If your boy likes pink....

[sr71blackbird]

A guy where I work was telling us he needs to get his 7 year old a camera for Christmas, and he wants a camera that is pink colored.
Someone asked why the camera needs to be pink and he said that that is his sins favorite color and that he is exhibiting certain characteristics..
He saw that after that statement everyone was quiet, and he explained that they ate letting nature take it's course.

If you saw that your child was exhibiting such tendencies, would you be bothered by it? Would you seek a way to steer them in another direction?
Some behaviors you tolerate, while others you do not, right? What would you do?

[weekapaugjz]

i personally think that guy is doing the best possible thing for his kid by supporting what he likes and not trying to change his son which could lead to much worse identity problems in the future.

[britneypablo]

A guy where I work was telling us he needs to get his 7 year old a camera for Christmas, and he wants a camera that is pink colored.
Someone asked why the camera needs to be pink and he said that that is his sins favorite color and that he is exhibiting certain characteristics..
He saw that after that statement everyone was quiet, and he explained that they ate letting nature take it's course.

If you saw that your child was exhibiting such tendencies, would you be bothered by it? Would you seek a way to steer them in another direction?
Some behaviors you tolerate, while others you do not, right? What would you do?

<font color="deeppink"> man i struggle with this....bc i always think what about what i would do, but then i dunno if id follow through with my own beliefs or not....but hypothetically id have pushed manliness on my child since day one and would hope they dont end up as a fag...but if they do that wouldnt change anything for me...i would just be trying to give them the best chance of the most opportunities and choices by presenting a mainstream way of life since day one ......

but i dont have kids...so i could also just be a moron

[KC2OSO]

<font color="deeppink">
but i don't have kids...
right

[SatCam]

personally i would buy the kid the camera but also give him a few other gifts like a baseball glove, muscle shirts and porn so he's only like a half faggot and doesnt bring the max amount of shame to my family

[Suspect Chin]

Remember what they did to the little kid that didn't fit in at the beginning of 300?

[opie's twisted balls]

What would you do?
Buy the kid the pink camera, hell buy the kid pink everything. Then make sure he has an oppressive mother. Have your friend find the funniest kid in his son's class and plant the seeds for a life long friendship between the two. It will set his boy up for success (and radio gold).

http://i45.tinypic.com/14j3ymb.jpg

[Suspect Chin]

Buy the kid the pink camera, hell buy the kid pink everything. Then make sure he has an oppressive mother. Have your friend find the funniest kid in his son's class and plant the seeds for a life long friendship between the two. It will set his boy up for success (and radio gold).

http://i45.tinypic.com/14j3ymb.jpg

Hilarious!

[landarch]

personally i would buy the kid the camera but also give him a few other gifts like a baseball glove, muscle shirts and porn so he's only like a half faggot and doesnt bring the max amount of shame to my family

Seems to me that the porn and muscle shirts would only enable him. Hell, even the baseball glove makes him a catcher....

[sailor]

It's a color. Relax.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

unless the camera matches his toenails I wouldn't worry yet... he may just like pink stuff now and man up later...

[~Katja~]

It's a color. Relax.
I don't know... Marc wears pink... it's a scary thought

[Chigworthy]

Next thing you know, the little bastard will be gelling his hair for 25 minutes and hitting the tanning bed every few days.

[A.J.]

He's straight. Technically.

http://images.askmen.com/galleries/singer/pink/pictures/pink-picture-1.jpg

[sr71blackbird]

I will throw this out there just to see what the masses say, but let's say your kid likes drawing with crayon on your walls, if you suggest he stops, are you also inhibiting his expression and he will resent it later on? Is the roll of a parent to steer their child in a certain direction that YOU agree with or is it wrong to steer them in a direction the child seems naturally drawn to? Say your kid has a fascination with matches or seems to get joy out of harming animals.. Somethings seem like its wrong to steer them away from, while others are not.
I'm not openly suggesting a correlation between liking pink things and harming animals, I am using it as an example.

[underdog]

I will throw this out there just to see what the masses say, but let's say your kid likes drawing with crayon on your walls, if you suggest he stops, are you also inhibiting his expression and he will resent it later on? Is the roll of a parent to steer their child in a certain direction that YOU agree with or is it wrong to steer them in a direction the child seems naturally drawn to? Say your kid has a fascination with matches or seems to get joy out of harming animals.. Somethings seem like its wrong to steer them away from, while others are not.

If your kid starts drawing on the walls, you don't make him start playing football. You just direct his drawing towards paper and not drywall.

[RhinoinMN]

I don't know... Marc wears pink... it's a scary thought

So does mexi.:help:

[RhinoinMN]

Give the kid the pink camera and tell him to go take pictures of chics.....and their tits.

[biggestmexi]

So does mexi.:help:

SRSLY?

[sr71blackbird]

Right, but you are making them change their tendencies.

[mikeyboy]

Right, but you are making them change their tendencies.

So does toilet training. I don't see your point.

[Jujubees2]

Right, but you are making them change their tendencies.

Yes, you change tendencies that cause harm to others or to property. But buying the kid a pink camera hurts no one.

[JPMNICK]

get the kid whatever he wants as long as it is safe. maybe he wants a pink camera cause a girl he has a crush on talked about liking it and he wants to show it off to her.

if not, he is gay. not buying him the pink camera is not going to change that fact. at least show him that you are accepting of it from an early age so he does not wind up fucked up later in life and afraid to come out of the closet

[Ritalin]

You think, hypothetically, that letting a boy have a pink camera is worse for him than having you for a father?

huh.

[RhinoinMN]

You think, hypothetically, that letting a boy have a pink camera is worse for him than having you for a father?

huh.




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[Willmore]

http://img13.imageshack.us/img13/9526/liberacet.jpg

[sr71blackbird]

All I was saying was halting one tendency (fascination with fire) or another (drawing on walls) is just as dstructive to a boys ego as not giving into their desires for a pink camera.

[topless_mike]

Is the roll of a parent to steer their child in a certain direction that YOU agree with or is it wrong to steer them in a direction the child seems naturally drawn to?

neither. as a parent, you expose them to certain things because you believe that they are the right thing to do. you also let the kid explore on his own and support what he is drawn to.

example. expose him to sports. he's into sports, but not baseball like you are. he likes soccer, or tennis.
thats fine. maybe not what you wanted, but at least you have found something that they are into.

i hope my son becomes a bass player. he's exhibiting musical interest and characteristics already. if he decides he wants to play piano, or drums, or whatever, i'm cool with that.

could just be a phase he's going through. like nick said, maybe there is a certain girl that has caught his attention, either likes or friends, and he wants to have certain things in common. then again, maybe he just likes the color pink. i like pink. does that make me gay?

[mikeyboy]

All I was saying was halting one tendency (fascination with fire) or another (drawing on walls) is just as dstructive to a boys ego as not giving into their desires for a pink camera.

...and you know this how? I'd like to see the research you used in publishing your study.

[sr71blackbird]

Common sence would say that if restricting an aspect of a childs interest causes issues, it can only be assumed that all restrictions cause issues. No research study needed.

[sr71blackbird]

I'm just following the logic here. If you tell your kid no cookies before dinner, then you are hindering their urges, right? As a parent, you know that they will rather eat cookies than nutritious food. So you make the rule that some things are halted for their own benefit, even if it upsets them.

[TripleSkeet]

If you saw that your child was exhibiting such tendencies, would you be bothered by it? Would you seek a way to steer them in another direction?
Some behaviors you tolerate, while others you do not, right? What would you do?

It would definitely bother me, but Id never let my son know it. Id just want to make sure he knows that Id accept whatever he wanted to do, even if it bothered the hell out of me.

[ANC]

...... oh I thought you meant if he likes "the" pink... :blink:

[disneyspy]

...... oh I thought you meant if he likes "the" pink... :blink:

once he goes pink,he'll never go stink

[mikeyboy]

Common sence would say that if restricting an aspect of a childs interest causes issues, it can only be assumed that all restrictions cause issues. No research study needed.

Yeah, but you're saying that all restrictions are equal, which is a ludicrous oversimplification of development and the human brain.

[Hottub]

I'm just following the logic here. If you tell your kid no cookies before dinner, then you are hindering their urges, right? As a parent, you know that they will rather eat cookies than nutritious food. So you make the rule that some things are halted for their own benefit, even if it upsets them.

Huh?
The urge is still there. They just do not have permission to eat the cookie. If I said "OK, I changed my mind" my kids would eat the cookies without thinking twice.

Or as they get older say," yeah dad, you're right. I don't want to ruin my appetite for dinner. I see your point". Now they are making their own decisions based on what they have been taught.

This goes for most of the things we teach our kids. Tell them what you have learned and hope they make the right choices.

And my kid wore a blouse for Halloween. I somehow don't think there is a direct correlation between that and sucking cock.

[TripleSkeet]

And my kid wore a blouse for Halloween. I somehow don't think there is a direct correlation between that and sucking cock.

It wasnt just the camera. The guy said his son was showing "the tendencies". So I doubt its an overreaction. At that age alot of times you can tell a kid thats gonna grow up to be gay.

[Suspect Chin]

How could a 7 year old possibly know that pink is associated with being gay?

It seems to me that liking pink is more associated with being 'girly', which is then taken to the conclusion that 'girly' will eventually become 'gay'.

[NateCantDance]

Common sence would say that if restricting an aspect of a childs interest causes issues, it can only be assumed that all restrictions cause issues. No research study needed.

:lol::lol::lol:

[ecobag2]

I'd try to steer him into a more mainstream life myself.

There's a point you don't try anymore though.

I don't think I'd ever shame him either.

[Annie Waits]

make him and his family watch this movie

http://layoder.files.wordpress.com/2008/11/ma-vie-en-rose.jpg

[jauble]

Someone asked why the camera needs to be pink and he said that that is his sins favorite color

Freud wants to have a conversation about this one.

If the kid turns out gay, then he is gay. Giving him something that is one color or the other will not make or break that situation. My question is who gives a 7 year old a camera?

[~Katja~]

Freud wants to have a conversation about this one.

If the kid turns out gay, then he is gay. Giving him something that is one color or the other will not make or break that situation. My question is who gives a 7 year old a camera?
I know, my son is getting his camera at 5, so he stops taking mine all the time

[jauble]

I know, my son is getting his camera at 5, so he stops taking mine all the time

Well you are a photographer so that makes some sense.

[ecobag2]

make him and his family watch this movie

http://layoder.files.wordpress.com/2008/11/ma-vie-en-rose.jpg

Clockwork Orange style?

[~Katja~]

Well you are a photographer so that makes some sense.
well they do sell those toddler cameras from fisher price but they are crappy and expensive

[SatCam]

I was going to argue against this ludicrous idea but then I remember when i was 4 or 5 I liked to try on my mom's lipstick and now i cant stop sucking cock. watch out folks, nobody wants a fag kid.

[biggirl]

I would not let my son have a pink camera. I'd tell him that's for girls...he has to have the blue one. I am not going to have a gay in my family.

[weekapaugjz]

I would not let my son have a pink camera. I'd tell him that's for girls...he has to have the blue one. I am not going to have a gay in my family.

if your son was indeed gay, buying him a blue camera would not change that.

[biggirl]

if your son was indeed gay, buying him a blue camera would not change that.

my son IS NOT GAY!! He won't be either. I already promised myself.

[~Katja~]

if your son was indeed gay, buying him a blue camera would not change that.
he already gets it from his father anyway... it's not like he hasn't noticed the forbidden love between him and uncle John

[biggirl]

My husband IS NOT GAY!! He told me John forced him.

[~Katja~]

My husband IS NOT GAY!! He told me John forced him.
oh man, I am sorry, don't you wish he had dick cheese now :unsure:

[weekapaugjz]

my son IS NOT GAY!! He won't be either. I already promised myself.

i'm not implying that he is. if he is or not is not up to you or anyone for that matter except for that individual him/herself.

[midwestjeff]

him and uncle John

The first days are the hardest days, don't you worry anymore....

[weekapaugjz]

The first days are the hardest days, don't you worry anymore....

:clap:

[Chigworthy]

oh man, I am sorry, don't you wish he had dick cheese now :unsure:

Or dickpepper.

[midwestjeff]

:clap:

I knew you'd like that.

Merry Christmas.

I was working on a Bills Super Bowl win for you,
but it may not work out this year. Soon.