Happy 21st birthday..
If you would have let grandpa help drive roadie train through Hannah Montana, he'd still be giving you$400 a day...With medical benifits..
Is she a wood floor?

[jonyrotn]

When I was a kid, I was making a lot of money as a roadie for a lot of world-famous bands and artists. I was making a LOT and I'm only 20 and hangin' out with celebs.
A year later, I finally have a "real" job
Happy 21st birthday..
If you would have let grandpa help pull the "roadie train" through Hannah Montana, he'd still be giving you$400 a day...With medical benifits..
Is she a wood floor?

[fezident]

Because I disagreed with quite a few things that my parents did while I was a kid, I was absolutely terrified of being a parent.





I'm still convinced my dad was pretty much wrong about EVERYTHING. And my mom? UGH!!! She'd wait until I gave up something that I loved (due to lack of support), then she'd say, "I wish you had stuck with that. I always thought it was right for you".


I completely understand and agree with each of those statements. 100 percent.

[keithy_19]

I am incredibly broke right now. My parents told me to save up. Instead of saving, I would spend the money because my paychecks weren't very good. It seemed like it was perfectly rational to take 40 dollars out of my 45 dollar check and piss the money away.

Stupid me...