I am a Mean, Mean, girl

[biggirl]

I have to confess that I have been making my husband's life miserable. I don't do this on purpose. I feel really bad because he said he is not going to post here anymore. All I told him is that he is on the Internet 24/7, so now he is pissed about that and some other things.

What should I do? This board is full of men....give me some advice. Apparently I am too nagging and call him too much. How can I make this guy happy and be an awesome wife?

[Suspect Chin]

I have to confess that I have been making my husband's life miserable. I don't do this on purpose. I feel really bad because he said he is not going to post here anymore. All I told him is that he is on the Internet 24/7, so now he is pissed about that and some other things.

What should I do? This board is full of men....give me some advice. Apparently I am too nagging and call him too much. How can I make this guy happy and be an awesome wife?

Don't treat him how you want to be treated. That is the biggest mistake women make; treating men how they want to be treated as women.

[led37zep]

Suggestion #1: Let him jack on you while he sleeps.

Suggestion #2: Let the guy have some sort of release. I don't know your guys situation but if after all the daily stress in his life he wants to come here, make a few gay jokes and talk about the show you should let him have that.

Now if he's avoiding his obligations and there is some bigger issue at hand...well this is the LAST place you should come looking for advice on that.

[Brad in Bama]

Don't treat him how you want to be treated. That is the biggest mistake women make; treating men how they want to be treated as women.

That's actually a good point.

I know it's not for everyone, but my wife gives me ton's of space. We never fight. She's like a good dog. She's there, but you never know it until you look for her. In return, I find myself wanting to do stuff for her/with her because of her awesomeness. I know what I'm supposed to do in a relationship, and when I think of how much she doesn't hassle me or bitch and complain, I tend to go out of my way to show her I appreciate it.

Will this work for you? Who knows, but it can't hurt to try.

[grlNIN]

She's like a good dog.

I can't imagine how lucky she must feel to be married to a prince like you.

[Suspect Chin]

I can't imagine how lucky she must feel to be married to a prince like you.

This is what I mean by stop thinking like a girl if you want to make him happy.

Clearly a good dog is the utmost compliment. Women can't see past the word dog to realize the love implied.

[paracetamol flanders]

My advice to you is to go anywhere but here for advice.

[Sue_Bender]

Don't follow him on message boards.

He's here to forge his own "Internet Identity".


CHRIST!!


Let him have SOMETHING precious! :glurps:

[hammersavage]

Whatever it takes. this place needs Rhino, if that means you have to scale back posting, so be it.

[jennysmurf]

Don't follow him on message boards.

He's here to forge his own "Internet Identity".


CHRIST!!


Let him have SOMETHING precious! :glurps:

True dat.

[PapaBear]

Suggestion #1: Let him jack on you while he sleeps.
Sleep jacking? This calls for...


AMBIEN!!!

[ToiletCrusher]

Interesting problem.

I may not know it all but, you might want to start by asking the reasons he is going to stop posting here. Perhaps there is more to it than just your joining. I can see there being more.

How would you characterize 24/7 ?

I might call that an exaggeration.

When you think of the internet usage, does it directly effect his ability to be a good father and husband?

If not, no problem. If so, there may be some seriousness to the situation.

One big thing, DO NOT pile all of your complaints on him at one time.

The last thing I want to hear and hate to hear is, "hey there are some problems that we need to discuss" and then hear some that may be serious followed with what might be considered trivial.

At that point, you have already made yourself out to be the antagonist for no reason.

[Drunky McBetidont]

my wife thinks this is a waste of time. she figures it is full of gay guys trying to hook up in rest areas. i tried to tell her that rest areas are not a common topic of conversation here.

[boosterp]

Brad, you actually compared your wife to a dog? Ouch. :thumbdown:

[grlNIN]

Brad, you actually compared your wife to a dog? Ouch. :thumbdown:

Seriously.


Also, if he was posting here first then you should let him have the board.

[nate1000]

How can I make this guy happy and be an awesome wife?

Only one way to make it up to him now. Oral. Lots and lots of oral.:thumbup:

[CountryBob]

Don't follow him on message boards.

He's here to forge his own "Internet Identity".


CHRIST!!


Let him have SOMETHING precious! :glurps:

Sue_Bender's wisdom is amazing - i am becoming a big fan.

[biggestmexi]

my wife thinks this is a waste of time. she figures it is full of gay guys trying to hook up in rest areas. i tried to tell her that rest areas are not a common topic of conversation here.

not out in the open any way.

but what me and lenny do at a rest. is our business

[Drunky McBetidont]

Only one way to make it up to him now. Oral. Lots and lots of oral.:thumbup:

maybe oral can be of help. a little jesus just might be the answer here




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[Kublakhan61]

I have to confess that I have been making my husband's life miserable. I don't do this on purpose. I feel really bad because he said he is not going to post here anymore. All I told him is that he is on the Internet 24/7, so now he is pissed about that and some other things.

What should I do? This board is full of men....give me some advice. Apparently I am too nagging and call him too much. How can I make this guy happy and be an awesome wife?

He sounds like he's being uncool. Personally, I don't frequent .net much when I'm home because I have home life and this place is a timesink. I'd rather spend my free time with my wife cooking, playing music, going to the park, etc -that's why I CHOSE to marry her.

If he is unhappy at home because he can't talk to his internet buddies then perhaps you should go out and make other friends.

Please yourself.

[Tall_James]

If he's not shirking responsibilities and he's not trolling, what is the problem? Is it because he's devoting more time to internet friends than you? One way you can fix this is by taking him out on date to do something he would like to do. How about bringing him to a sports bar to drink beer, eat wings and watch sports on the big TV? Asking him to go to the driving range and hit a few bucket of balls together, that's always good for a laugh. Go with him to a big summer popcorn movie with lots of shit blowing up without complaining that the movie is stupid. Take him out for a steak dinner at a steakhouse and surprise him with a hotel room for afterwards.

This is stuff men like, not going over to your college friend's house to have dinner with her and her husband - talking about work, gardening and what their kid's are up to. We like to eat, drink, be entertained, have sex then fall asleep. We don't need a lot more than that. And just because we love that doesn't mean that we don't love you. We can do all of those things with you.

If you can get him off the internet to do those five things he won't complain.

[Tall_James]

Don't treat him how you want to be treated. That is the biggest mistake women make; treating men how they want to be treated as women.

This is good advice too.

[Tall_James]

And he isn't on the Internet "24/7", that is an exaggeration. He may be on it for hours at a time but not all 24. Men hate it when women exaggerate about the time they do things.

[grlNIN]

I go to Death/Black metal concerts in the tristate area with my boyfriend and his friends in order for him to feel like his hobbies & interests are as fulfilled as mine are.

I am a good girlfriend :]

My boyfriend also experimented with posting on the board, he's not a full timer but when i mention things that may interest him he logs on. I find this to work better for me because i need something to have of my own.

[topless_mike]

We like to eat, drink, be entertained, have sex then fall asleep. We don't need a lot more than that.

in my 2 years of hanging around here, i've never seen anything more true.
please, this post should be a sticky.

gwen,
my suggestion would be to slow your roll a bit. its his board (well, not his, but he was here first). he might feel like you are keeping tabs on him, which is never cool. hubs/wife teams can work (missy/jeff, tub/mrs tub, matty/liz), but you have to know your role. its kinda like a 3 way. there are rules, and each must play by them.

in speaking for the board, we love your presence here. i think hub/wife teams rock, but not at the extent of losing one of the 2.

[Sue_Bender]

in speaking for the board, we love your presence here.

Why do YOU feel comfortable speaking for the board?

That seems quite presumptuous.

[blakenWYO]

take a load on your face... He will love you forever...RED DRAGONS!!!

[topless_mike]

That seems quite presumptuous.

well, i see what goes down when mLc posts, and i dont see that here,

thus, inbyfacto, its safe to say that we like her presence here.

Why do YOU feel comfortable speaking for the board?


because i fucking can. thats why.


ps- note forum.

[Sue_Bender]

well, i see what goes down when mLc posts, and i dont see that here,

thus, inbyfacto, its safe to say that we like her presence here.



because i fucking can. thats why.


ps- note forum.

It was a mere question, Mr. Topless.

Don't get all bent out of shapelessness. :wacko:

[topless_mike]

It was a mere question, Mr. Topless.

Don't get all bent out of shapelessness. :wacko:

i'm on edge.

STAY ON TOPIC !

[King Hippos Bandaid]

honesty, tell him, that you nag because you love and that the purpose was to make him aware and that you would be happy when he has his internet time , but at a reduced rate


if that doesn't work, give him Sex, Bourbon and Bacon in no particular order

[Dr.Girlfriend]

I'm new here and I don't know the history of this story but I agree with the no nagging theory. I've tried it and it works. It's really hard sometimes to bite my tongue but it is amazing how much our relationship has improved since I've given him his space and stopped the nit picking. I wish you all the best and hope you find a solution soon.

[RhinoinMN]

This thread is enough to make me do a post. In no way shape or form do I want my wife to quit posting here. I have seen a part of her that I knew she had, but would never express it. That side has deepened my love for her.

The issue is she thinks I spend to much time on the netz, via computer/phone and it may be true.

It is something that we need to work out and I'm sure we will. I really hope that she posts here at her will. I have seen her happier and it gives us something to laugh about TOGETHER which I find important.

I will keep posting, but may scale back a bit.

Thanks to all for giving her advice in lieu of more oral. Much appreciated.

All in all if she thinks that she is going to quit here than so am I. We will do it together.

Love ya babe!

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[topless_mike]

Thanks to all for giving her advice in lieu of more oral. Much appreciated.


*noting forum*, but still...

:huh:

[drjoek]

This thread is enough to make me do a post. In no way shape or form do I want my wife to quit posting here. I have seen a part of her that I knew she had, but would never express it. That side has deepened my love for her.

The issue is she thinks I spend to much time on the netz, via computer/phone and it may be true.

It is something that we need to work out and I'm sure we will. I really hope that she posts here at her will. I have seen her happier and it gives us something to laugh about TOGETHER which I find important.

I will keep posting, but may scale back a bit.

Thanks to all for giving her advice in lieu of more oral. Much appreciated.

All in all if she thinks that she is going to quit here than so am I. We will do it together.

Love ya babe!

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http://image.guardian.co.uk/sys-images/Film/Pix/pictures/2000/02/01/thelmlouise.jpg

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:thumbup:

You know where i stand on both of you two so keep working at it you two

[Aggie]

*noting forum*, but still...

:huh:

It's in the Confessional so it's all good (plus they are playing along). When it's actually in That's Life: That's Life the Forum, then you need to keep the shennangians down.

[RhinoinMN]

It's in the Confessional so it's all good (plus they are playing along). When it's actually in That's Life: That's Life the Forum, then you need to keep the shennangians down.

That is the beauty of this. Since it is MY wife I can tell her to go fuck her mother if I wanted too. MY WIFE. MY LIFE!

[CHUCKWAGONCOOK]

Hey Rhino and Big Girl,

Ledouski and I post here a lot and we get along famously. As a matter of fact when I'm not on the computer she is. We make a trade...If your on the computer the other gets the remote control to the TV. Simple.

But when she gets home from work I make sure I'm not on the computer. I realize that she wants to check her e-mail and talk to me about things, plus that's usually around dinner time.

So my advice to you two is for RHino to post when when your not around and to switch control between the TV and Computer when you two are together. And to hell with the kids....they don't help pay for anything.

Love Lenny

[boosterp]

I'd miss both of you, please continue to post.

[TjM]

You should buy him a 12 pack.

[WampusCrandle]

I'd miss both of you, please continue to post.

I don't mind choosing. I WANT YOU TO STAY, RHINO!!!!

[topless_mike]

It's in the Confessional so it's all good (plus they are playing along). When it's actually in That's Life: That's Life the Forum, then you need to keep the shennangians down.

it was.
must have been moved.

[RoseBlood]

I'd miss both of you, please continue to post.

Oh man, I hope you're kidding? :unsure:

Do what's important in your life, whatever that may be.

If you decide it's this board, great!

If you decide one or both of you need to take a break from here, of course we'll miss you two, but the board will always be here waiting for you.. other things may not.

Whatever arrangements you two decide to make, we support you no matter what.

Personally, I'm hoping it doesn't come down to an all or nothing decision.

[Drunky McBetidont]

i say you wrestle for it, first pin for a three count gets the board. be adult about it.

[RoseBlood]

i say you wrestle for it, first pin for a three count gets the board. be adult about it.

I hope you're serious, cause this is the best advice yet! :thumbup:

[debit]

That's actually a good point.

I know it's not for everyone, but my wife gives me ton's of space. We never fight. She's like a good dog. She's there, but you never know it until you look for her. In return, I find myself wanting to do stuff for her/with her because of her awesomeness. I know what I'm supposed to do in a relationship, and when I think of how much she doesn't hassle me or bitch and complain, I tend to go out of my way to show her I appreciate it.

Will this work for you? Who knows, but it can't hurt to try.


Bingo.

My chick is like that too and it is awesome. Women need to give their men space especially when they first come home. If you want to talk to him, then go for a walk together or to Starbucks. It's a lot easier for us to talk after we've had an hour or two to relax first. Also say what you mean. If you want attention say so. Don't just start a fight to get it. Also don't nag, ever.

PS Most of the time, we aren't thinking of anything.

And good luck!

[RoseBlood]

We never fight. She's like a good dog.

Glad it works for you, but this sounds very booorrrringgggg.

I hate it when couple bitch and fight constantly, but a good old fashioned screaming match is fun.

[TripleSkeet]

I go to Death/Black metal concerts in the tristate area with my boyfriend and his friends in order for him to feel like his hobbies & interests are as fulfilled as mine are.

I am a good girlfriend :]


I dont want you to take this the wrong way, but I dont see how that makes you a good girlfriend. I assume you arent into the Death/Black metal concerts, I would bet he would rather just go with his friends then. He will never actually tell you that because he doesnt want to hurt your feelings but speaking from experience, Id say its the truth.

Speaking from my own personal experience I can tell you this, guys NEED alone time, and most girls hate being alone. Thats the problem. Some guys spend their alone time differently. Some watch tv, listen to music, work on their car... he surfs the net. Theres nothing wrong with that. I love how some people consider something like listening to music more of a life then surfing online. Its the same shit.

I think the reason you nag is because watching tv and stuff like that is something you could do together, where when a person is online its usually a solitary hobby. Dont take it personally. If your man was sitting next to you watching tv and not speaking its no different then if hes online in the next room.

But seriously, the true way to make things better is to stop nagging. Guys fucking HATE that shit.

[biggirl]

I never said Rhino could not be on this site or anything like that. I hope he doesn't get too upset with me sharing, but hey, maybe you guys can help us out.

We haven't been getting along for quite some time. We have been married for 9 years, so I don't think anything is worth leaving the marriage, etc, except for cheating.

I think the problems have arisen due to the fact that I am a stay at home mom and crave adult attention. When Rhino gets home I want to talk to him and hang out together. It's not that I don't have friends or anything, it is just that Rhino is my best friend. I get a long way better with men than women. Women are too catty for me and all they want to do is talk about female issues, kids, etc...boring stuff to me. I don't have many male friends that would be appropriate to hang out with.

I also have this "ideal" family/marriage life that gets in the way most of the time. You know, dinner at a certain time, play board games with the kids, read to them, get them to bed and then snuggle with the husband. I know pretty girly sounding.

Plus, Rhino used to put up with my shit...now he doesn't. (Score 1 million points for Ryan) I am still getting used to him wearing the pants in the relationship.

Anyhow...thanks for the advice. I like it here. Sorry for the long post. Just wanted to give a little more info.

[CHUCKWAGONCOOK]

I think you should send me all of Rhino's deoderant and shaving creAM AND RAZORS. tHAT'LL TEACH HIM.

[CHUCKWAGONCOOK]

I never said Rhino could not be on this site or anything like that. I hope he doesn't get too upset with me sharing, but hey, maybe you guys can help us out.

We haven't been getting along for quite some time. We have been married for 9 years, so I don't think anything is worth leaving the marriage, etc, except for cheating.

I think the problems have arisen due to the fact that I am a stay at home mom and crave adult attention. When Rhino gets home I want to talk to him and hang out together. It's not that I don't have friends or anything, it is just that Rhino is my best friend. I get a long way better with men than women. Women are too catty for me and all they want to do is talk about female issues, kids, etc...boring stuff to me. I don't have many male friends that would be appropriate to hang out with.

I also have this "ideal" family/marriage life that gets in the way most of the time. You know, dinner at a certain time, play board games with the kids, read to them, get them to bed and then snuggle with the husband. I know pretty girly sounding.

Plus, Rhino used to put up with my shit...now he doesn't. (Score 1 million points for Ryan) I am still getting used to him wearing the pants in the relationship.

Anyhow...thanks for the advice. I like it here. Sorry for the long post. Just wanted to give a little more info.
holy crap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! rhino is cheating on you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

now that's a whole other ball of wax

[biggirl]

I dont want you to take this the wrong way, but I dont see how that makes you a good girlfriend. I assume you arent into the Death/Black metal concerts, I would bet he would rather just go with his friends then. He will never actually tell you that because he doesnt want to hurt your feelings but speaking from experience, Id say its the truth.

Speaking from my own personal experience I can tell you this, guys NEED alone time, and most girls hate being alone. Thats the problem. Some guys spend their alone time differently. Some watch tv, listen to music, work on their car... he surfs the net. Theres nothing wrong with that. I love how some people consider something like listening to music more of a life then surfing online. Its the same shit.

I think the reason you nag is because watching tv and stuff like that is something you could do together, where when a person is online its usually a solitary hobby. Dont take it personally. If your man was sitting next to you watching tv and not speaking its no different then if hes online in the next room.

But seriously, the true way to make things better is to stop nagging. Guys fucking HATE that shit.

Makes sense. As a teenager, I hated being nagged by my mother. I think it is breed into women, seriously.

[Drunky McBetidont]

Bingo.

PS Most of the time, we are thinking of other women.

And good luck!

fixed

[biggirl]

holy crap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! rhino is cheating on you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

now that's a whole other ball of wax

prolly with GVAC....I haven't figured out with who...YET!

[biggirl]

i say you wrestle for it, first pin for a three count gets the board. be adult about it.

I am pretty sure I would beat him because I would just sit on him.

[drjoek]

I never said Rhino could not be on this site or anything like that. I hope he doesn't get too upset with me sharing, but hey, maybe you guys can help us out.

We haven't been getting along for quite some time. We have been married for 9 years, so I don't think anything is worth leaving the marriage, etc, except for cheating.

I think the problems have arisen due to the fact that I am a stay at home mom and crave adult attention. When Rhino gets home I want to talk to him and hang out together. It's not that I don't have friends or anything, it is just that Rhino is my best friend. I get a long way better with men than women. Women are too catty for me and all they want to do is talk about female issues, kids, etc...boring stuff to me. I don't have many male friends that would be appropriate to hang out with.

I also have this "ideal" family/marriage life that gets in the way most of the time. You know, dinner at a certain time, play board games with the kids, read to them, get them to bed and then snuggle with the husband. I know pretty girly sounding.

Plus, Rhino used to put up with my shit...now he doesn't. (Score 1 million points for Ryan) I am still getting used to him wearing the pants in the relationship.

Anyhow...thanks for the advice. I like it here. Sorry for the long post. Just wanted to give a little more info.



9 years in is a good long run and often a time when things can get rough Relationships change as you both mature. The key to a good relationship is to deal with issues as they come up. Maybe its his internet use or maybe that's the trigger that upsets you when its actually something else that's bothering you. We all go through rough times in a marriage and it isn't easy when you've got young kids. Keep talking to Ryan about the things that need attention. You seem to handle stuff with a great sense of humor here and that is an asset in dealling with marriage and the challenges.
If all else fails you can always hook up with me.
:wub:
Have I mentioned my beachhouse in RI?

[boosterp]

9 years in is a good long run and often a time when things can get rough Relationships change as you both mature. The key to a good relationship is to deal with issues as they come up. Maybe its his internet use or maybe that's the trigger that upsets you when its actually something else that's bothering you. We all go through rough times in a marriage and it isn't easy when you've got young kids. Keep talking to Ryan about the things that need attention. You seem to handle stuff with a great sense of humor here and that is an asset in dealling with marriage and the challenges.
If all else fails you can always hook up with me.
:wub:
Have I mentioned my beachhouse in RI?

Mr. smooth in the house.

[drjoek]

Mr. smooth in the house.



Sensitive niceguy>shoulder to cry on> beachhouse»SCORE!!

[biggirl]

Sensitive niceguy>shoulder to cry on> beachhouse»SCORE!!

I think you might be part of the problem....Rhino got mad at me when I was looking up airline prices for a solo flight to Rhode Island.....

[RhinoinMN]

I think you might be part of the problem....Rhino got mad at me when I was looking up airline prices for a solo flight to Rhode Island.....

Wrong. I only get mad when drjoek tags your threads.

[drjoek]

Wrong. I only get mad when drjoek tags your threads.


Who Me?
:innocent:
Err ah. What are tags?

[Sue_Bender]

Sensitive niceguy>shoulder to cry on> beachhouse»SCORE!!


Ewwwww...





drjoecreep. :huh:

[Farmer Dave]

9 years in is a good long run and often a time when things can get rough Relationships change as you both mature. The key to a good relationship is to deal with issues as they come up. Maybe its his internet use or maybe that's the trigger that upsets you when its actually something else that's bothering you. We all go through rough times in a marriage and it isn't easy when you've got young kids. Keep talking to Ryan about the things that need attention. You seem to handle stuff with a great sense of humor here and that is an asset in dealling with marriage and the challenges.
If all else fails you can always hook up with me.
:wub:
Have I mentioned my beachhouse in RI?

Without regard to his last statement, the rest is solid. It seems to me the husband/wife relation ship changes with every kid, job change, or season for that matter. Not to sound flippant, but I'm thinking you are going to be fine together for a long time to come.

[Tall_James]

solo flight to Rhode Island.....

I think only crop dusters and Cessnas fly into Rhode Island. The airport has a runway made up of crushed seashells and Narragansett Ale cans.

[red_red_red]

I have to confess that I have been making my husband's life miserable. I don't do this on purpose. I feel really bad because he said he is not going to post here anymore. All I told him is that he is on the Internet 24/7, so now he is pissed about that and some other things.

What should I do? This board is full of men....give me some advice. Apparently I am too nagging and call him too much. How can I make this guy happy and be an awesome wife?
did he need a parent? seriously, a grown man needs a partner, not a parent.

[Kris10]

sounds like your craving partner attention. he's craving "me time".

it's very difficult being a stay-at-home parent and i'll be the first to admit i couldn't do it. i had my daughter in daycare at 3 mths old because i was going out of my mind without the adult interaction. when my ex husband came home i wanted to talk about everything and anything! i wanted to know all about his day at work from what he did in the field to how all his lower ranking Marines were.

biggirl, do you do anything outside of the house for yourself? you seem very dedicated to your family, which is wonderful! i think you should do something during the week for yourself to occupy his "me time" and on the weekends spend it together, no internet.

[Fez4PrezN2008]

I have to say not sure how crazy I'd be if my chick started posting on dot net. Not that I have anything to hide its just kind of "my" thing. Maybe couple teams can work out though. If he's mad, he'll get over it in an hour.

[Grim Tim]

I dont want you to take this the wrong way, but I dont see how that makes you a good girlfriend. I assume you arent into the Death/Black metal concerts, I would bet he would rather just go with his friends then. He will never actually tell you that because he doesnt want to hurt your feelings but speaking from experience, Id say its the truth.

I actually have a healthy and honest relationship with my girlfriend [read: GrlNIN], and if any scruples about her presence existed, they'd be made known. In fact, she has been very preemptive about making sure I have enough "guy-time" (example: Belphegor, Ensiferum, & Amon Amarth in NYC).

The truth is, I genuinely enjoy her company when among my friends, and concerts are more an excuse to laugh ourselves to tears at the sad-ass obese vomit-hags and the eunuch creeplings that attend these shows before arriving at a diner or a bar to laugh about it over a beer and some mozzarella sticks. The bands are a bonus.

[Death Metal Moe]

I actually have a healthy and honest relationship with my girlfriend [read: GrlNIN], and if any scruples about her presence existed, they'd be made known. In fact, she has been very preemptive about making sure I have enough "guy-time" (example: Belphegor, Ensiferum, & Amon Amarth in NYC).

The truth is, I genuinely enjoy her company when among my friends, and concerts are more an excuse to laugh ourselves to tears at the sad-ass obese vomit-hags and the eunuch creeplings that attend these shows before arriving at a diner or a bar to laugh about it over a beer and some mozzarella sticks. The bands are a bonus.

But.....they're creepy and evil! Come on man, sell your soul to Satan and jump on board.

Yea, the audience at some of these things can be a form of entertainment in and of themselves.

[Grim Tim]

The face-painters are always what make me laugh hardest.

Thirteen-year-olds trying to be menacing wearing dollar store makeup. It's hard to take a style of music seriously when its fans gussy themselves up to look like fresh afterbirth.

[biggirl]

sounds like your craving partner attention. he's craving "me time".

biggirl, do you do anything outside of the house for yourself? you seem very dedicated to your family, which is wonderful! i think you should do something during the week for yourself to occupy his "me time" and on the weekends spend it together, no internet.

That is exactly it...he wants "me time" and I want "together time". I used to be so busy that I was gone most every week night and Rhino was watching our oldest. I was involved in a lot of different things. Once I had Greta I kind of stopped going anywhere or doing anything. She is such a mama's girl. I hate being w/o her too.

I think I have gotten just too dependent which is pretty unattractive. I am thinking about getting a job, you know maybe work a couple of nights some where.

Summer weekends we are camping down in a valley where there is no phone reception or internet connection, but now our campground has wi-fi and Rhino has one of those fancy phones....

[MC Pee Pants]

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[biggirl]

I have to say not sure how crazy I'd be if my chick started posting on dot net. Not that I have anything to hide its just kind of "my" thing. Maybe couple teams can work out though. If he's mad, he'll get over it in an hour.

At first I thought I was intruding, but he has told me a number of times that he likes it that I post here so we have something more to talk about than just kids, work, etc...

He has his own things like softball with the guys every week. Once in a great while I will bring the kids down to the fields and watch the game, but I wouldn't call that intruding. He goes to the bar before hand and all that with the guys.

We have a pretty open relationship meaning we tell each other everything (that I am aware of). We have a lot of trust in each other.

[Fez4PrezN2008]

At first I thought I was intruding, but he has told me a number of times that he likes it that I post here so we have something more to talk about than just kids, work, etc...

He has his own things like softball with the guys every week. Once in a great while I will bring the kids down to the fields and watch the game, but I wouldn't call that intruding. He goes to the bar before hand and all that with the guys.

We have a pretty open relationship meaning we tell each other everything (that I am aware of). We have a lot of trust in each other.
Maybe you guys just need a weekend get-away for just the two of you. Send the kiddos to Gramma and make some surprise arrangements for a weekend trip to somewhere you haven't been before.

[biggirl]

Maybe you guys just need a weekend get-away for just the two of you. Send the kiddos to Gramma and make some surprise arrangements for a weekend trip to somewhere you haven't been before.

great idea, except we left the kids at grandma's on our 5 day trip to NYC. They are still recovering! My sister is taking them overnight next week while we attend the Eric Clapton/Steve Winwood concert! I am so excited!!

[Sue_Bender]

Lock It Up!!

[Denise Dean]

Dear Big Girl,

I think I fully understand your situation. What I think you should do is develop some hobbies of your own. Take 1 night per week, and leave the husband home with the kids. Go do whatever you want: Join a club, or a fitness class at your local YMCA.

Having your own time is very, very important. There are 3 people in every marriage; the husband, the wife, and the couple. Never lose your idendity.

I hope everything works out for you.


Best Regards,

Denise.

[ralphbxny]

Three Words-

BACK DOOR ACTION!!

[Kris10]

That is exactly it...he wants "me time" and I want "together time". I used to be so busy that I was gone most every week night and Rhino was watching our oldest. I was involved in a lot of different things. Once I had Greta I kind of stopped going anywhere or doing anything. She is such a mama's girl. I hate being w/o her too.

I think I have gotten just too dependent which is pretty unattractive. I am thinking about getting a job, you know maybe work a couple of nights some where.

Summer weekends we are camping down in a valley where there is no phone reception or internet connection, but now our campground has wi-fi and Rhino has one of those fancy phones....

I don't know about too dependent, I just think you are just bored in a sense....you don't have much going on outside of the kids and when he is home it's YAY Adult Time! He just wants to unwind after work, but he's not meaning to push you away.. he just needs time to relax a bit.

How often do you go camping where this wi-fi access is???