I want to move away

[SatCam]

I want to move far away from here to somewhere across the country and start new. Has anyone thought of or tried doing this?

[A.J.]

The day I left CT for college.

[Tenbatsuzen]

I want to move far away from here to somewhere across the country and start new. Has anyone thought of or tried doing this?

I thought about it. I still do. If something catastrophic happened to either my or Liz's career, we'd give it serious consideration. Too expensive to live in Jersey.

[Jujubees2]

The day I left CT for college.

What he said. I went from RI to southern California for college! Loved every minute

[SatCam]

The two hurdles I face are making money and the expense of moving. I dont really have a great looking resume so Im really banking on moving through the ranks where I work to get experience/get the paycheck I deserve. So if I move I basically risk losing everything Ive worked for over the years if I move. My company is located throughout the country but I dont think transferring at my position is all too easy. Plus even if I can stay with the company, I lose all the work connections and references I have here in CT.

Also the expense of moving across the country is really going to cut into my savings. I imagine there's a huge difference in the cost of moving across town versus moving across country.

So I'm torn. Do I take the calculated approach of waiting for my next promotion, then start asking about a transfer at the expense of my sanity? Or do I just go with my gut and get the hell out of here and worry about the details later?

[Jujubees2]

The two hurdles I face are making money and the expense of moving. I dont really have a great looking resume so Im really banking on moving through the ranks where I work to get experience/get the paycheck I deserve. So if I move I basically risk losing everything Ive worked for over the years if I move. My company is located throughout the country but I dont think transferring at my position is all too easy. Plus even if I can stay with the company, I lose all the work connections and references I have here in CT.

Also the expense of moving across the country is really going to cut into my savings. I imagine there's a huge difference in the cost of moving across town versus moving across country.

So I'm torn. Do I take the calculated approach of waiting for my next promotion, then start asking about a transfer at the expense of my sanity? Or do I just go with my gut and get the hell out of here and worry about the details later?

Can you start looking for a job in another part of the country before you move? When I got married my wife and I moved to Northern Virginia (since she already had a job lined up there). I was living on Long Island but would get the Sunday Washington Post every week and started applying for jobs six months before we moved. I ended up getting a job just before we moved down there.

[JohnGacysCrawlSpace]

I gotta escape from NJ before I go insane.

[A.J.]

You might want to start to get an idea for types of jobs that are out there by searching the websites of local newspapers in cities that you may be interested in moving to.

When I got out of college, it was the pre-interwebz era. I was unemployed and had to move back to my parents' house in CT to save some coin. I used to go down to this newsstand in New Haven that got papers from all over the country just so I could pick up a Sunday Washington Post that had job/housing listings. Being able to do it online (see here for example (http://www.washingtonpost.com/wl/jobs/JS_JobSearch)) would have saved me a lot of time and money.

EDIT: Jujubees beat me to it!

[SatCam]

Can you start looking for a job in another part of the country before you move? When I got married my wife and I moved to Northern Virginia (since she already had a job lined up there). I was living on Long Island but would get the Sunday Washington Post every week and started applying for jobs six months before we moved. I ended up getting a job just before we moved down there.

Before taking that approach I think I would see if I could move within my company. Like I said, my resume isn't that great looking. I didn't go to college. I have a lot of credibility and momentum behind me within the company but that doesnt exactly translate well onto paper.

[grlNIN]

If you really want to move then i would say to try and wait it out until after you've received the promotion, saved a little more cash and have prospects and living arrangements lined up. Do you have any friends that are looking to leave CT? If you have a friend that also wants to move it could cut the cost of moving and living in half for you, especially if you're moving somewhere where the cost of living is lower than CT to begin with.

Waiting your current job/financial situation out is going to be worth it, even though the desire to get out of CT could seem really overwhelming to you right now. The wait will be worth it when you finally leave and don't have to worry about self-sufficiency.

[Furtherman]

I just picked up and moved one day. Not across the country, but far enough to start an entire new life. No regrets.

[SatCam]

If you really want to move then i would say to try and wait it out until after you've received the promotion, saved a little more cash and have prospects and living arrangements lined up. Do you have any friends that are looking to leave CT? If you have a friend that also wants to move it could cut the cost of moving and living in half for you, especially if you're moving somewhere where the cost of living is lower than CT to begin with.

Waiting your current job/financial situation out is going to be worth it, even though the desire to get out of CT could seem really overwhelming to you right now. The wait will be worth it when you finally leave and don't have to worry about self-sufficiency.

You are right. On my bad days Id disagree and think just getting away asap is more important, but I know I would regret it later. I am hoping the whole job thing will come thru soon, its more of a "when" then an "if" as I do the job already, its just they wont give me the title/pay because of a hiring freeze.

I also have to finish paying off my car these next few months, plus the pay off backlog of medical bills that I got hit with this year that basically destroyed any chance of me saving money. Now that it is the new year I upped my insurance plan and have my health issues somewhat under control.


As far as moving with friends goes, I wish I had a close enough friend I could pull that off with, but everyone I know is still dependant on their parents and in high school or college and not ready to part with this part of their life. Plus I just want to leave everything I have here and keep only the few possessions I have. Not that I wont miss the people I have met here or my family, but I think the benefits of starting new for me would outweigh the benefits of staying here.

[Penelope]

Yeah, I've done it, a few times. I left the east coast for the southern California. But I kept having to come back to east coast to visit my family. Then I moved back to the east coast. Now I'm going back to live in California soon. God, my life is messed up. I love California, but so many of the people I love are on the east coast. Southern California people are mostly shallow, and carbon copies of the same dull bleached blonde person over and over. California has all the great weather, cool sea animals, and dispensaries though. It's so hard to decide, do I want to be around those awful southern California people to experience the good things about California? I can not keep going back and forth like this.

[grlNIN]

What about Northern Cali? Still has all the great sea life and i think the people there are more low-key and of the artistic type. My Aunt & Uncle just moved/retired to Los Altos and are really happy but advise that the economy there is for shit (which doesn't affect them since theyre rich but whatever). I was looking into grad schools in Northern Cali but i doubt that will pan out since the school systems there are dirt and my boyfriend is going to be teaching.

SatCam, on the same note this might be advantageous for you (not specifically Northern Cali but collegiate areas) to maybe look for apartments in college towns since the rent is cheap and people are always looking for roommates.

[lleeder]

My wife watches alot of those buying a house tv shows. Its amazing what some states have to offer for like under 200k. I always imagine moving there but I'm sure there are no jobs.

[Penelope]

What about Northern Cali? Still has all the great sea life and i think the people there are more low-key and of the artistic type. My Aunt & Uncle just moved/retired to Los Altos and are really happy but advise that the economy there is for shit (which doesn't affect them since theyre rich but whatever). I was looking into grad schools in Northern Cali but i doubt that will pan out since the school systems there are dirt and my boyfriend is going to be teaching.


Northern California is heaven. I've visited a few times and was overwhelmed by the beauty. The gorgeous and breathtaking redwood trees, the otters, all the cool artsy and creative type people. I may very well end up living there eventually. I keep heading back to southern California because there's a guy there that I'm in love with. I keep trying to live with him, but he's sort of crazy, so I leave occasionally. I never get him out of head though. The weather in southern California is nicer, but I'd trade that for all northern California has to offer. If I can ever fall out of love with this guy I'm going to northern California for sure. There are amazing schools up there too. Lots of schools that specialize in my area of study, marine biology.

[Dirtbag]

I've wanted to do this for at least five years, probably longer, but I have no money and no skills. So I'm stuck here until I can gather the courage to kill myself.

[SatCam]

SatCam, on the same note this might be advantageous for you (not specifically Northern Cali but collegiate areas) to maybe look for apartments in college towns since the rent is cheap and people are always looking for roommates.

I have thought about it. I am undecided as to whether I want to surround myself with people my age or get as far away from them as possible.

I've wanted to do this for at least five years, probably longer, but I have no money and no skills. So I'm stuck here until I can gather the courage to kill myself.

I am thinking about moving to Arizona. Maybe we should swap lives

[smiler grogan]

If you are not tied down by kids or family then i would say plan it out and do it. Their is no rule saying you cannot move back. This could be an opportunity to start a whole new life and thats a very exciting proposition.

[TheGameHHH]

I want to move far away from here to somewhere across the country and start new. Has anyone thought of or tried doing this?

i did it for a few years, it was awesome

[TheHalloweenGoddess]

My entire NY born family moved to North Carolina in one summer. So there is no one up there to visit. Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles...everyone. It was the best thing to do, getting away from the cost of living of the North. But none of them had drivers licenses because of public transportation in NYC, so everyone had that added expense. Up there we were renters scraping by and once in the South we became homeowners of an acre or more. It was a good thing.

But you will miss the food if you move too far away from ethnicity.

[nate1000]

I want to move far away from here to somewhere across the country and start new. Has anyone thought of or tried doing this?

My father-in-law is divorcing his second wife. He is moving in with us tonight to get away from the screeching harpy.

I've thought about nothing else all day. :drunk:

[cougarjake13]

I want to move far away from here to somewhere across the country and start new. Has anyone thought of or tried doing this?

did it twice


from new york to chicago

and again from new york to tampa


tried to go to san diego but was too expensive to live out there

[jax]

If you can't move right away could you maybe make some changes like taking a class or look into getting into something that interests you that you've always wanted to check out. It could bring a new perspective. Maybe meet new people or whatever. It could feel like starting fresh without all the stress and expense.